im in love with a JEHOVA'S WITNESS, could it possibly work?

Question

we talk of marriage and we're madly in love. he says it will work and most of the time i agree with him. that is, until the topic of religion comes up. i dont want to keep hearing about the end of the world being near and how witnesses are the only ones living "right". how can we make this work?

Answer 1

Anti-Witnesses have spread many slanderous lies about Jehovah's Witnesses, even suggesting that they are not Christian or "brainwashed". Yet Witnesses have typically spend hundreds of hours in bible study, while the typical anti-Witness bigot has little actual understanding of Witness beliefs.

A devout Jehovah's Witness would not pursue a romantic relationship with a non-Witness, because the beliefs and goals are too different:

(2 Corinthians 6:14) Do not become unevenly yoked with unbelievers

(Exodus 23:32) You are not to conclude a covenant with them [adherents of other religions]

(Deuteronomy 7:3) And you must form no marriage alliance with them. Your daughter you must not give to his son, and his daughter you must not take for your son.

(1 Kings 11:4) And it came about in the time of Solomon’s growing old that his wives themselves had inclined his heart to follow other gods

(1 Corinthians 7:39) She is free to be married to whom she wants, only in the Lord.


However, if a marriage already exists, then the Jehovah's Witness would do everything he could to assure the success of the marriage, even with a non-Witness.

(Malachi 2:16) For he has hated a divorcing,” Jehovah the God of Israel has said

(Genesis 2:24) That is why a man will leave his father and his mother and he must stick to his wife and they must become one flesh.

(Matthew 5:32) However, I say to you that everyone divorcing his wife, except on account of fornication, makes her a subject for adultery, and whoever marries a divorced woman commits adultery.

(Matthew 19:8) He said to them: “Moses, out of regard for your hardheartedness, made the concession to you of divorcing your wives, but such has not been the case from the beginning.

(Mark 10:9) Therefore what God yoked together let no man put apart.

Learn more:
http://watchtower.org/library/w/2003/9/15/article_01.htm

Answer 2

I have some advice.
Don't let your hormones rule over common sense.
It may seem so right, right now but down the road it could be very rough.
What if you decide to have children.
I don't know what religion you are but if you are not Jehova's Witness and are an active member of another church you may be arguing a lot about what your children should learn as it has to do with religion. From observing other marriages this creates a lot of friction and very confused children.
If you don't want this seriously consider joining the Jehova's witnesses for your sake and not for his sake. It should be something you want to do. If not I strongly recommend you don't marry him if you are going to have children. If you don't plan on having any children then go right ahead and stay away from the topic of religion in your marriage.
Generally I strongly discourage interfaith marriages mostly for the sake of the children who may come as a result of that marriage.
Please, please use your head and seriously think about the consequences of your actions.

Answer 3

i do not trust Jehovah's Witness or Catholicism yet for a variety of of folk, faith isn't only a element like a job or nutrition selection - it really is the very center of their existence- their faith is what impacts all different judgements and factors of their existence. Your 2 religions are VERY different to the point of opposing wach different- so in spite of how you sense about one yet another your lives will be inspired by using the very element that attracts you in opposite guidelines. This war will commence to bleed into different aspects of your existence. Love isn't only a feeling, that is an action- that is a willingness to position down one's own existence and existence for the different human being. I advise you're taking a damage from one yet another, both one among you evaluate not merely your religions yet precisely what oyu believe and why you've faith it. what's the start of your faith- is it because you've been raised that way and comprehend not some thing else or because you fairly quite believe the middle beliefs of the religion you persist with? study the Bible, pray and figure out what and why you've faith what you do. once you're confident and agency on your faith, come together and communicate it. Mak particular what you sense is not merely actual charm / lust/ reliable emotions. What are you prepared to sacrifice? Above each and every thing , although, God comes FIRST- make that a precedence and he will guidance guide your paths for a spouse. seek for Him FIRST in all issues. except you're in contract- it is going to likely be not available that you may walk together .

Answer 4

It is very unlikely that it would work if you dont share the same ideas of something that is so important to him. In a relationship that is getting serious and talking about marriage, without sharing the same ideology and religion will be a challenge, and would need a LOT of understanding, respect, maturity, love, patience, etc. My advice to you, make this relationship a wonderful friendship, a wonderful person to share fun moments, and have a good time, but dont plan a life together, you will have to work to hard in the relationship to make it work.

Answer 5

Hi, sorry to hear about your problem. It can either be a really tough issue or you could work through it. However, Jehova's Witness' are almost like cult members. They do not give up until they have converted you. I could see if you were a Baptist and your man was Catholic, but Jehova's find it to be a huge problem if their significant other is not like them.
I am not trying to critize this religion, but I personally think when these people talk they sound like a robot, like they are programmed to say things. Its like they are brainwashed. I am not saying your boyfriend is like this, or even that every Jehova is like that. But I agree, it is sickening to hear about the world ending all the time and just people who are plain ol preachy.
Personally, my feeling is that you have to have the same moral values as someone. Do you both agree on how you will raise future children? Does he respect you for who you are? Does he want to change you? You need to ask yourself those questions. My feeling is, that if he accepts you for the way you are and is not trying to change you, go for it. I might work. But if he insists that you become his religion before you marry him you may want to think otherwise.
My ex boyfriend is a devout Catholic. He kept telling me how he wished I was more religious, and would go to church etc. I did go to his church. Even though I was born Catholic, I don't agree with most of it. But my point is, he kept wanting me to change into someone I am not. So, it really just didn't work out.
I also have to say, that I do not agree with your boyfriend. The fact is no one is living "right". There is no right or wrong religion, just like there is no right or wrong race of people. Its a very close minded and selfish way to think. Everyone sins and make mistakes. If there is no perfect person, there is no perfect religion.
You have to follow your heart on this one girl. You just have to make sure he loves you for the wonderful person you are. If he doesn't and he is going to let religion come in the way of your love its his loss. I just think if you are thinking to have children someday there might be an issue of what religion you are going to bring up the kids. You also have to realize that this religion does not celebrate birthdays or holidays. You may want to think of you are willing to give that up also. Not saying that is wrong, but I know that I would not give them up. I want to be able to see my future children at Christmas for the first time reactions, and obbviously I want to celebrate the day they were born.
I don't really know, I just think maybe you need to discuss where you stand with your man. You may want to talk to him about some of the things I mentioned before you invest too much more time into this relationship. You need to talk about things like that...How you will raise future children etc.
Good luck and I wish you all the best.

Answer 6

He has to respect your ideas, your values, your religion and sometimes you have to tell him to stop preaching :) Just be prepared for the many difficulites u might be facing, u can't get married at their temples if you not a jehova :) so you would just marry civil... another thing is that many in his church might be opposed to your whole relationship, which will even make it even more difficult.. it will come down to.. is he more devoted to you or his church :) good luck...

Answer 7

i used to be a JW (18 yrs) and you are looking at nothing but trouble in this situation. he will either want you to convert (most likely) or he will quit. if he quits then you have to deal with the fact that family and friends may not have anything to do with him. theoretically it could work, but the odds are against it. he may even get in trouble with the church if the two of you got married. it sux but that is the truth.

Answer 8

I think there will be serious problems in marriage. You have to decide what you believe in and if it doesn't line up with his beliefs, get out fast.

Answer 9

I'm one and they actually wait until marriage for sx so, if you want to get married go ahead, but if you want to do that with him, no, stop

Answer 10

You seem to like asking this question and I remember answering it a while ago.

How many answers do you need?

Just curious