I am going on my first date in two years, do you have any advice/tips for me?

Question

To answer the most obvious question....because I am a work-aholic and a single mom.

We are members of the same club/organization. We are meeting for drinks. He is younger than I am. I have known him through certain circles for about three years. He is attractive, smart and funny. However I am very nervous, and when I get very nervous I have the tendency to have uncontrollable laughter. So, any advice or tips for me?

Warning: Any profanity or lewd comments I will report as necessary.

Answer 1

Try a breathing exercise or yoga or something to help you relax before you meet him...perhaps even a cocktail before he arrives (unless they make you giddy)...

It's normal to be nervous...it may well turn out he'll be one of those kinds of people who'll put you right at ease and you'll start chatting and look up and hours will have passed (don't you love those kinds of dates?)

You apparently dated before, so don't worry too much...it's not unfamiliar territory and things haven't really changed in the past couple of years or so...

Be yourself...you've always got your mutual membership in that club/organization as a conversation topic if things are slow to start...

Good luck!

Answer 2

You already know what your weak spot is, nervous laughter, before you go on this date, go to your local health club, get a good work out, it will reduce the stress, then go out to your local beauty salon and relax through a massage or facial, then go home dress and go on your date, you will find you are calmer, more centered and not as nervous as before. This does not mean you should not laugh at his jokes or make some of your own, but just remember he liked the you from the past three years, don't change it drastically.

Answer 3

Be yourself! He obviously likes you or he wouldn't be going on a date with you...the hardest part over! Tell him you're feeling nervous ... I know this is usually a big no-no in the dating world but only if you go about it in an over dramatic way-something like 'I'm actually quite nervous' doesn't have the same catastrophic effect as 'I'm REALLY nervous' (as that implies your not comfortable with him)

try not to mention work to much either...unless you really enjoy it. Its always good to talk about something your passionate about..its really attractive.

and you know what if you do start laughing loads he'll probably find it cute! its better than sitting there with a face like a slapped ****! Good Luck! xx

Answer 4

Be Yourself. I know it's the common cliche, but sooner or later , YOURSELF will have to come out. As a single mom, you're doing great just to have a date. The whole "uncontrollable laughter" traits hasn't necessarily been condemned by the illustrious "Code of Dating"--don't worry about it. If you guys "click", let it come naturally.

Answer 5

i think that you shouldnt worry about anything, you are a grown woman and you should know by now that you are way better than that and there isnt really anything to be really insecure about. i think that you should just chill and have a good time. its not like its a test or a once in a lifetime opportunity! one tip is to do the listening (mostly) that way you dont seem to chatty and you can show him youre attentive. you shouldnt get nervous, if you were good enough for some man to make you his wife then you can deffinately go throught this date!

Answer 6

Good heavens--I have that uncontrollable laughter thing too. I used to laugh myself sore whenever my girlfriend would get mad at me for something.
Drinks are probably a good idea, since they may help you to relax. Keep breathing deeply too, for the same reason. Best of luck!

Answer 7

that must suck. uncrotrollable laughter is the most annoying thing in the world. i doubt that helped your nerves very much but you need to practice a few things that you might say on the date. you need to think of topics to talk about so that their is never any awkward silence. if you feel lke laughing (unless he makes a really funny joke) don't. i hope this helps and good luck

Answer 8

Just relax and imagine that this is not the first time that the two of you have gone out on a date; be natural, be yourself. Go with the flow of the evening.

Answer 9

My advice is to go to your nearest bookstore and purchase a book called "The Rules" by Ellen Fein and Sherrie Schneider. It's a great book and I guarantee you will like it. Good luck!! =)

Answer 10

Be yourself........act as you would when you go out with friends and if he's the guy for you he'll appreciate the fact that you didn't have to "put on airs" to try to impress him or give him a false sense of who you are.