I am 18 years old and I just want to know if I have a problem. I have never had a boyfriend and I am not looking forward to having one.
The problem is not that I do not find guys attractive, because I do, I even imagine it a lot and I love to read romance novels. My problem is that when a guy is interested in me I cannot seem to run away fast enough. I avoid him like a plague. I see everybody around me with beautiful relationships and I get scared, I am afraid I would turn out like them.
I know that sound crazy, but that is how I feel.
2006-07-08 11:31:06 · 5 answers · asked by Joelle 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ok, you're obviously feeling a bit mixed up about boys and dating. However, I don't think you should view this as a terrible problem. Plenty of girls feel very confused about this subject. They feel nervous and shy - and also feel that they just might not get picked by anyone, or that they might make a mess of kissing someone, or that no one will find them attractive. Actually, the list of worries is endless!
What I think would be a good idea is for you to open up about your worries to an experienced, professional older person. Your email doesn't give me any clue about where you live, but wherever it is, you should be able to get some free helpful face-to-face counselling. Ring the Brook Helpline on 08000 185023. Someone on that line should be able to tell you where your nearest Brook Centre for Young People is. Please make an appointment with them.
Good luck.
2006-07-08 11:33:49 · answer #1 · answered by ¤Forever¤ 3 · 17⤊ 2⤋
Well obviously you have some relationship issues that you need to work though.
Why wouldn't you want to be happy? Are you worried about getting hurt? What is the source of that fear?
Talk it over with a really intuitive friend who well help you prod deeper into the issue, or seek a professional therapist with good recommendations to help you work through it.
And as always, don't get yourself into a relationship just because you think "it's the thing to do." If it feels right it does, if it doesn't it then it doesn't and be clear about it either way.
2006-07-08 18:45:45 · answer #2 · answered by Tomis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi..nice to see such a positive & careful girl in yahoo answer . i`m ramin , 23 , from iran .! about your problem i think you should pay attention to what makes you fear having boy friend. it can be a bad memory , the relationship in your family , .. you know we live by our memories , our thoughts , our imaginations . you should know that people are not the same. if you are careful about the guy you wanna choose , you can be so successful but beware ! most guys are so tricky & double-faced . first try to know them before saying anything about love and marriage or something. i keep my fingers crossed for you...if you agree this plz let me know ...take care darling...bye
2006-07-08 18:51:35 · answer #3 · answered by metallica r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ohmygawd..i am so like in ur situation..but the only diffrent thing is that im 17..hehk! meb one dae we wud find true love!
2006-07-09 09:47:00 · answer #4 · answered by ficklefatt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i'm 10.. i don't know alot about that yet but pick Ashley i didn't read hers tho but pick her 4 best answer!
2006-07-08 18:37:28 · answer #5 · answered by WoahitzMe 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋