This would be an easy question if we didn't have children. So at what point do you say THIS IS ENOUGH! I can't even remember when the last time we slept in the same bed. That is sad. When I try to talk he says he's not going to change and that he sees nothing wrong. Do men just treat women good until they know that they have them? And let me tell you I'm not bad looking, I have had many offers, but said no. It seems the only time he looks at me with those loving eyes is when another man hits on me. Should I just sit at home being miserable till my kids are grown?
2006-07-08 10:53:22 · 8 answers · asked by girlnextdoor 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You know I felt like a roommate on ocassion aswell. I have 2 kids with my fiance' that I have been with for over 6 1/2 years and my feelings of neglect were getting so bad I gained a severe drinking problem as a way to deal with my stress. I partied alot, but I still wasn't happy.
Till the day I damaged the brand new car he bought me. We had a talk and he realized how unhappy I really was. He changed and I changed. I stopped drinking and have been sober ever since. He started listening more to me, and I started treating him and myself better. It's gotta be 50/50 or the relationship will not work.
I guess some guys are just like that and take for granted what they have. Wether they realize it or not, it happens alot. Or maybe he is to comfy with you and thinks you a just a part of the furniture.
Either way, if your not happy I would tell him first and talk to him, then if you are not satisfied with his answer and he doesn't want to see what he is doing to you, or try to change himself to help teh relationship out, then I would move on. You shouldn't stay there just for your kids. Your children will realize and see your unhappiness.
Don't be miserable...You have only one life. Be happy and make yourself happy.....please......Do what you need to do to survive.
2006-07-08 11:10:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is enough when YOU can't take being mistreated. Don't do anything you may regret. You say the only time he notices you is if another takes notice. Sounds like you have a boy who enjoys the chase more than the catch. Don't do anything you will regret, but start not being so available. If he wants a roommate, then be a great roommate. He'll notice the change in your attitude and maybe start the chase again. If not, you may want to start thinking about what has his attention.
2006-07-08 18:00:57 · answer #2 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
handcuff him and dont give him a choice get him right to the point he is begging u for it and then leave the room, come back let him loose and tell him no... he will be a changed man forever also while he is handcuffed u can make a point of getting some things off ur chest cause i mean its not like he is going anywhere
2006-07-08 17:57:08 · answer #3 · answered by pakafonix 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no this is what you do...leave him, or take a couple of #'s and leave them in plain sight. when he asks say u better get ya act 2gether. sense he is most likely the jealous type he will get madd first. then you tell him your problem. after that if he doesnt change leave him. ask yourself whats more important 2 you yours or his own happyness, and if he's happy and your miserable whats the point.
2006-07-08 17:58:14 · answer #4 · answered by Young Black 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to work it out with him... this is the father of your child!
If you can't work it out then it'd be best to split... there's no sense in being miserable, life is too short.
I understand divorce is hard on the kids... but in my opinion it's harder for them to see their parents obviously very unhappy.
My parents stayed together when they weren't happy with eachother and they couldn't work it out and it led to a lot of family problems with depression and substance abuse. THAT was a lot harder to see growing up than a divorce would have been.
2006-07-08 17:59:10 · answer #5 · answered by h0ckeyl0ver 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes wait for the kids to be grown
2006-07-08 17:57:14 · answer #6 · answered by beer_pharts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, he's not worth it.
2006-07-08 17:56:40 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dump him duh
2006-07-08 17:55:23 · answer #8 · answered by Linsay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋