2006-07-08 12:30:39 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
If you raised with with these values he should already be in line with you on this, but as all children seek out to make their own decisions I would say tread carefully less you want to push him away.
2006-07-08 12:36:20 · answer #1 · answered by ldylili 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How old is your son? Being a Mom myself with a grown daughter, I have ways of saying things now without saying them if you know what I mean lol. My daughter is in her 30's and I have to let her live her life and make her own choices, but when she's doing things that I don't approve of, she usually knows by now. I guess I say if they're young we still can let them know what we think is right, but when they get older, it's their life, and their decisions are their responsibility, and they are responsible for them, does this make sense?
When the kids are home, this is when we have the chance to teach them right from wrong, when they leave, they are responsible for their decisions, but if they're young when they leave, they may still need some guidance. I think you'll know if you should say something or not. We parents have a fine line don't we? Sometimes we just need to love them anyway.
I hope some of this makes sense..............
2006-07-08 19:47:01 · answer #2 · answered by trainer53 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in that myself,but unless he is under age, there is really nothing that you can do about it. My own daughter is living with a guy that she is not married to as well, but she is of age. I don't mind a couple living together as long as they have already been married prior to this. I was married once before my self and after I got my divorce, I didn't marry again, but just lived with them.
2006-07-08 19:38:03 · answer #3 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes; but, be sure to be open to feedback. Also, be sure you've cleaned your back yard yourself or else it will come up.
I'm living with my fiancee right now; but we fully intend to get married and right before I was homeless. Now we share the bills. Many family members have told me how wrong I am for living with her under moral grounds forgetting that they let me live in danger on concrete for years struggling to make it of the streets without even an offer from family for assistance to get of. With the bible stating how someone refusal to assist family being worse than an infedele they didn't have a biblical leg to stand on. So; as I stated earlier, do iut in love and with an open mind.
2006-07-08 19:37:56 · answer #4 · answered by Crossroads Keeper 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No they are adults and know how to take care of themselves. They want to move in together to see if they can actually live without killing eachother if it's meant to be they will eventually tie the not. If you sit there and tell him you disapprove that will just make him want to do it more. If he is an adult he should be out on his own and not living at home.
2006-07-08 19:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by Small Lady 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No let them be . if they are both adults whats the harm in them living together.??? If you bring it up you're just looking for a fight and that will cus a rifted between you and your son. Would you want him to be mad at you and stop speaking to you?? if the answer is yes then go ahead yell at it..if the answers no..they let him make his own mistakes.
2006-07-08 19:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on how old he is. There comes a point where he has to make his own choices without parental influence. Regardless of raising. I'm a son who is currently facing this choice.
2006-07-08 19:35:59 · answer #7 · answered by Texas611 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. The best parenting allows one's children to develop into independent decision making adults. People have to be allowed to make choices for themselves whether you approve or not. It's part of the many life lessons that occur in maturing.
2006-07-08 19:36:04 · answer #8 · answered by jmjm2121 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In all the years he has been under your roof, your attitude towards such an arrangement has never been discussed? If he knows how you think about it, but he is still considering to move in with his girlfriend, then he must have already made up his mind as an adult with his own principles and beliefs (I'm assuming he is an adult).
2006-07-08 19:38:45 · answer #9 · answered by justmemimi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Are you jelous that he loves another woman? You can advise him, but do not butt in, you will only alienate him from you and cause resentment. Your best bet is to gently voice your concern. Ultimately it is his life. It's time to let the reigns go.
He will always love you mom, and he will love you more the more you trust him to live his life!
2006-07-08 19:35:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋