me and this guy have liked each other for four months now... he is the best guy ive ever met.. he is handsome and he is sooo good to me... he is also a christian which is even better... we both believe in not courting or dating until we are older tho... so technically we are still friends.. but i went to the movies with him and Ireached out to hold his hand... we both liked it so none of us were offended by it but... what should be my next move?... i cant do anything drastic but i want to do something to show him how much i care about him... i am a girl too?... does anyone have any ideas?
2006-07-08 12:49:26 · 19 answers · asked by jenna 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First - we kind of figured out you were a girl by first reading the question. That is OK. You are both Christians and therefore, you need to REMEMBER your morals. That isn't a problem either. The thing you need to remember what you said "we both enjoyed holding hands" and that is great.......just move slow - he'll call you. Just please keep in mind that you need to be careful. The FEELINGS you get when you truly care about someone can get you in a different situation -- more than you know - losing your virginity, etc. Be patient kiddo --- it will all work out for you. Although "life is short' and it really is (when you are 40 you will say to yourself "what the heck" because you will feel like you haven't lived that long and you will feel almost the same age as you are now ---- but you aren't. At the same time, you DO have time. If it is meant to be - it will happen. God loves you and you know that.....so you have no reason to think you are not a whole person if another one doesn't (although he probably does but has the same good beliefs you do --- which is wonderful for you). You have time and if he is "the one" -- that is the way it will be. You can't rush anything - especially, and including, LOVE. I am sure he is just as nervous as you are. Just remember this....respect yourself and your beliefs and you will SHINE. I hope it turns out well for you.
2006-07-08 12:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by butterfliesRfree 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't think too much about what you are going to do, just let it happen, it should be natural, but don't let instincts take over. Just be conscious in the situation, but don't have too much forethought to the situation because it seems more like a practiced routine at that point instead of natural responses to the situation, because it may vary, if that makes any sense.
2006-07-08 12:54:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old are you that you want to wait until you are older? For starters....also, next move, do whatver feels right....nothing wrong with getting to know someone....I knew a couple that all they did was talk for about a year before they actually dated and they are doing awesome....
2006-07-08 12:51:54 · answer #3 · answered by whymeallthetime 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am a guy, so maybe I can help you. If I think like him, which as far as I know, I do, (I am also a christian) I would like you to ask me on another date-type night out. Then I would probably try to kiss you. Hope I helped...
2006-07-08 12:53:47 · answer #4 · answered by homebouy69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all thts is really sweet.. its hard to find a gr8 guy and a gud relationship. newaz, so i think you shuld talk to the guy bout it, also be clear nd tell him how mux u care for him. also my ques is do u wanna start dating him ? if yes, thn it is the most imp to talk to him. if u only wanna show ur love, then hug him wen he needs you. listen to him wen he needs to talk to a friend. in other words, alwaz be there for him, wen the rest of the world walks out. i dunno if u culd give him a kiss wen he did somethin nice for you. also, spend time together. there's lots you could do. jus think of it as having a bf, but not touching, kissing n all tht. i hope it helps you and gud luck
2006-07-08 12:58:52 · answer #5 · answered by questionsndanswers 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are on the right track ,easy does it,and i see you having a longing real relationship . Maybe offer a good ole home cooked meal.that in its self is self explanatory.... thks e.s in arizona
2006-07-08 12:58:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
spend more time with him and wait for him to make the next move. If it takes too long then ask him what's going on.
2006-07-08 12:52:23 · answer #7 · answered by Venessa B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The next step may be a plain dinner date and really get to know him more, that's what I would do.
2006-07-08 12:59:09 · answer #8 · answered by jesse 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old r u? -thatz a big factor in appropriate moves. just dont go 2 far. he may change his beliefs wen he's older if yall r only like, less than 16.
2006-07-08 12:52:27 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to hold his hand but dont do anything else,wait for him to make the next move.you could tell him you like him very much
2006-07-08 12:53:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋