i have a servliance camera that records audio and video onto a vcr taype and i let it run one day in my owne home just to see if my boyfriend was cheating, and sure enough he was, well he blamed me for spying on him in his own home. i say i had the right to do it as he called her (and was saying a dirty things about sex to her) talking to her from inside my house, he says i was wronge in doing so and he wont be spyed on in his own home. #1 it is my home, and #2 he shouldnt have been doing it in the first place. I think he is mad because he got caught. what do u all think? was i wrong for bugging my own home??? we have been together for 6 years and this is not the first time, i knwo drop the dead beet.ias soon as i get an income i will. just want to knwo who is the wrong one here. thanks
2006-07-08 11:54:02 · 14 answers · asked by Sherry g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Nope...sure isn't wrong to spy on your guy.... he needs to know that you mean business.. dump him as soon as possible...he is scum
2006-07-08 11:59:12 · answer #1 · answered by Kristin M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are both wrong. Lack of communication causes so many problems in a relationship. It causes people to feel distant and that is a big reason people cheat.
You should of confronted him first. And he should of come to you with his grievances and tried to work things out before going off with some other girl. In any case, he wants out and doesn't have to balls to break up.
I'd let those other girls know what's up, if they want him they can have him, now he's their sack of BS to put up with. He'll probably realize months later that you were the best thing he had, but that's his problem not yours. Move on and find a real man!
2006-07-08 12:13:53 · answer #2 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Girl you have all the right in the world to do anything to see if your man is cheating i know i would, and after 6 years whats up with that, you should have left him the first time. he's a loser he should have been up front with you, WHAT A DOGGGGGGGG!!!!!!!!!!! And no it is not wrong when in doubt you do what you have to if the dog can't even be truthfull. Yea you had to find out the hard way, but he's just mad because he got busted.
2006-07-08 12:06:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Trust is a major part of a relationship ship, without it you really have nothing. You are both wrong; however, he more so for being disrespectful to your home. You have every right to know; however, when you make a move like that and you chose to bring it to his attention, his bags should have already been packed so you wouldn't have to wonder who was wrong and continue to live with the accusations, and blah, blah, blah. In othe words you really should have kept the weapon until you got a job and was ready to tell him you don't want or need his sorry behind.
2006-07-08 11:59:45 · answer #4 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, it is wrond that you had to do that. It seems like this relationship had come to it's end. Really, you weren't in the wrong. Of course he wants to push something off on you, because he's been caught red handed. It's like when you're a kid and you get caught shoplifting and you say your brother told you too. Did your brother shoplift? No, you did. Is it your fault he was cheating? No, it's his for getting caught. Good luck sweetie.
2006-07-08 12:06:01 · answer #5 · answered by Joe 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it is wrong that you went through all the trouble. Personally, if he can't make me feel secure in the relationship, then it's over, he would never make me happy. You will never buy another minute, day or week back, for all the money in the world you get older each day you give it to him. That is why a person's TIME is more valuable than their Love, more valuable than their money, more valuable than their life...because it is YOUR LIFE, and you are giving it away to someone who would just as well throw it down the toilet.
2006-07-08 12:00:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
never doubt your self girlfriend you was right right right. He just mad because he was playing you like a fool and you blew him out of the water. You have a right to look out for your self because if you don't do it who will? Get your **** together and when your in a good position split and don't look back because that MF will do it again, why? because his not sorry, just by him having the balls to turn the table on you tells me he is no good for you.
kick that MF to the kerb ha ha ha ha
2006-07-08 12:06:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are right and he doesn't care if you caught him. It is not the first time?... you deserve what is happening to you, and the faster you realize that, the faster you will get out of there or accept the situation. Your choice....
2006-07-08 12:03:29 · answer #8 · answered by class4 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you have to trust him. And smell his clothes if they smell like womens purfume then he is probably cheating or if there is lipstic on his collar or anywhere then he is probably cheating.
2006-07-08 11:59:43 · answer #9 · answered by Steph1490 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I think you are fine it was wrong for him to cheat on you
2006-07-08 11:56:23 · answer #10 · answered by rmr1979_01 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋