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just a question..jesus

2006-07-08 10:40:59 · 47 answers · asked by Paranoid Android 2 in Family & Relationships Singles & Dating

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We don't get to pick and choose who we love, and we certainly don't get to choose who loves us.

Whatever you do, don't try to force the issue. You will only drive them away. Rather, all you can do is continue to love this person and give them all the support and affection that comes with it. If you truly love them, it should matter little that you get nothing in return but the feeling of caring for another. Of course, unrequited love is extremely painful, but I happen to know first hand that if you love without expecting rewards eventually people will be beating down your door for the chance to return some of that affection to you.

So continue to love them (you really don't have a choice do you), but don't carry a torch for them. Get over that yesterday. Sure this person might be cute, and smart, and funny, but they are missing that most important element that you are searching for - they don't love you. Maybe they aren't even capable of love at the moment (many people aren't), and since you are capable of giving that love right now, frankly this person doesn't deserve you.

2006-07-08 11:06:09 · answer #1 · answered by du_robot 2 · 3 0

Technically, most people believe that true love doesn't exist unless it is shared by both parties. It has to go both ways. However, one can truly care for another even though the other does not reciprocate that feeling. We call it unrequited love. While it's possible that another changes their feeling, don't waste time just moping. Seek other friendships/loves, Perhaps the other will then realize what he/she was missing when no longer chased after and when competition may change things. No one really knows what may happen. Just enjoy life and take it as it happens. Good luck.

2006-07-08 11:10:49 · answer #2 · answered by Gemini man 4 · 0 0

This is not a simple thing. Love is not conditional so you can't just turn the switch on and off at anytime but if they don't love you back, respect that and move on because you do have to have enough love (respect) for yourself to know that you are worthy of someone who would value and accept your love. Love doesn't just stop, it takes on different forms. If it stops then it was never love just infatuation.

2006-07-08 10:45:34 · answer #3 · answered by Whatever 2 · 0 0

If this question is truly supposed to be asked by Jesus, then the answer is no. Jesus loves us all and he never stops loving anyone. Just because they may not love him.........he never stops loving them. That's why he is always ready to listen, forgive and forget. Hope this is the answer you were looking for.

2006-07-08 10:44:30 · answer #4 · answered by Cindy A 2 · 0 0

If you could then the world would never have a broken heart, true love doesn't turn off just because you want it too. You do however need to move forward as you cannot make someone love you and shouldn't wait for it to happen.

2006-07-08 10:43:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Of course not. They still have all the qualities that caused you to love them in the first place. That didn't change.

However... you can love someone for the rest of your life and not spend your life IN love with them. That way, you are still allowing your heart the comfort of loving them instead of trying to wrench yourself completely away from them... but you're also saving a part of yourself for the next person you find yourself loving, who might perhaps love you too :)

Keep loving this person if your heart tells you to... but don't spend your life being IN love with them if they don't love you back. I've even found it possible to love an ex-husband who treated me badly. He's a decent person, but just very damaged. We shared beautiful children together and the whole relationship wasn't awful... but I would never allow myself to be IN love with him again in a romantic way because it's just not safe.

Learning to separate the two will heal your heart your whole life through as you end relationships or they're ended for you.

2006-07-08 10:48:10 · answer #6 · answered by thegirlwholovedbrains 6 · 0 0

You can't. Love doesn't stop or come with guarantees. You have to, and I mean have to, start getting out, going places with friends, and not end up chasing something you thought might be. If you truly love someone, you always will. Be careful not to let that be all that you are.

2006-07-08 10:50:43 · answer #7 · answered by brenda c 2 · 0 0

I still have feelings of love for several people who don't love me anymore, but it is in perspective, and not something that eats at me, or that I am waiting for reconciliation, as I know this will never happen. My Wife, for example, developed Schizophrenia 14 years ago, and because of the way this illness works, she says she has no feelings for me anymore. I am sorry for this, but there is nothing I can do about it, and I still love her today.

2006-07-08 10:44:29 · answer #8 · answered by Crowfeather 7 · 0 0

its a very difficult question. u know if u really love someone, it doesn't matter wether the other person loves u or not. if u r really a true lover then whatever the circumstances are, u cannot stop loving even if u want to.

2006-07-08 10:44:10 · answer #9 · answered by the only BM 1 · 0 0

Ah, the dreaded scenario of unrequited love...
LIsten, the fact is they'll probably never love you like you want them to.
If you are friends with this person, simply enjoy spending quality time with them that the perks of friendship brings. I'd suggest moving on and finding someone else. I hate to say it, but you're probably wasting time that you could be spending with someone whom will love you back. Good luck.

All my best,
Steffy

2006-07-08 10:46:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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