my mom is always putting me down by calling me really bad names?

Question

and it really hurts my feelings and i tell her and she says sorry than goes and does it again

Answer 1

Your mother has problems, sorry. I don't know why she would do that to you. Don't respond my doing the same, but continue to let her know that she is hurting you. Perhaps you can talk to a school counselor when school starts again.
Good Luck

Answer 2

Keanda
Sorry you are dealing with this. Unfortunately, some people including parents use the wrong approach when they really don't mean any harm. Mom might not want you to be like her and she might lash out on you unreasonably. Just like some people tell others they're fat all the time because they think it'll make them lose weight, not because they're trying to hurt them. Remember that no matter what, this is not your fault. Also remember that your mom probably has a hard time expressing herself in a healthy way sometimes. Maybe this is something that happened to her when she was a kid and she never experienced loving ways of expression or solid discipline without abuse (verbal or otherwise). Let your mom know you see her behavior as wrong. Tell her you hurt. Tell her you need to hear more good stuff. Tell her you need her to try harder to talk to you respectfully because it works better. If this still doesn't work suggest family therapy (if you're brave). Always respect your mom, regardless. Be strong in yourself. Don't allow her to turn you into a lady that becomes a hard, heartless woman, mom & wife. You definitely aren't that way now, so don't change for anyone.

Answer 3

That sounds like verbal abuse to me. Especially if it occurs frequently. I would sit her down and tell her "I feel like you don't care about me and are trying to hurt me when you say those things and I don't like to be around you when that happens."...or whatever way you would like to word it. Just be sure to use an "I" statement and not a "you" statement. It will just put her on the defensive automatically. However, there are two sides to each story. Is your personal behavior maybe pushing her buttons? I'm not trying to accuse you of anything, but I think that you need to examine anything that may also be doing or not doing to aggravate the problem. If you are going to ask her to change then you have to be willing to bend too.

Answer 4

Try getting her to use better terms for you pissing her off. Perhaps she could call you some key word that gets rid of her frustration. It is evident she lacks maturity to contain the underlying low self esteem that causes her action. You did not give it up she did so there is no reason for her to put you down. Let her know you are here because she made the decision not you.

Answer 5

If someone apologizes and then does the same thing again, it means they really aren't sorry. If your mom continues doing this I would talk to another adult like friends parent, teacher, pastor or your church, someone who will listen. Have them talk to your mom with you. She might see the error of her ways and stop doing this. Call you bad names is a form of abuse. You do not have to put up with this. Make sure you get some help please.

Answer 6

She may be suffering from depression or stress and you don't know what she is dealing with. Of course, this is no excuse to call her child names but maybe she needs to see a counselor. Just keep letting her know how much it hurts you and ask her if there is something that she is having trouble dealing with and maybe suggest some counseling. Good luck!

Answer 7

Sometimes we think about the reaction wrong.misundrestanding.I believe that when a person face a problem he/she should change the way of action and manners.you know mother and father are respectful.They love their children but sometimes they do not know their behavior is wrong.you should talk to your mother and help her.try to change the bad position.you know your mother more than everybody .Just do the affais which make her happy, buy gifts for her, kiss her, help her in home affairs, talk to her in different items, ask her to tell you about her memories, ask her to lead you in some ways and little by little she will undrestand you and to not use that words.You can do it.Everybody can change his/her world in a good position he/she likes.make a good relationship wth your mother,father,sister,brother.God will help you.Just ask it and attempt.

Answer 8

Verbal abuse is abuse, you need to talk to a counselor or someone to help you and your mom. Being critical or hurtful to your child is so selfish and awful. A child needs to thrive with their parents watching out for them, not having their parents belittle them. Please realize it is her issues and problems and do not take her insults to heart. You have the ability to rise above this and move forward loving yourself. Your mom needs some serious parenting classes...words dig deep and cannot ever be taken back!

Answer 9

It funny because my mom used to do the same thing when I was younger...Just sit her down and really tell her mom u need to stop, your hurting my feelings...If she keeps on you can either ignore her or start calling her names...lol Bet that will get her attention...Not reccomended though"

Answer 10

Try and get someone else involved like a school counsiler. Let that person know what is going on and ask if you guys could have a meeting together. sometimes it helps to have a third party there. Good luck.