For example, she tells me tell me her at Walmart but doesn't bother to tell me which one. She assumes I will know and seems to think I am a mind reader. If I am at fault, it would be because I have not been forceful enough.
2006-07-08 12:57:13 · 9 answers · asked by TheSkeptic 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is not a question of me controlling her or knowing every move she makes. I simply want to be in the same place at the same time. Marriage does not sound very promising if we cannot communicate well enough to manage that. Dating is hard enough under these conditions. It has been 8 full weeks since I have seen her. The reason seems to be a lack of communication. I may be overreacting, but I am tired of missing her because I am unable to read her mind or guess her intentions.
2006-07-08 14:46:42 · update #1
Doctor Doom, anytime you feel that things are not growing positively in a relationship...you have to both sit down and discuss what to do to make it better...now if you cannot, then where does that lead your relationship? Nowhere.
Hope this helps...and by the way, congralutions and being mature enough to want to communicate, wish there were more people like that in the world, so you should be very proud of yourself for wanting to try and knowing that is a need you will not compromise on, I can relate since I have a fiance with somewhat similar problem as your girlfriend, he won't call (for days sometimes) and that is why I did not marry him... we've had dry spells of no communication and so for now, I gave him the ring back...but I say if you really want to make it work, well, find out if she does and if she does, she has to put actions to it and put your needs first (since she's been neglecting you) don't think she should know or read your mind, oftentimes people with poor communication skills (like my fiance) are products of families like that...you have to talk to them, and you have to LISTEN really well to so you can undertand where they are coming from...if you try that first before giving up, then you have done all you could to make a go of it...Best wishes to you! :)
2006-07-08 15:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What difference does it make which walmart she goes to. I know this was just an example.. but I do think she should communicate with you.. on some level... however telling you which walmart is just a tad petty in my opinion. My husband is very controlling.. in the sense he thinks he must know every single move i make. Its frustrating, because I have not done anything to make him wonder etc.. I feel smothered.. untrusted.. and very controlled.. Sometimes to the point I want to end the marriage.. So.. advice from the other end.. I hope this helps you somewhat. If you love her.. just give her some space. You dont own her and neither does she own you. If you are so curious about where she goes and what she does.. do what I suggested to my husband.. go with me. Good Luck!
2006-07-08 20:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by Peanut Butter 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm... then you can just ask the question "which walmart" ! anyways, answer to your question is that .. yes, communication is very important in a relationship or it doesnt last long. if you dont want to break up with her, then you should talk to her calmly that you guys should communicate more and work harder to save the relation. oh and find out why she doesnt talk to you much and all .. maybe there's something missing, or maybe she is more comfortable with some other guy.
good luck to you
2006-07-08 20:06:38 · answer #3 · answered by questionsndanswers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, it is but first:
Express your concerns to the only person that can make a difference---your girlfriend. You both must make an effort to communicate--not just her. She might not understand your needs if you don't tell her. If you discuss it and things do not improve---then walk and find someone you can be happy with. Life is too short---DON'T WASTE IT.
2006-07-10 11:00:16 · answer #4 · answered by chong_crago 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, communication is a reason to break up. If I were you, I'd make sure I clarified everything that has to do with place and time. Then I'd clarify what's going on. Don't assume anything.
2006-07-08 20:01:37 · answer #5 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically..yes. Communication is the foundation of a long lasting loving relationship.
2006-07-08 20:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by tim b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try a book calle Men Re From Mars and Women Are From Venus
it's quite useful, whenever i feel depressed about my 20-year-older special friend
2006-07-12 21:07:46 · answer #7 · answered by WonderWonder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah it is...if you can talk to eachother then theres no way you can date...
2006-07-08 20:09:56 · answer #8 · answered by anglewicz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes thats why i broke up w/ all my bf's.......... well.... besides the fact they were losers
2006-07-19 16:39:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋