I would like to give a sensual massage to a guy that I like. (He asked me if I liked to give/get them) But I am afraid that if I include fellatio, he'll think I am easy. If I don't, then he'll be dissapointed. I haven't had sex with him yet, just wanted to do something romantic.
2006-07-08 07:57:39 · 18 answers · asked by Ree 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Try asking him what he wants you to do for his massage. Tell him you want to please him and see what he says. Good communication can make sex so much better. During your talk you can tell him you are not an easy girl but that because you really like him you want to give him something special. He should understand and like that. Make it a fun light talk and not too serious. Have this talk while you are making out. Kiss and talk and kiss and talk. It might be fun. Don't do anything you are not comfortable with but do all that you want to. Feel free to express yourself in everyway.
If this is a good guy, then there should be no problems. A sensual massage does not need to end in climax but if you want it to and you do not want to use your mouth the first time then go with the hand happy ending. Then later move to oral endings. Of course he should be willing to give you a wonderful happy ending as you like. Make this fun for both of you.
OK. I hope you are happy and have many happy endings.
2006-07-08 07:59:40 · answer #1 · answered by D 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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No, it doesn't have to include fellatio. If this is a sensual massage and not an erotic massage - then no, although he'll probably be turned on either way. Maybe you ought to wait until you're ready to do that anyway, so it's not an issue.
That's not romantic, romantic is more of a state of mind than a state of physicality, although they CAN overlap... I'd give you examples but I can't think straight right now because I'm getting a sensual massage.
2006-07-08 08:02:49 · answer #2 · answered by thedavecorp 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
As far as I'm concerned you are talking about 2 different things. Something can be sensual without being sexual. The plain definition is: Relating to or affecting any of the senses or a sense organ.
So a sensual massage can be as little as soft lighting, nice music, candles or incense, warm massage oil, and a back rub. Of course, it can get sexual with more exposed skin, or genital massage w/o your mouth.
My opinion, don't include fellatio. If you want romantic, go with a nice massage, if you want sexual, go with fellatio.
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2006-07-08 08:05:49 · answer #3 · answered by ttbysuzannah 1 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Get rid of this whole "easy" mindset. It's really the kind of thinking that will screw up relationships.
Men don't call women 'easy'. Men hate that crap. Women call other women 'easy' so that they can stop them from being competition to one another. Think about it. If cindie just walks up to bob and flirts with him, then cathy, who is less confident, will be outcompeted. So Cathy will call cindie 'easy' or 'a sl*t' to try to shame Cindie into not doing things that will let her get bob more easily. In the meantime, bob(and all men) really just appreciates women that are straightforward.
That said, if you feel like giving fellatio, do so, but if you don't feel like doing it, don't do it. Just don't promise something and change your mind.
2006-07-08 08:06:42 · answer #4 · answered by electroberry1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Show him that you can give him a sensual massage with his clothes on - or at least with his pants on.
We men really like massages on our back & chest...
You can ask him to only be bare-chested.
You can caress his buttocks THRU his pants.
Tell him to lay flat on his belly. Tell him you are such an excellent masseur...
If he insists to get massage on his sex, even thru the pants, do this:
- force him to stay flat on his belly;
- do a vigorous massage on his buttocks (thru the pants) and on his back;
- he'll get so "excited" that he won't feel the need to ask you more afterwards. How can I say... Well, you know, a kind of paroxystic emotion he has, and then, he feels "weak" lol.
By the way, I suggest you to keep all your clothes on lol.
2006-07-08 08:51:15 · answer #5 · answered by Axel ∇ 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
That is a good way! Honestley my boyfriend loves massages, But another thing that you can do to be seductive is let him have control, Tell him its his night, He gets to choose what he wants from you, Im not sure if your looking to go all the way, But even if you just want to be seductive, it works!
2016-03-26 21:44:33 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no, it si not necessary, and should not be given with the thought in mind that you have to do it. However, if he asks for anything, then it is up to you, but I would suggest that if he is hard, and I assume that he would be, continue the massage, even the penis....oil it down, and satisfy him with your hand. Then tell him, now that was full body......my turn, and be prepared to get yours.
2006-07-08 08:03:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
wow i've never heard anyone use the term fellatio...wow...no it does not have to include that...when i give my fiance' a sensual massage i drip candle wax and his back and rub it...sometimes it leads to oral sex but usually just intercourse...anyways no you do not have to give him oral and he probably wont think you're easy if you play it right...but who cares if he does? have some fun! go with the flow k? thats the best advice i can give anyone...go with the flow
2006-07-08 08:02:19 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Nope its not required but a Happy Ending might be.
2006-07-08 07:59:28 · answer #9 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Dang girl. What a dilemna. I feel soooo sorry for that guy!
2006-07-08 08:00:45 · answer #10 · answered by powhound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋