My son has been sleeping with me since my divorce (age 2). He will be six in September and is going to the first grade. He has had his own room for 2 years now, but he will not sleep in his own bed. Please give me some ideas!
2006-07-08 08:12:14 · 14 answers · asked by KITTY 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
if there's room start by putting his bed in your room, then you can move him to his own room once he's used to sleeping "alone".
you don't have to do this abruptly, or in a way that is traumatic for him. be firm each time you change the circumstance, but show that you're also concerned with his feelings.
he may want a nightlight once he's in his own room.
do you have a bedtime routine? that might help him as well. My son listens to music after we've read him a story. Some kids need a distraction to keep them from getting scared by the dark or by being alone.
2006-07-08 09:24:35 · answer #1 · answered by answer faerie, V.T., A. M. 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My son did the same thing. He slept with me from the time he was born until finially he just started to want to sleep in his own bed. I gradually got him away from it. First I would lay him on the couch when it was bedtime and let him watch a movie, when he fell asleep I would pick him up and put him in his own bed. Then as he got older he just started going on his own. I think right now he's just used to someone being there with him, maybe if you sit with him for a little bit let him know you are right there, it would help him relax. You know your son better than anyone, try to figure out what's best for him! Good luck!
2006-07-08 15:25:23 · answer #2 · answered by Angie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take the hard road and make him stay in his own bed. I never let them sleep with me even if they were sick past 1 or 2 months old I have 3 kids trust me on this once he sees that he can be comfortable in his own room like a "Big Boy" He'll make the switch on his own.
2006-07-08 15:41:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol, my son used to sleep in my room with me, until i realised that sleeping with me wasn't the attraction, it was the tv in my room that was what he wanted. I got a small 14" tv mounted on a bracket in his room, one that had a built in timer, i'd put him to bed, set the timer for an hour so that the tv wouldn't be on all night, and ive never seen him in my room again at night unless hes sick.
Make a big fuss over him, if you go with the tv idea tell him " Gosh, you're a big boy now! Old enough to have your own tv in your room!" really lay it on thick, make him think hes the man cos he has his own tv!.
2006-07-08 17:52:27 · answer #4 · answered by mandy n 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait til he falls asleep then put him in his own bed - it may mean you move him 3 or 4 times a night but he'll realise that no matter how hard he tries to get back in he'll still end up in his own room, it worked for my son but it took a little time,
2006-07-08 15:17:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While my husband was out to sea my infant son at the time slept with me.. and when my husband came home he obviously wanted the bed instead of my son to have it... and when I went to put my son in his crib he woke up every time his back touched the crib mattress so I decided that I was going to get him a big boy bed.. and every night I put him to bed in HIS BED and would lay down with him until he fell asleep and then I would leave his door open and the hall way light on so that if he got scared he could find my room.. but if he came into my room I got up and put him back in his bed.... and eventually he just stopped trying to climb into bed with me
2006-07-09 00:24:07 · answer #6 · answered by sparrowmoon1978 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son is a little younger and had that same problem, so I would let him fall asleep with me then move him to his bed. Then soon later he realized that that's where he's suppose to be and now he sleeps there.
2006-07-08 18:33:40 · answer #7 · answered by Tammy ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my sisters slept in the same room as my mom until they were thirteen and fourteen. When my Mom divorced my father my bro and I slept with her until she got married again. When she had my two sisters they have slept in their room until a few years ago. Now they are more independant. Sometimes they are just more comfortable with you. Try putting him back in his own bed before he wakes up, that way he wakes up in his room and gets used to it.
2006-07-08 15:18:27 · answer #8 · answered by Troopers_Gurl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, you just have to tell him to sleep in his room and if he starts crying don't feel sorry for him, just leave him there. i know it seems mean but its for his own good and after he will be used to sleeping alone. my cousin has the same problem, she is 7 (8 in 3 months) and she still can't sleep alone.
2006-07-08 15:18:31 · answer #9 · answered by fukuoka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try telling him that you are going to sleep in his bed... just you and him.. read him a book and let him fall asleep.. When he is good and asleep go to your room. He feels safe when he goes to sleep and all is good.
2006-07-08 15:42:49 · answer #10 · answered by ME 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋