I've been with a guy for 5yrs. and he cheated with a ***** of another race. The woman is a supervisor and has been at this administration for over ten years. It's really hard because the three of us work in the same building. She's on the ground fl.I'm on the first fl.and he's on the second fl. I'm so tempted to confront this woman,but for what. I've already gotten on his *** about it. I can't believe this ****. It's been about a month since I found out and evert time that I think about it I get furious. I want revenge.
2006-07-08 11:48:28 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
5 years hes not intending to marry you so why are you so mad you need to move on he will not stop cheating hes probely has cheated more than once you just dont know it he may be seeing her and you revenge will only cause you your job its not worth it
2006-07-08 11:54:36 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
that sucks...i'm workin with my bf at the same place, i can't tell you how hard it is everyday for me...but my case is kindda different it's a long story and so sad...but if he cheated on you i just wanna ask you a question...that how you can stand goin to that place everyday knowin your man cheated on you and the gurl's workin on the ground floor and you're not saying anything? you really are so brave...what makes U so sure that he ain't gonna do that $... again? see i don't wanna ruin your relation with that guy but YOU HAVE TO take revenge no matter wut's gonna happen after that...just go right ahead and try to hook some of the guys who works at the same place and make sure that your man does know him...worst case cenareo he would want you to walk away and leave him alone...at the very least he's not the one who'll dump you...with that in mind he was the first one who cheated...if loved you he would never ever do that...good luck
2006-07-08 19:02:47 · answer #2 · answered by l0_o_some1else_o_0l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u want revenge against who? ur boyfriend? the woman he cheated with? does it bother u that he cheated or cause the woman is of another race? evidentally if u are still w/ ur bf a month later u must be ok w/ what he has done. at least thats what he should think since u havent broke up w/ him. you all been together for 5 years and he cheated. maybe there is something going on there that u need to focus on more than getting revenge.
2006-07-08 18:53:31 · answer #3 · answered by the_kid_doesnt_care 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What would revenge produce? It would produce 2.5 seconds of gratification and after wards you will find yourself feeling worse. To ''be the good-guy'' and to do the ''right thing'' will almost always seem illogical, tolerant, and will make you nauseous while you're "doing the right thing". After "doing the right thing", you will still continue to feel nauseous and furious, but guilt will not be mixed with these emotions. It's natural to feel wronged, screwed, ****** (whatever you want to call it) - but is it worth losing your job, your income, your car because you can't make a car payment, your auto insurance, your house/apartment, your food, your pets, your phone, your belongings, etc, etc, etc? If you take revenge, you might get yourself fired and/or it may blow up in your face - causing you to quit (to avoid further embarrassment and humiliation).
Is this man worth your sanity and/or your job (along with everything you stand to lose if you find yourself unemployed)?
2006-07-08 18:57:17 · answer #4 · answered by Grace777 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might not be the best time to be vindictive, it might just be a time for you and your partner to analyze you relationship...
Are you both still in love with one another?
Are you both still into each other?
Also, you must keep in mind; Will he commit this act again or was that just a one time thing?
Its up to you to believe what you want but a word of warning, whether you choose the road of vengeance or peace there will always be consequences.
2006-07-08 18:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by hikra17 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree find another job and get rid of him as well.
You can't change what happened.
Sounds like you need a fresh start in the job area and the man area...
Good luck
Its never a good idea to work with someone you are involved with, I know cause I did it too...
2006-07-08 18:53:34 · answer #6 · answered by Not a Daddys Girl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember it was not all her fault. He took part in the cheating too. If you can't completly accept that he made a mistake and let it go then move on either your job or the man.
2006-07-08 18:51:42 · answer #7 · answered by rascal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would beat her ***...then quit the job cuz u'll get fired anyways. If yer messing around with somebodies boyfriend u gotta expect that u'll get a good *** kicking. Then dump the loser.
2006-07-08 18:53:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have issues with racism and anger management.
It will consume you. Try to forget about. You'll probably hear alot of feedback with this question.
2006-07-08 18:53:32 · answer #9 · answered by Ahab 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel. i want revenge on my ex boyfriend too. i think if you just let it go and be the bigger preson and show him that you don't care (even though you do) he'll hate it. he wants you to care and i think thats the best revenge b/c he thinks you don't, at least for me. my ex thinks i hate him and it kills him.
2006-07-08 18:54:34 · answer #10 · answered by icechick83 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋