My gf and I broke up after 6 and a half years. We live 400 miles apart and it was taking a toll on her. She's everything I've ever wanted, but she feels that there is better out there for her because we are so far apart. She thinks we arent meant to be. How do I let go when I feel I don't have a reason to? She is so perfect to me and I lvoe her to death. She still wants to be best friends, and the only part of our relationship that has changed is the sexual stuff. I don't know how she feels she can get over me if she's still talking to me the same. Not to mention, we just saw each other 3 weeks after we broke up and she was all over me again doing things. When I got home after the 6 hours car ride she told me she still wants to stay apart. I don't understand her logic. I need major help. I don't want to give her up. She's my best friend. But, I don't want to stand on the sidelines wondering if we can ever be together.
2006-07-08 07:38:27 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She told me its the time apart that hurts, and when were together she says all her problems go away. I told her I would move by her but she says that it just cant work. I think shes forcing herself to get over me. There is no new guy. Were very close and I know that. Im just so confused as to why she wants me, but doesnt want me at the same time.
2006-07-08 07:56:07 · update #1
Listen bro... This is the hardest scenario. But if you can get through this, you can get through anything.
First loves tend to be so pure and that's why it's so hard to get over it. She doesn't want to be in a romantic relationship but she still wants to be "best friends." I have never seen this work, to tell you the truth. This always happens immediately after a break up but it never works. What you guys need is a clean break. Give each other some space and time. Date other people, see other people, I know it's hard but trust me this is the best way. Don't talk to them, don't think about them, don't listen to songs that remind you of them. You need to move on with your life. The best ways I've found is...
- listening to classical music (no opera because I'm afraid you might understand French or Italian, no lyrics, nothing you can think about)
- Work out at the gym
- Read books NOT about romance
- Hang out with your friends (not common friends with her), don't mention her ever.
- Focus on other things important in your life, career, studies, hobbies.
- DATE OTHER PEOPLE
If you are a GREAT guy, it'll hit her some day that she broke up with the wrong guy. But let her make that move, it's not fair for you to constantly do it.
I broke up with my first love after five years and the situation is oddly similar to yours. She's someone that I still trust and when I think about her it makes me so sad inside because the only reasons were the distance. Every else was great. She recently got married...
I am pullin' for ya bud. Just try your best to move on. Chances are there are better women. TRUST ME. I know you don't believe me. But the world population is 6 billion. 3.01 billion are women, millions of that is in your age range. Your chances are great. The only way you take yourself out of the gene pool is by not looking for other people.
Best of luck and let me know how you're doing.
2006-07-08 07:55:59 · answer #1 · answered by krazyreapr 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Look 8-D let me be the one to tell you. If you love yourself you can get over that girl. It is clear that she doesen't want to be with you. You can love her from a distance keep her away from you so you have time to rebuild yourself. And years later you won't regret wasting time on a girl who will be the same girl when you find a better girl. Always remember good things come to those who wait.
2006-07-08 07:51:09 · answer #2 · answered by GOURGEOUS 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
make new Friends that live close by. after a while she will be less important in your life all though she will always be in your heart,you sound very young and you will hopefully learn from this that long distance relationships don't work out in the long run.
2006-07-08 07:45:01 · answer #3 · answered by him n her♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, have you ever thought about telling her that you will move where she is, because sometimes a women can feel like she is stuck in two different places. she probely feel like you are there and she's here and the thing is she don't know what you doning, and you don't know what she is diong. sometimes people can loose their trust in one another because they are apart you know what i mean. try telling her how you feel about the sitiution and see what she say.
2006-07-08 07:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by blackdiamond122582 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in that place too! What I'm doing is just trying to be friends with him and go from there! You should give it a try! If u want!
2006-07-08 07:42:26 · answer #5 · answered by â? Lindseeâ?¢ [BreakDown]â?¥ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes distance is a good thing.
It's ok to still love her.
You never know, if you ever live close again, good things could happen?
2006-07-08 07:43:57 · answer #6 · answered by aviolentremedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a second.
2006-07-08 07:41:08 · answer #7 · answered by christopher s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's very hard but try your best
2006-07-08 07:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by Jubei 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋