i have a 1 year old little boy and i am pregnant how hard is it really gonna be raising the both of them?

Answer 1

My kids are really far apart 13,7 and 4. I alway say if I had it to do over they would be 13, 12 and 10. I think the first couple of year will be pretty tough but after that you have it made (until it comes time to pay for college lol). I know lots of ppl with kids close together and it seems like the kids are friends, that they have a built in playmate. Mine are so far apart their interests are so different. Of course all sibling will argue but i think they will be friends too.

Answer 2

I have a 2, 3, and 4 year old so trust me when I say that I've majored in the area! lol My situtation is a little different than most because my second child had Down's Syndrome. For the first 6-8 months of her little life, OUR lives were insane(er visits, doc's appt.'s, surgeries, etc). Once life settled down and her therapy and development got on track the two of them played great together. It was actually kindof nice having the two because they occupied each other and they LOVE each other SOOO much! My first one takes good care of his little sis! Even though our situation was different than what yours will hopefully be I think you will be suprised at how easy it is.
Just never forget that every child has a differnet temperment and personality. What works as far as discipline with one may be the exact opposite of what the other would respond best to. Each child loves a different way and must be "loved" in a different way by YOU. There's a book that I strongly recommend you buy and read. It's called "The Five Love Languages of Children" by Dr. Gary Chapman. It is WONDERFUL and it will really help you, believe it or not in welcoming another baby. Mainly he points out that every person has a love language. There are five:
1. Words of Affirmation
2. Receiving Gifts
3. Quality Time
4. Acts of Service
5. Physical Touch
Please get ahold of it and read it! Good Luck and God Bless!

Answer 3

It's a big adjustment going from raising 1 child to raising 2, but you can do it. Remember to include Big Brother when tending to the baby and spend extra time with Big Brother when Baby is sleeping. Nap when they are both napping.

I have 3 sons. They are all 18 months apart. I loved it because the boys were able to be "in to" the same stuff like cars, blocks, pokemon.

Keep a positive head on your shoulders and laugh as much as possible. Take lots of pictures. I know you will do great. :o)

Answer 4

It will only be as hard as you make it. Meaning, your mind set to raising them. If you think it is hard, then it will be. Look at raising them positively, you will have good days and bad days. But the good far outweigh the bad. They will be closely bonded. I have three children, ages 9, 2, and 1. Yes it was easier, as far as help, for the larger age difference, but yet, the younger two play together much better than my older two. Honestly, some days will seem like they drag on forever, and others go quickly. All you can do is try to remain positive, get away by yourself as well for peace of mind, and devote 100% to both of your children. My best reccomendation is for you to go to your local church and ask about their Mother's Of Preschooler's group. Attend one of the meetings and you will find so much help, and encouragement from other moms like you. I am a member of of MOPS group as well and it is wonderful. You can be a member from the time you are pregnant until your youngest child is in kindergarden. My best wishes to you. GOD BLESS!

Answer 5

Well,I am an older lady that has 7 children altogether.And just like u I had 1 in diapers and pregnant for another and it kept going.But its hard being a single parent with 1 let alone going to be a parent of 2.Good luck.

Answer 6

I had this panic too...son was 2 when daughter was born in October. Got home from hospital and made sure there were presents for son from the new baby. getting him to help with things all the time too help, getting nappies, creams etc...don't disclude your first one, whatever age. Having a good routine with son really set me up well for her, she 'slotted' straight in as it were. Just get your new one on the same timing for naps etc and bedtimes and half your battles are won! Yes there were sleepless nights..but not as many and not as prolonged as I remembered from son. And sometimes they both demand you at the same time..that's a toughie but you have to prioritize, on the whole you just muddle through! It seemed such a minefield before I had her, but now it's 9 months down the line and I don't know where the time goes. They are brilliant together and so much fun. It was son who made her chortle for the first time...she adores him.It is so much fun, but I'm in bed by 9.30 most nights out of sheer exhaustion!! Hmm fun! Good luck though and hope this helps

Answer 7

My daughter and son are 15 months apart to the day. It was really wonderful raising them so close together as you are still in the same baby mode when you have the second one and it all just kind of blends together and they are on the same level all the way through growing up.. Their basic scheduals are the same (eat, sleep, play, bath, go "bye bye). It's easy. It's wonderful! It's cheaper, too, because they can share things. My kids are now 25, 28, & 29. It's still easy. They are all still on the same level......20 Year old mode, HA!

Answer 8

It's gonna be like having twins almost, trust me been there when my third child was 6mths old, I discovered I was expecting again. One of the hardest things is all the diapers. My two seem to want to fight rather than play together. All in all, it's not something you can't handle, hope you have a lot of patience and energy. Good luck!

Answer 9

My 2 middle children are 15 months apart. It really wasn't that bad. I almost think I'd would rather have had all of my children really close together.

Aside from having 2 in diapers, it really wasn't bad. My biggest fear was whether or not by 15 month old would be walking by the time my new-born got here.

Answer 10

Well, it depends on how old you are and whether or not Daddy is around. You have phrased your question so that it sounds like you are a single parent. I could be wrong, but if I am right, it will be tough. I only have one child and she is enough for now! She won't be getting a sibling until she is at least 5 years old!