a yr ago, my grandson has been very disrectful and smart mouth when ever I ask him to pick up around the house. He is 9 and says things like, I'm not the maid, it's not my house. I've taken the keys to the 4 wheeler and have decided to sell both of them, because they would be fighting over the one I kept. Do you think I'm wrong?
2006-07-08 12:14:10 · 15 answers · asked by leo_galpalval 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
IF I KEEP ONE 4 WHEELER FOR THE OTHER CHILD-THERE WILL BE NOTHING BUT FIGHTING AND MANIPULATING FROM THE OTHER CHILD TO RIDE. HE'S GOOD AT TRICKING HIS SISTER. THEY LIVE WITH ME AND THEIR MOTHER-I WATCH THEM EVERYDAY WHILE SHE WORKS-THE FATHER HAS SIGNED AWAY RIGHTS AND DOES NOT SUPPORT THEM IN ANY WAY.
2006-07-10 06:49:19 · update #1
A very good question.
It seems to me that you as Grandparent are caught in a trap between the parents and the grandchildren. Discipline is a primary function of the parents and clearly they are performing this properly.
As Grandparent you are entitled to one thing from the Grandchildren and that is respect, which you clearly are not getting.
Personally I would ask the parents to meet their obligations and teach the children that they should not only respect the Grandparent but also their belongings and other peoples.
I would ask the parents to tell the children that THEY are taking the keys from the children and giving them to you and that you would most likely sell the 4 wheelers.
Keep the parents in charge of the children, do not release them from their obligations to parent their children!
You have done your parenting duties!
I hope that this is useful, it is a sincere appraisal.
2006-07-08 12:18:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GOOD FOR YOU! You are doing the right thing. Too many grandparents just spoil the grandchildren and leave the discipline to the parents. My husband and I have two boys, ages 10 and 11 who love to go to Grandma and Grandpa's house. The boys get spoiled a bit but the grandparents aren't afraid to lay down the law when necessary. Don't second guess yourself, you sound like a terrifc and smart Grandparent!
2006-07-08 19:37:22 · answer #2 · answered by Mollywobbles 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hes taking you all to the poorhouse. Ask him what the hell he thinks hes doing. Is he sinking into depression or dealing with middle age crisis or is he giving these away as gifts? Regardless, explore whether these are new actions or old and try to figure out why he has a "need" of these. If push comes to shove, start "save yourself" procedures and put money aside that he doesn't know about. because you're both going to be in a world of hurt. There's another thing to do, tell him you're spending money too, so he cant spend it and sees how hes making you feel, but put it away.
2016-03-26 21:57:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one grandchild is being ok its not fair to punish that one because the other is being disrespectfull and un helpfull around the house. I would keep both . BUT make rules for its use back talking no riding for two days! Doing chores then that day he can use it if he doesn't back talk. use it as a learning tool to teach good maners and for being helpfull around the house. Now is the time that children learn these habits that will last them a life time. Set them down and explain the new rulesand stick to your guns.
2006-07-08 17:25:01 · answer #4 · answered by cin_ann_43 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he would learn a better lesson if he had to watch his sibling having fun on their 4 wheeler. Selling both doesn't teach him a thing and only punishes the other child. Tell your son or daughter that he is not to speak to you in that manner and you would appreciate their help in correcting the problem.
2006-07-08 12:43:27 · answer #5 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, it's your home and your money. No-one lese has a right to it. Your grandkids have been brought up to be ill mannered, he's showing you no love or respect. Its sad. He sounds like a spoiled brat. Whats gone wrong that he turned out this way?
Unfortunately, if you're the only person in his life that has standards of respectful behaviour, its unlikely that he'll learn anything from you. Can you talk to his parents and sort something out? They're not doing him any favours.
2006-07-08 12:21:58 · answer #6 · answered by sarah c 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes your grandson should have something taken from him - by HIS parents not you, being a grandparent is supposed to be fun not back to discipling the children.
Also just because one grandchild has to have something taken away does not mean the "good" one does - that isn't a very good reward for behaving all the time is it? After all you will be then punishing the "good" one as well won't you?
2006-07-10 05:48:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like you have a plan. Just wondering why the other child should be punished? and ....................man, he would remember the lesson so much better if the other one was riding the four wheller and he didn't have one.
2006-07-08 12:29:12 · answer #8 · answered by heartwhisperer2000 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sell em
2006-07-08 12:19:25 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
can i have one i will clean up after myself. I think you should use some old fashion whip a ss
2006-07-08 12:18:27 · answer #10 · answered by scruett 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋