IM SO SCARED. Are my dads anger problems seriously bad? What should I do?

Question

My dad gets mad at me A LOT for stupid little things or things that build up over time.
Eventually he gets horribly mad at me.
He yells and cusses more then anyone i have ever known.
ALSO he throws things, not at me, but where they are dangerously colse to hitting me. He has even threw glasses on the ground, punched a hole in my door, and damaged my walls by throwing objects at them.
Everytime he does this I get scared for my life and this only makes him more mad.
He also grabs me really hard and sometimes pushes me up against a wall, or hits my leg. He still spanks me REALLY hard even though im 15.
Also he talks constantly about how he sometimes just wants to hit me really hard and he tells my mom she should just beat the hell out of me, but she refuses and never does.
Help me.
What do I do?
I honestly think Im going to die someday when he gets angry enough.
What should I do?

Answer 1

Do you have a trust worthy adult you can talk to? Sometimes medical conditions make people act like this. High blood pressure... etc.

My dad spanked me and threw me around until I was 18, and I left the house.

I think what your dad is doing is wrong.

You can try to call a couple of these numbers - they are totally free to call, and will not show up on your phone bill. The people you will talk to are trained and can give you the best advice. I wish you luck and will be praying for you. I know too well how you are feeling. :(

Family Violence Help Line 1-800-222-2000

Youth Crisis Line 1-800-448-4663

General Crisis Counselling 1-800-785-8111

Prevent Child Abuse: 1-800-CHILDREN

KidsRights: 1-800-892-5437

Christian Teen Helpline: 1-800-394-HOPE

National Domestic Violence Hotline:[phone]-SAFE
www.ndvh.org

Child Abuse Prevention Services (CAPS): 1-800-4-A-CHILD
www.kidsafe-caps.org (has crisis lines listed by state)

Answer 2

You really need to tell someone about this. Tell a teacher, a police officer, a counselor at school or a trusted adult friend who can help you. You can also call your local children's protective services and make the report yourself. If your Dad is not willing to get help for himself, maybe the legal system can require him to get help. You may have to leave your home for a time while he gets the help he needs, but its your life we are talking about. If his anger is so out of control that you are in danger, you may have to choose the lesser of two evils.

Answer 3

I am going through the same thing right now, and I am only 12. that aside, you need to get out of there now! Tell your parents you are going to a friends house and call the police! What he is doing is unfair and it is not your fault. Good luck!

Answer 4

Contact the child protection services in your area. If you do not know how to, go to the police and tell them what is going on. You need to get out, before something really bad does happen. He needs help NOW. Don't wait to do this, do it like yesterday. Go Now.

Answer 5

your dad needs some anger management.
that's no way to live, there's no need for you to
have to experience that kind of behavior.
try having a heart to heart with your mom.
if that doesn't work, you might want to tell an
adult that is of some authority like an aunt or uncle,
teacher you trust, or a police officer.

Answer 6

I'm sure your mom already knows about his temper, it could be that she's scared of him too. Is there a teacher, or a friend's mom, someone that you trust, that you can talk to about him. He needs help before he hurts someone. You shouldn't have to live like this. Don't wait, talk to somebody soon. I will be praying for you.

Answer 7

Honey, this is definently not a normal and healthy situation. It must be really scary, and you should talk to your mom about it. Or find another adult that you trust, and tell them what's going on. Your dad needs help, and you shouldn't be going through this!!

Answer 8

Leave the house? Can you go live with relatives? Apply for summer programs, camp, whatever that will keep you busy and out of his way while you figure out how bad it is, and what you want to do.

Answer 9

I was in the same type of situation when I was your age only my parents really beat me. You have to stand up for yourself. What your parents are doing is unacceptable behavior and you and your parents need intervention. I suggest talking with your school councilor.

Answer 10

Please talk to someone! School counselor or call the police and see if you can talk to someone there. Your father needs help. Violence usually escalates over time and I pray you get away from it before it's too late. What he's doing is abuse and there are people who WILL help you. Find them!