Is there anything wrong with living your life alone in a one bedroom apartment?

Question

I'm 29 years old and have had several girlfriends in the past, but whenever they are here too often, I feel crowded and need my space. I also just like spending time on my computer and watching TV and reading, all things that can be done in my apartment. I go out to meet girls, but once I have a girlfriend, I don't feel the need to go out much, and that's when they get fed up with me not wanting to do anything? What should I do?

Answer 1

I am 25 and do the exact same thing......girls cost too much anyway...lol rock on man your my idol. lol

Answer 2

There is absolutely NOTHING wrong with you or the way you live. You just haven't come across a lady who appreciates the fact that you are not a barhopper or streetrunner. It is all a matter of preferences.

I live by myself and I enjoy the fact that I can do what I want when I want in my own home. I also have a boyfriend, but guess what? He has his own home. So the both of us live similar lives, where we do get together two or three times a week after he gets off, go out on occasion(not much), and spend time apart as well. I see nothing wrong with that. You live in a one-bedroom apartment which seems to me is enough as well(the more rooms, the more to clean up). Maybe those girls need to scale their expectations down a little and look at who you really are: seems to me that the girls have a problem, not you. Good Luck

Answer 3

If you are happy being alone, and feel uncomfortable with a woman living with you, then by all means, you should live the way that makes you most comfortable. By the things you wrote about feeling crowded, and not wanting to do anything other than stay at home, makes me think you may be suffering from depression. Depression is really a very common problem that can be easily treated with medication and/or therapy. There is a lot more to life than living like a recluse. If you are only 29, this behavior does sound like clinical depression. I urge you to go to a doctor and explain how you feel, and he can determine if anything is wrong, and what action to take. Best wishes.

Answer 4

Do you notice at all that you have listed things you like to do? Do you also notice that you assign time to do each of them? Do you notice that you even assign time to go find a girl?

So you have assigned time in your life for all these things, what in heavens name happens when you get a girlfriend? Why are you not assigning time to this new part of your life as you have the others? Instead of feeling it is usurping your time with the past activities you need to re-prioritize and make sure that you shrink the rest of the priorities you have to add this new one and give it a priority of 1 because it is one that no matter what is a living breathing thing not a computer, book or a TV...which are inanimate objects...

Answer 5

Its your life. Live it as you choose. Nobody said you had to have a steady girlfriend to be happy. I can understand you needing your space. Some folks like to be somewhat of a loner than others. Either way its ok. Just be who you are and if being alone is what you enjoy most then do it. If finding someone who shares your interest in staying home.. then you will find her some day. Good Luck!

Answer 6

You are a homebody. Nothing wrong with that. Probably your best bet would be to join a book club (since you like to read) and maybe you'll meet a nice girl there, where you can live together happily in a spacious 2 bedroom (so she's not cramping your style) and be homebodies together.

I'm the same way. I love to be at home, and I live in a one bedroom all by my lonesome, and would have it no other way. I love the freedom of choosing when someone is around me.

I see nothing wrong with it at all. We all have our "things" and enjoying yourself by yourself is great!

I hope you can find someone to share with though. Cause what is life, if you can't share it?

Answer 7

are u hott? lol im such a homebody and need sooo much space , guys either smother me or i get freaked by commitment and run....lol anyway onto the advice..
its cool ur 29 you know by now what u want in life.....if marriage and family and children arent something u want........then you dont have to do it.......if u want to be a single man living alone for the rest of your life its cool......just hit the bars when u need some as$ i dnt see anything wrong with it........better than u getting married having a couple kids having a mid life crisis at 40 and dipping out on a family :)

Answer 8

Your question is there anything wrong with living in apartment alone, No.....not if you are comfortable with it yourself. Stop and think about it, you dont have to have a girlfriend just to go out maybe your not ready for that part yet just enjoy life have fun, when its time for that in your life you wont feel that way you will be comfortable with the "girlfriend" atmosphere......Good Luck

Answer 9

Are you happy? That is what matters.. IF not then you may need to talk to a doctor. You could be suffering depression or agoraphobia. But I would like to tell you that you are missing so much. There is life beyond your apartment door. And it is passing you by.. I might suggest getting a doggie, They are so much company and will get you up and out of the apartment at least for part of each day.. You need to go out in the sunshine, your body needs vitamin K and the only place to get it is from the sun.

I wish you all the best..

God bless & hugs from Texas..{:-)
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Answer 10

Doesn't sound like you can have it both ways. You should take the girls out once in awhile even if you don't "feel like it." If you want a girlfriend, you will have to entertain her. If you want to stay in, at least interact with her. Rent a movie or play a game with her. You can't have a relationship and only get together and do things on your terms. You have to listen to her, too.

Answer 11

Live alone for a while. Everyone needs "space." Dating can be good, but being alone and totally in control of the space around you can be enjoyable too.

I remember one of the joys of my first apartment was putting something in a drawer and knowing it would be there forever until I moved it. Its also nice to know whats in the fridge and not wondering if someone has eaten whatever that you were saving for yourself.