I want to get on birth control, but im scared to tell my mom?

Question

I'm 17 yrs old I will be 18 in about 4 months. I recently just started having protected sex with my boyfriend that I have been with for about 8 months. He's the only dude I've been with sexually.While I really want to start geting a birth control pills because I have heard so many stories of condoms breaking. How could I tell my mom that I want to get on birth control. She doesnt even know that I'm having sex!!

Answer 1

I think you just need to tell her. You might think she doesn't know but she might suspect! If you are going to be 18 soon and are having sex then you are grownup enough to talk to your own mother about birth control. If you can't then maybe you need to rethink being in a sexually active relationship!

Answer 2

Well, you are 17 and I'm sure that your mom is expecting that you may be sexual at this point. The best way sounds cliche, but just be honest and tell her that you are sexually active and you want to begin using birth control.

But before you rely on birth control, let me give you some advice since I've been on it since I was 16.
You have read that condoms do break, and they do. But condoms not only protect from pregnancy, they are also there to protect you from STDs (which I would say is way worse than having a kid at the age of 18.) Birth control should always be used with a condom regardless.

Birth control can cause weight gains or losses as well, even worse, it can increase your chances of having cancer in the future as I heard on a news report recently, and smoking increases this even more.

Your mom should understand these consequences as well, and if your mom has doubts about you taking birth conrtol, you should really go see the doctor with her. The doctor can better explain whether birth control is right for you.

And if you must not tell your mom... you can always go to the doctor and get it yourself confidentially depending on where you live.

Answer 3

Honesty is the best policy. She has to understand, I mean, how else would you have gotten here if she didn't have the same urges? yah know. When you tell her, let her know that you want to be responsible about it, you want to decide if and when you start having children. Birth control is a LOT cheaper than having a baby one. Hit the responsibility angle if you are worried about it. You are 18 years old? If you are seriously worried about telling her you can also go to Planned Parenthood, http://www.plannedparenthood.org/pp2/portal/files/portal/medicalinfo/birthcontrol/pub-bc-choices-teens.xml to see if they have any ideas on how to break it to parents- but I think if you just say Mom, I would like to talk to you - its one of the first things that is going to pop through her mind. Just don't leave your mom out cold, let her know, you are being a responsible person. That should be taken into consideration, and even applauded! Good for you!

Answer 4

Just come right out and tell her. I always talked to my mom in the car so I didn't have to look at her. Your doing the right thing by wanting to use birth control. You could get on it without her concent, but I think its a good thing that you want to include her in your decisions. Be honest with her. Using condoms along with the pill would make sex even safer.

Answer 5

I might sound a little old fashioned here...but if you're scared to tell your mommy, should you really be having sex? My mom once told me that when I was ready to have kids or get married, that I wouldn't ask her if I was ready...I would just know. At 17 or 18, all you have to do is call the doctor and go in for an appointment. Or, planned parenthood. But, they'll tell you to go to the doctor. Be careful and safe...

Answer 6

Picture yourself telling her that you're pregnant and try to feel that scenario...I will guarantee you, as the step-mother of a teenage girl, that she would much rather have you ask for birth control, than announce a pregnancy.

Do you have to go through your mother to get on birth control in your area?

Can you discuss this privately with your family doctor and trust him/her not to tell your mother?

Is there a family planning clinic in your area? They usually have strict rules about confidentiality whether you are of age or not.

Good luck, whichever way you choose to go!

And good for you and your boyfriend for practising safe sex!

Answer 7

If you and your mother have a good relationship, I say, just sit her down and tell her. Explain that you have thought it out and that there was no pressure and that it's what you want to do. That you want to show your responsiblility by doing something that could save you from having a child at such a young age. But I do think that you should continue using condoms just to make sure. You always want to be safe.

Answer 8

You should definitely tell your mom. She will always be there for you no matter what. Many complications can come from birth control such as blood clots and the list goes on. You are still young and she can give you advice.

Answer 9

It is about time she grow up and face reality. Your having the guts to tell her means allot. Perhaps you can say you are thinking allot about having sex and want the protection in case you give it up. That might soften the blow that her little baby is now grown up. She should have guessed by now that the dew is off the pumpkin.

Answer 10

Your mother is going to be around ALOT longer than a "boy-friend" I'd come clean to her... She loves you UNCONDITIONALY... and after 17+ years of raising you she diserves to know the truth from you before she finds out some other way!

Pray.

If you are serious about him get some marrage counciling... DO NOT elope without telling your family your intentions.