anyone know how 2help this.anything (legal) i can take.i work in a bar and i deal with so many people that sometimes i have to drink just to relax.it is so depressing to me that i feel i cant go out with my friends or be in places where i talk to people,because of my nervs.i am not a shy person,i have never taken drugs(i know if people have taken drugs they have nerve problems), i have the best boyfriend and he gets mad at me because i dont go places with him(sometimes),its so furstrating.can anyone else relate to me or tell me how to maby get over this? THANK YOU SO MUCH!!!
2006-07-08 10:55:06 · 13 answers · asked by miss fetch 2 in Health ➔ Other - Health
It may be hormonal.
The #1 hormone - because it can affect the production of all the other hormones - is insulin. Ask your doctor for a fasting insulin blood test . Ask for a copy of your results. 10 or higher is abnormal for an adult.
Also ask for a saliva test. This test will tell you if any of your feminine hormones are not at the best levels.
Your symptoms (all of them) could be related to low blood sugar. They sound quite like mine, the inability to relax around other people, the depression. You may want to check out www.hufa.org, and click on the symptoms link to check yourself out. The website also gives hints on diets to try, or food to eat to control a low blood sugar condition.
Best wishes.
2006-07-08 10:58:45 · answer #1 · answered by Pegasus90 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would visit a psychiatrist. There's no shame in this!!! I am on 2 antidepressants and I think Paxil addresses social anxiety. They have 1-2 others that do too.
Be careful of being put on an addictive med.
So meds, and a social anxiety program you can buy on line (I don't know of one), the one advertised on real late night TV is a bunch of tapes you can buy, and possibly hypnosis.
I have a slight case of this myself, and have another friend who has a bigger case. When she can, she smokes pot, when she can't afford that, she stays away from people.
you may have agorophobia too. Look these up WITH your boyfriend so he understands you are not just being antisocial.
If he thinks you are weird or is otherwise unsympathetic, MAKE him (if u can)) go to a psychologist and SEE it diagnosed as a problem, or show him a book on phobias or maybe the book psychiatrists diagnose from. Its something like the DVM or DSM. I found it at the library.
I would tell your boyfriend this is a time to show you he cares, and try to understand that people get diagnosed with things from the symptoms or fears you have. He has NO idea how strong your fear is!! There is really no way he could understand.
This girl I know decided not to meet me where we agreed to meet. She stayed home instead and called me as I was standing in the store waiting for her. Her call was 45 minutes late. I was very mad, even after she explained it, and I still find it annoying, but now I believe there is no way I can "get it" Plus I figure if she has a problem with such little things, it must be a huge thing for her to even go to work or drive or be outside her house. She struggles every day with what I deep down feel is ridiculous nonsense (as your boyfriend might feel), but I decided she's worth the B.S as I cruelly feel it to be deep down.
If we call headache pain real and can't see that, or fear public speaking which is irrational, maybe he can see that invisible things, and behaviors are medical, or psychobiology, which Is a career field. I hope he doesn't take his ideas from that idiot Tom Cruise. There ARE PROVEN things as chemical imbalances and they DO affect behavior.!
Bring a snake near him and see if he jumps. Before you do, tell him it doesn't bite, then drop it on him. Why the intense fear? I told you it doesn't bite. So he's told you its safe to go out and to be around people; they are more snakes than non-poisonous snakes.
Your not being shy PROVES there is an irrational thing at work here. That's what phobias are.
After all this rambling, I think the best thing to do would be to get some help behind his back, fill him in later when he tells you he's proud that you "faced your fear" or finally decided to have fun with him." Wait till he's ready or he will look at you odd and your medical condition as a choice or weakness.
Hope that helps!
2006-07-08 18:18:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you have in Anxiety sweetie. Not fun! First, avoid caffeine and if you smoke, cut back. Both increase the degree of anxiousness you will experience. Then see your doctor. He can prescribe a medication that will help calm you down. Also get alot of sleep. 8 hours minimum. The meds will help you right away, but you will probably have to cut out or at least cut down on any drinking you do. You could get very drousy. Anxiety really s-u-x but hang in there and you will be fine.
2006-07-08 18:05:13 · answer #3 · answered by michael g 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are suffering from anxiety and need to understand exactly what turns on this reaction and what all the affects are that this has on you. Once you have got this clear in your mind you must train yourself to not get worked-up. One way is to keep exposing yourself to the problem (such as meeting people) you can then build up and immunity to it - starting small and bit by bit. What may also help is exercise get yourself physically strong and you will be surprised how much better this makes you feel.
2006-07-08 18:03:17 · answer #4 · answered by huge001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had this problem too. If I had to talk to a stranger, I'd panic, shake, my breath would quicken, I'd sweat for no reason. It's called an anxiety attack. And it can get pretty annoying when you're trying to lead a normal life.
Talk to your doctor about your symptoms; he or she may prescribe you with an anti-anxiety medication (if that is indeed your problem) that will help prevent the attacks. And even if it's not an anxiety problem, it would be beneficial for you to talk to your doctor. These are symptoms for something that can be treated.
2006-07-08 18:46:46 · answer #5 · answered by akatd 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sounds like you have social anxiety and if you do the only way you could get something to help you would be to go to the doctor and tell him what's going on. He could give you a prescription that will help you not be so nervous.
2006-07-08 18:01:53 · answer #6 · answered by elizabethxoxo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drinking too much can cause depression, and take the fun out of life. You need to stop relying on the bottle to help you out. It really only makes the problem bigger.
2006-07-08 17:59:25 · answer #7 · answered by jolees56 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your work is based on fast-pace don't forget to stop and catch a deep breath you must remember to breath deep and slow and if your spiritual take a moment to give thanks for all the good things that are going to come out of working there a happy face en lights a dark space
2006-07-08 18:03:34 · answer #8 · answered by kay b 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to get medical help....cause im not sure if your going to get anything but smart alic answers on here
SOrry
2006-07-08 17:59:47 · answer #9 · answered by partyanimal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
youve got a form of social phobia. my friend had this, and its easily cured. contact a psychologist. 12 sessions and youll be free.
its not hormonal.
2006-07-08 18:46:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋