My mom controls my life. Today she shot my one dream down...HELP!?

Question

I need help. I'm 13. My mom is pretty much the equivalent to a mix of Adolf Hitler and a dream basher. She dictates me. (Im a guy). She doesnt listen to me. She threatens to give me away. I JUST WANTED TO PUT ON THE PLAY 'RENT' WITH MY FRIENDS AS A LIL SUMMER PROJECT AND SHE MADE ME PULL OUT OF IT SAYING I WAS 'TOO BUSY' AND 'EVER SINCE I STARTED THIS STUPID RENT BULL(****) I HAVENT BEEN HAVING A GOOD SUMMER' in her standards. It was my dream to play Mark in RENT. She shot it down. I can't live like this. I envy all my friends. They say "she has no right to do that!" She signed me up for camp without asking me. She says 'ur 13, until ur 18 u have no say in anything!" I wish she was normal. I wish my life was normal. How do I talk to her, WITHOUT HER LEAVING THE ROOM, ROLLING HER EYES, AND SCOLDING ME!!??

Answer 1

It's her job, you didn't come with an instruction book ya know.
give her a break, she's not having a good summer either, when does SHE get vacation?? Stop being a brat and deal with it just like we all did growing up and be glad she doesn't beat the crap outta ya like most parents do

Answer 2

The hard thing is that at 13, your mom is supposed to have a lot of control over your life. I know how that sucks, but it's just something you have to accept. When I was your age, my big sister went off to college and gave me a REALLY good piece of advice: "Keep your room clean and don't talk back to them, and everything will go fine." What she meant is this: parents are really pretty easy to please, if you do the basic stuff, like keep your room clean, do your homework, and don't raise your voice to them.

Maybe you can compromise with her, but you need to talk to her when you are both calm, and in a good mood. You should make notes beforehand about what you want to say to her, so you don't get mad and forget what you want to say and how you want to say it. If this is really important to you, you should explain why to her, and how it's a positive thing for you.

No matter what you do, don't tell her what she is doing wrong. Don't accuse her of being controlling, or HItler, or bashing your dreams. That won't help anything, and it will make things much, much worse.

Just tell her what you want to do, why you want to do it, and why it would be good for you. Keep it simple. Whatever you do, don't yell, or swear, or raise your voice. Try that and see where it gets you. It will probably help. Even if you can't do Rent THIS summer, maybe next year, or in a community or school play sometime very soon. If you can keep things calm and happy with your mom, there's a better chance that she will understand what's important to you, and you will understand better why she does what she does.

Good luck.

Answer 3

It is tough being a kid sometimes, but you will have to live with your mother until you are 18, or get "immancipated" when you are older and can prove you can take care of your self. There will always be people of some sort or another who will try to tell you what to do (with or without the authority to do so) I am an adult...but I live at a place where we have alot of "rules" I don't agree with all of them sometimes, but it's better than the street...I have been there too, and it's not a good place to be0_0. Stick it out if you can,believe me, it will be no time at all until you are 18.

Answer 4

look hon, we at sometimes in our lives think that someone is always controlling us, when we are young and we wish we lived elsewhere cause our parents are control freaks telling us what to do and they need to get with the times, then it's the teachers who need to get a clue, then our bosses who for some reason are always trying to stifle our creativity, and the guess what it's our spouses who just can't understand this is a life long dream. you can't change everyone around you, neither can you live on an island alone, i suggest you take it easy and try to see things from your mom's point of view, maybe some thing is going on with her, maybe she's sick and doesn't know how to tell you or money is tight or something, but if you keep on thinking that she hates you and you are always aggressive and confrontational with her you will always have a problem, and you will never be happy. Try praying that helps me. all the best

Answer 5

Tell you what, why don't you have a discussion with your mom, tell her that you're getting older, and that you would like to TRY making some decisions for yourself now, and that you are MATURE enough to live with the consequences OF those decisions, even if you make the WRONG ones.
See what happens. You might be surprised at how agreeable your mom really IS. She's just trying to protect you, maybe she's a bit overprotective, but she has the RIGHT to do what she THINKS is the best FOR you.
You have to convince HER to let YOU try making some decisions for yourself now. You can HELP encourage her to decide in your favour by being MATURE, doing what she ASKS you to do, and behaving, and doing well in school.
good luck!

Answer 6

Move in with your dad. My mom is a ***** too and I find myself wishing I could live with my dad or move out, but lucky for me I am moving out because I'm turning 18 in one week. Good luck... I know how it feels. Just rebel, do what you please, I did that. If I wanted to do something, I did it. My mom was more of a "I don't care what you do with your life, just leave me alone" type. Which sucks just as equally, at least you know your mom cares about you, whether it feels like it or not. Do what you want, what she doesn't know won't hurt her. Tell her how you feel. When I tell my mom she's being a huge ***** to me, she tends to be a little nicer for a little bit.

Answer 7

I was just talking to my mom about the fact that when I was a teen she didn't know anything and Couldn't see my dreams. Boy am I glad see was there to see around those corners for me. Give your self another 13years and you will understand too. You are lucky see has you doing anything but chores this summer.

Answer 8

Awww that is stunning. the information of my existence in the interim are truly inconsequential. My father turned right into a relentlessly self-improving boulangerie proprietor from Belgium with low-grade narcolepsy and a penchant for buggery. My mom turned right into a 15-year-old French prostitute named Chloe with webbed ft. My father would womanize; he would drink. He would make outrageous claims like he invented the question mark. from time to time, he would accuse chestnuts of being lazy : (

Answer 9

It's true that she can basically control you until you are 18. The bright side of the deal is you are almost there! Five more years and you are home free. I know it's hard, but try to not let her get you down. You will be the absolute best Mark one day and I know you are going to succeed in reaching your dream in spite of your mom's efforts to squash them. Hold onto them. They are yours and yours alone. ;-)

Answer 10

Mom sounds like a real witch. Where is your dad? Next time she threatens to give you away take her up on her offer. Watch how fast she backs down.