I repeatedly made the mistake of cheating on my bf, and he knows of most times. He always gave me the hardest time about those situations, and then he goes and does it to me!! after all he told me! i dont think i can forgive him. but i love him so much... i know how i am.
2006-07-08 08:43:05 · 27 answers · asked by Steph is tight like a tiger 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Split up. Obviously respect and fidelity towards one another is absent from both of you.
Where do you think the relationship is going to go with everyone cheating on everyone else?
For the sake of BOTH of you, I think you both need to split up, grow up and try again when you can appreciate how to respect someone and not cheat.
2006-07-08 08:48:02 · answer #1 · answered by lily 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah.. err.. uh... no, you're not obligated to forgive him - but you know that means you guys are breaking up anyway. You'd also be a hypocrite, so however if that bothers you or not... well... that's your own life, right?
If you want to swallow your pride make it a point: look, you cheated, I cheated, now can we please be open and communicate to each other BEFORE we get to that point? I want to have a happy relationship that's relaxed.
/shrug
Or just get over what you've learned from living in the culture that you live in: stop being monogamous and start doing the entire swinger thing, thousands of people do it, and there's a huge under-ground culture that does it as well: you wouldn't be alone, and you'd both be satisfied.
Then again, that usually only works on intelligent couples that are comfortable and safe in their own minds - that have complete trust and understand sexual needs are physical things that need to be satisfied. So you guys may not be that type of person.
From the sounds of it you still have a bit growing to do... I'd just break it off with him, suffer for a few weeks and then get over it... it'd be the only way you could save face and grow stronger: admitt the hurt, admitt the differences and cut it off as easy as possible.
(If he tries to be immature about it, he's a boy, we're immature. sorry!)
2006-07-08 15:49:37 · answer #2 · answered by Solrium 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think about having an " open relationship " ? As long as you follow the rules it wouldn't be " cheating ". You said you have cheated repeatedly so maybe you aren"t ready for a closed relationship. If both of you are willing to accept it that should solve your problem.
2006-07-08 15:50:46 · answer #3 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well you are not "obligated" i mean it's your choice..and i guess it depends on how bad the cheating was..you know what i'm saying? I mean if he cheated with your best friend or your sister for the past 6months and didnt tell you or something...;that could be a problem lol...but then again everybody deserves a 2nd chance right? So i guess it's up to you sweetie.
Take care.
2006-07-08 15:49:59 · answer #4 · answered by 4eva-pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no.
nuthin wrong with cheating! It is freakin delicious and fun in an animal short term satisfy your crotch kinda way ! or why else would everyone be doing it!??
And breaking a promise in a relationship can have consequences. Take a picture of yourself and your bo together, in the area of romantic realtionship, this is the kind of people you are
how is it working for you babe?
2006-07-08 18:47:32 · answer #5 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you have not even admitted every time
sounds like you are getting what you deserve
2 wrongs don't make it right
however take how you feel and multiply it by every time you cheated that is how he feels
the two of you need to part ways so a bunch of new men can cheat on you more
2006-07-08 15:48:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shouldn't you be asking yourself why you both cheat so much? This is an indicator of your relationship. I think you need to get out now, before you both ruin each other a little more.
2006-07-08 15:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Roach25486 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look at all these women saying no..
OF COURSE. Forgive him. You acted like a total whore and cheated on him. So he did the same thing you did and cheated. Now it's your turn to swallow your ego and forgive him.
2006-07-08 15:48:57 · answer #8 · answered by The B Man 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Usually what i would say is no,but your feelings say another why dont you 2 just go on a simple date forget about everything and remember why you fell for each other in the first place
2006-07-08 16:00:18 · answer #9 · answered by NEOTEH 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why are you even with this person if you choose to cheat on him all the time. if you are both cheating why don't you just agree to see other people since you are both so honest about everything anyway.
2006-07-08 15:52:26 · answer #10 · answered by LadyD1019 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋