i really need some one to takl to....?

Question

ok.. i know there may be some people who would criticize me about this, but the fact is.. i just need to know if any one has any type of information for me. i need some one to alk to about adoption. i am pregnant, but am not sure if i want to keep this baby. my question is wether or not any one has any information on a "proffesional".. or what ever you wanna say.. a proffesional that may be able to help mme with deciding if adoption is truly what i need to do. i just have so may thoughts and worries nd fears about this whole thing. i am not a first time mother... and its worring me. i am scared that i may be bringing a child into this world that i do not truly want.. because so far i have not felt any type of connection with this child.. unlike with my son when i was pregnant with him. i am 3 months pregnant right now.. has any one felt this way when pregnant with a second.. or third, which ever.. child? did u make the right decision? if any one can help.. i would appriciate it

i am a single mother, my son is nearly 3. i just hate the fact that i am bringing another child into the world that will never know his or her family on the fathers side. because he already told me he will have nothin to do with either of us. thats only one of the things that run through my mind

Answer 1

When I was pregnant with my second(when my first was only 6 months old), I thought there is no way I can take care of TWO babies by myself. I went as far as to talk to some couples and in the end I decided to keep my baby because I couldn't stand knowing that I would have a child somewhere that I couldn't be with every day. Right now you are feeling fear of the unknown, but in a few months you're going to get attached to the baby and when it's born you're not going to want to give it up. Good luck and I hope you make the right decision for YOU and your baby.

Answer 2

Honestly, I felt that way my second pregnancy. Once I had my daughter was was put on anti depressants. I had depression the whole time I was pregnant and for a little while after having my daughter. She's 15 months old now and I love her very much. This may be what's wrong but I'm no doctor or anything so I honestly don't know. As far as adoption, I don't really know anything about it. Do whatever you think is best. You can choose a family that you think deserves your child though. There is always open adoption if you choose it.

Answer 3

I have had the same problems. I have three children. By different dads. The last one said he didn't want nothing to do with it. I never had a connection with none of mine until I had them. I also had thought about adoption with all three. But one look at them and I was in love.just remember it is not the child's fault. Catholics services has open adoptions so you could still be apart of the child's life. But you could you could try to keep the child. get child support. If he won't pay he would stay in jail for not paying, and he won't get no one else that way. And you could get help with WIC and welfare until you get back on your feet. Don't worry welfare will go after him. and it is not my job to judge you and no one elses either. Only GOD can judge you for your actions. And he would judge you for that. If you need to talk more here is my email. [e-mail]

Answer 4

Oh honey, i would never criticise you for knowing that you can't take care of this baby! That is the most grown up decision you could ever make at this stage in your life! I'm proud and I don't even know you!
I am LDS (Mormon, and please no Mormon jokes), I personally have not dealt with our Family Services, but a friend of mine, their family has! It's a great environment, non-judgemental and they will help you find the best family for your baby! Mind you, chances are they would be raised in an LDS home!
As far as costs are concerned, I don't know if it costs anything to put your baby up! They are located all over, most likely there is one in your area, or close by! There is no obligation, and why not trying it out and talking to them! They also have counselors you can talk to!
Try out itsaboutlove.com, it's LDS family services adoption home page! See if there is one near you!
Good Luck on your decision! I hope you make the best decision for you!

Answer 5

I dont know how it would be to have one kid already and be pregnant with another while being single but consider the fact that if you give it up for adoption you may end up regretting that choice and painfully spending the rest of your life wondering what happend to her/him and if they are alright and being taken care of im eighteen and also pregnant and the father of my baby is not going to be in my babys life out of both of our choices and while my case may be different then your I couldnt even imagine giving my baby up for adoption and having the chance of me regretting it for the rest of my life just carefully think it over and make sure that this is what you really want because you dont want to make a mistake

Answer 6

not criticizing just wondering if you might have felt a strong connection with your first child because it was something new being experienced all pregnancies are not alike i don't remember having any feelings of connection with my babies in the womb but i was a teen mom with my first and was more concerned about getting fat with my second child was to busy working 24-7 at home,work,and school but as soon as both were born i feel in love with those big brown eyes looking up at me it is the best experience holding your child in your arms and them looking wide eyed up at you with there instants so you might want to think about things you being a mother already you need to remember the first time you actually held your baby not in your womb in your arms and welcomed him knowing that he was apart of you and you brought him in to this world but at the same time it all feeling like a dream please as a mom myself even if this was a surprise pregnancy think about what would really be best for your child and if you still think you could actually give your child to another there probably would be a couple that would be more than welcome to love and care for your child because they were not able to have there own

Answer 7

i was 19 when i had my son.i did not want him at first.i was scared, and did not know where my future would go afterwards.now im glad i have him.i would'nt trade him for anything.it gets hard at time but at the same time he says the craziest things that tickle me.why are you thinking about adoption.are you a single mom.maybe you could check into some local churches.maybe find a couple wanting to adopt that would help you thorough the pregnancy.

Answer 8

You need to look into "Adoption Counseling". I posted a link that I think might be helpful. You should check with Churches in your area as they might be able to refer you to an adoption center or counselor. I hope you know that Adoption is a wonderful option!

Answer 9

give it time u dont always feel a connection as quick with the second child. trust me i have 2 boys of my own and im 21 yrs old.. how old are u? at least u didnt say u wanted an abortion. if u would like to talk more email me at [e-mail].

i was not as connected with my second son at first. but with my first son i was very connected with but i am now very connected with both of them and love both my boys more than anything

http://www.americanadoptions.com/
www.abcadoptions.com
http://adoptionblogs.typepad.com/
www.adoption.org
www.adopting.com
www.dhfs.state.wi.us/children/adoption
www.cwa.org/index.htm

Answer 10

Search Bethany Services on the web. Or search web for adoption. Best thing for you to do if you do not want it is to let someone adopt that is unable to have a baby.