i get depressed cuz i am a single mother and wish i could turn back time. like i said i loooooove my kids but i am only 20 yrs.old and have 2 kids .what other single mothers have a solution to this??cause i have tried everyhting..
2006-07-08 08:02:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
My advice is this... 1) if you are suffering from true depression you might want to go and speak with a doctor. 2) you would be suprised at how many people your age are in the same boat as you, try and find groups focused on parents of your age group.
2006-07-08 08:16:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
See, no one ever believes others when they say wait. You need to interact with others. Unfortunately yo can't dump your kids somewhere all the time. At least know you will be young when they are old enough to take care of themselves for you to enjoy life. And if you have number three you will be really out numbered (two hands, two kids, that's plenty, cuz three kids and two hands equal one running around making you even crazier). You just have to survive and do right by your kids. THEY are your life now. YOU come third, and that's just how it is. You can't give them back.
Maybe when those couple hundred teen girls out there on Yahoo answers flippantly ask if they are pregnant or should they have a baby or should they have sex, you could answer them and explain how much fun you are having these days. You could help others.
Remember also that they will be in school some day, and you cold be on the road back to your life at that time.
Best wishes and prayers
2006-07-08 15:21:34 · answer #2 · answered by Michael R 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont get depressed, get yourself involved in clubs where other single mum's and kids are, and when you do and you make a real good friend that you can share a cup of tea and biscuits with them, at home or a cafe, your kids will play with their kids, and when they get older, you get a sitter and go out to the pub and club together, you probably had great friends before you had kids but different lifestyles break friendships even without arguing etc, by the way kids at a young age isn't so bad because you are still young and are growing up with them and you'll still be young when they are leaving home so you have even more your time then.
2006-07-08 15:24:22 · answer #3 · answered by kevin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look hon, i don't have any kids but i come from a single parent family, and I'll tell you this everything was not roses in fact it was really hard at times , but as i grew older i realized what my mom sacrifice for me and i buckled myself down and did well in school and at work and i hold my head up high cause my mom is the best, i know there were times she might have wanted to give up but she didn't, and I'll tell you this hang on in there, give your problems to God and he will take care of you, don't go rush after the first guy that comes along those kids are your first priority. what I'm trying to say is trust God with everything and don't look at nobody to give you the answers or make it all go away. God bless.
2006-07-08 15:25:11 · answer #4 · answered by diva anne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt is a single mom with 2 kids as well. And what she did is move back with her mom for some help. But you dont want to do that. Try to go online and look for some one that is single and have kids as well.
2006-07-08 15:06:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My solution would be BIRTH CONTROL! To make sure you don't add to the crew ya know? And other than that..take it one day at a time, make a long term plan and stick with it. The kids will get older, give it 5 years, and your life will be sooo much easier when they are not to dependant on you.....
2006-07-08 15:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by Sharlala 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just realize your kids are a blessing. I had my first child four months ago and I'm 19. He makes everyday a blessing for me. Everything happens for a reason and it was meant for you to have you kids when you did. Just continue to be the best mom you can.
2006-07-08 15:10:11 · answer #7 · answered by Holla@MeBaby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it will be ok u are doing a great job at that u are a single mom, we all know it is hard but im sure ur children love u very much
2006-07-08 15:06:41 · answer #8 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi you are not the only one to wanted to wait I have two teens and I,m married and I really due it on my own your not all-own those kids know who you are . you need to get a companion to watch a movie with or just sit and watch TV or walk with down the street some one to due stupid stuff with and laugh out loud their out their just be happier
2006-07-08 15:30:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
by u hve tried everyfing,wat do u mean?
btw does it means u need a guy to be avle to withstand ur kids of is it the society?none of these two shud be affecting ur love or ur life,u see!u shud be able to stand on ur feet first then u'll be able to gve them ur name,and bring them up as u wish to!
2006-07-08 15:15:31 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋