potty training a mentally disabled child?

Question

My son is 4 years old, & is mentaly disabled, i have been trying to potty train him, but he will not use the toilet, he keeps using his pull-ups, i am expecting my third baby, he is the middle child, i really need to get him potty trained before the baby gets here which will be in december, does anyone have any advice ?

Answer 1

I work at a public school with Mentaly disabled chidren.
Thank God you are trying to do this yourself. Usually the parents excpect us to do this. withou the help of the parent this is tough.
But I am sorry to tell you that this is not going to be an easy task. This can take much more time than a normal child. You did not say the disability. Autistic, is usually harder than downs or other types of disability. In any case, I think that you should just use consistansty. be firm and consistant. It is so easy to use their disability to make excuses for them. But in the long run you will win out with firmness. God bless you for your patience!!!
How ever their has been some VERY disabeled children come through my hands in the passed 12 years that have never been potty trained. They go on from us to middle school still in diapers. So be prepared to think along those lines. like I said I do not know the nature of your childs disabilities.

Answer 2

My nephew has Autism, and I remember how hard it was for my sis to potty/BM train him. She finally successfully had him trained by the time he was six! They live out in the country, so the Dad would take him outside and showed him how to pee in the rocks. After a few times, my nephew thought that seemed fun, and would pee in the rocks. This went on for around a week, then they started peeing in a bucket outside for a couple of days, then they brought the bucket inside, then into the bathroom. Then they put the bucket in the toilet...then the bucket disappeared & he went in the toilet. Everytime he went where he was supposed to be got a reward. (from hotwheels to suckers). BM training was more difficult, but finally after talking with a professional...they began giving him small amounts of Chocolate laxitive. They timed how long it took from the time he took it until the time he had a BM in his pull up. After they could determine pretty accurate timing, they began sitting him on the toilet when the 4 hours past. The first time it took about 3 Barney books, but he finally went and they gave him all kinds of rewards. They only had to do the laxitive for about 5 days and he was trained. The Doc said it was perfectly safe for up to 4 weeks with the small amount they where giving him. Good luck.

Answer 3

My son has Down Syndrome, and it wasn't easy to potty train him. All I can tell you is to keep at it and not worry about a timeline. I understand your wanting to have him potty trained by the time the new baby comes, but don't stress if it doesn't happen, at least competely. Stress just makes it worse, on son and mom both. Hang in there and God bless you and your family.

Answer 4

Everyone gave such good suggestions, but you need to talk to your doctor...Keep a positive attitude towards it and don't yell at your son...
you may have to come to terms with the fact that it isn't going to happen when you want it to happen, but when he is ready for it.
Even though you have another child on the way, don't pressure your four year old into this...You may need to spend a little more time and effort on him with this for it to happen.
But be ready for the simple fact that he may still be in pull-ups when the baby is here.
I stopped using pull-ups with my three year old when he was two because they are too much like diapers so I put him in big boy underwear..he had many accidents but we got threw it.
The doctor knows more about your son and your situation, and may be able to help you in ways that we may not be able to.
good luck

Answer 5

Are you a mother who believes to always keep a child clad?Most mothers are as it is conidered socially unacceptable for children blundering about with nothing on.I have found this tendency in every household I visited. Without telling them in so many words this finding a nakes appearance of a child almost revolving perlocates to inside them though they may not know logic which is behind it. No matter even if the child is mentally retarded. In fact, the possibility of this almost forming a complex in their mind cannot be ruled out.Consequently, undresssing even for passing stool appears to them a gross violation of basic decency.Unless it is dictated by considertion such as cold we should not hasten to wrap up a child.In fact, a young,naked boney baby looks so nice. It was not for nothing that before Adam blundered in eating the fruit of the tree of knowledge he was unabashedly going about wearing only the clothes of the four directioins(Dic(g)Direction Ambar-Cloth)
We grown ups try to force down this guilty feeling of ours on the innocent children. When we were children there were no such complexes and we could move about even in the lanes in our natural state.

Now coming to your problem depending upon the age of this problem child of yours you must slowly habituate himself with staying in his birth suite.When there are occasions when putting on something is indicated do it in a relaxed way and not force it upon him. If you could do it the child may take it in his stride to put away the clothes on some occasions. He will rise over the complex. However, the time at your disposal is rather small. So don's delay it any longer. And bear this in mind when the new guest arrives.

Answer 6

You should find a treat that he likes, a favorite candy, or bubblegum and tell him he will only get it after he goes potty in the toilet. (don't give in to crying or begging or it won't work) let him know he will be rewarded for using the potty. (my mom and dad used gumballs for me)

This is the most effective method, along with positive reinforcement. even a developmentally challenged child can learn to use a potty.

Answer 7

See if you can recognize any indicator behaviors that he is about to pee and put him on the toilet when he does. Reward him when he pees in the toilet without getting his pants wet with lots of priase. Have a little celebration in the bathroom. You can start a star sticker board and put it in there. He gets a gold star for doing it right and he gets some reward after every 10 stars or something like that.

Answer 8

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Answer 9

You may need to consult a professional who works with disabled children who can either give you some pointers or come into your home and help.

Good Luck

Answer 10

well i would suggest professional help for him by him being disabled that seems like the only alternative. you say your expecting your third child you don't need any stress put on you. you can't be super woman seek some help and good and god bless you.