ok I posted the first part of my question a couple of hours ago and got some good answers. Hopefully someone can give me some further insight or angle I haven't seen. we do have a trust and communication problem in our relationship. Most stems from past relationships. The communication problem is mostly my fault....but 99.9% of the miscommunication is unintentional. I grew up keeping everything 2 myself to avoid being critisised by those I love. I've finally found someone to risk reveiling my whole self 2 & he doesn't believe it. I don't mean to not fill him in on anything but what he thinks is important to mention and what I think is important are 2 diff things. How do we get on the same page? As soon as I think I'm on it something else turns up he feels he should have known about sooner. I don't want him 2 change cause I love the way he is and thinks for the most part. I'm just having a problem trying to get him 2 b patient w/me cause I really am trying 2 b closer, 2 share, 2 b as 1.
2006-07-08 10:03:31 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
that is good ,now what is the question???
2006-07-08 10:06:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it seems to me, that you are doing all the giving and he is doing all the criticizing .
It is plain to see that you love him
,So, why does he have to pick holes in what you say ,
Does he really need to know about what is past
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It is what you both do and feel now that should count ,,,,, the past is gone
NOW is what you should both be thinking of ,as a couple
.
Go forward together , do not delve into each others past , that is the road to disaster .
Soon you will both discover that you are truly,
"on the same page"
Together, with good-will you can succeed as an "item"
I wish you both every happiness
:)
2006-07-08 17:24:15 · answer #2 · answered by sweet-cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
then try harder or stop over analyzing things that don't exist. most people have a intimacy phobia when it comes to reveling who you really are as a person because we want to be accepted and acknowledged as a good and lovely person.... in other words we want to fit in.. but you have realize that is he loves you he will love you for who you are and you need to show hem who you are because if you don't you are waisting his time and yours. when you should be concentration on having a fulfilling relationship that will understand you because you both share the same things in commend. so stop the indecisiveness and go for it and tell hem who you are or just keep up the lies, because the worst think that can happen is that you are the same way that you were before you got in the relationship
2006-07-08 17:14:26 · answer #3 · answered by vero 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are probably trying way too hard. if this fellow wont give you the benefit of the doubt then he is selfish and its all about him. no one has to tell anyone everything. you owe this guy nothing. dont sweat the small stuff. if he wants a complete accurate account of things that goes on then he will want this daily. do you wanna live under a microscope? sounds like he is a dictator. youre not crazy, but maybe crazy for taking his bull
2006-07-08 17:20:15 · answer #4 · answered by Fergy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you are not crazy. Though many people may think you are over analyzing the situation, you are just in love and cant help yourself. I think you should sit down with him and find out what type of things he needs to know about you that are important to him. You also need to tell him the things that are important to you so that neither of you are kept in the dark.
2006-07-08 17:10:06 · answer #5 · answered by Heather 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be totally honest in everything sooner or later the 2 of u will be in tune or you never will sometimes we really like people who are not are true match as far as crasy go i am not sure i know maybe every one is crasy.
2006-07-08 17:10:28 · answer #6 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ur not crazy, no1 is ever the full of the blame, u both have issues, and if its too complicated its not ment to be, a new person will be there, and ull jus click!
2006-07-08 17:07:02 · answer #7 · answered by bettyboop344 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me too
2006-07-08 17:07:06 · answer #8 · answered by Peace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are not
2006-07-08 17:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by William Wang 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋