The guy I’ve been dating for over a month now, and with whom I’ve been intimate keeps asking me to crash at his place. I’ve always said no, and leave at midnight. What does that mean to you guys? When you ask a girl to stay over? I like him and don’t want him to think that I’m turning him down for any particular reason. Last time I saw him; as I left he just staid over for by the door a long time in his pjs, watching me get into my car, which he had never done. (let me explain, he lives in a house and if he is in normal clothes he walks me, not so when he is otherwise).
I don’t call much, but when I’m with him he gets my undivided attention. However things have gone from weekend’s outings to middle of the week thing. What does that mean?
2006-07-08 07:30:48 · 21 answers · asked by Lily 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It means he's dissapointed that you won't stay over; that's pretty straightforward.
Look, you said you were intimate with him, which implies that you already have had sex, so the only real reason not to stay would be if you had to get to work early. If that's the case, just say, "I have to get to work early."
If you didn't mean that you've had sex with him when you said you were intimate, then honestly-- prepared to get dumped. Men use sex as a barometer to tell whether a woman really likes him, or is just a game player.
2006-07-08 07:42:21 · answer #1 · answered by electroberry1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are two reasons why I would ask a girl to stay over, the first would be that I am very comfortable with her, and that I want her to be with me, and want her to be a part of my life, in all ways. The second would be that the intimacy that we were enjoying was such that I was very comfortable, and wanted to know how the relationship would go if we did spend time together. In both cases, it is because I want her to be closer to me.
If I did not ask her to stay over, even when we had been intimate, then it would or should tell her, that the relationship was purely physical, and didn't have much chance of going further.
2006-07-08 07:37:35 · answer #2 · answered by teddybear 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Apparently you and he have developed feelings for each other. I don't know your age, but feel you are young.
What does that mean to you guys? When you ask a girl to stay over? IT VARIES WITH THE PERSON. This person is apparently a gentleman and probably wants you to be there in the morning when he wakes up.
Things have gone from weekend’s outings to middle of the week thing. What does that mean? It means you are both interested in getting to know each other better.
It sounds like you are falling in love with each other. My suggestion is that you make sure you are (both) compatable (with each other) before you get too carried away. That is the hard part.
2006-07-08 07:49:51 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Clearly, you are paying more and more attention to him. You are not
rejecting him.
Perhaps leaving at midnight might have some magic meaning to him
if he reads too many fairy tales, but other than that, it would seem like
a practicality issue - you prefer actually sleeping and preparing
for the day at your place.
He might be thinking "She doesn't love me enough to get over this
preference" - but if so, I would say "He doesn't love me enough to
want me to be comfortable sleeping and preparing for the day..."
If he tries to argue that you are rejecting him, you simply need to point
out all the ways in which you are not rejecting him.
If he tries to make his place more comfortable for you to live in day-round,
then you should HONESTLY re-evaluate how it makes you feel. There
may be things that he just can't change (like how close it is to where you
work ... the size of the bed ... whatever)
There may come a point where you change your mind.
2006-07-08 07:39:02 · answer #4 · answered by Elana 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that people don't read these questions very well. You said that you have been intimate with him already so all the people saying he just wants to get in your pants are wrong. He's already been there. I think he wants to move the relationship up a notch to a real b/f-g/f thing and not just a booty call.
2006-07-08 07:51:29 · answer #5 · answered by gearjammer63670 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've already been "intimate" I would imagine he's not trying to "get some"....we really aren't that complex and probably wants to see what it's like having you there in the morning, find more of your "quirks" and again if you've already taken THAT step and he's asking you to stay he's probably pretty into you.
2006-07-08 07:47:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He really likes you alot if he wants you to stay over. It means alot to a guy if you spend the night. Makes us feel good like we are yours and you are ours. Get it if you stayed over he would be real happy!!!!!
2006-07-08 07:37:00 · answer #7 · answered by ditzhitz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you alresdy slept with him why in the world would you not want to spend the night. It seems like to me that its just a booty call. Thats how I would take you.
2006-07-08 07:37:04 · answer #8 · answered by 800 bound 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds to me and my guy like he really likes you and wants a serious relationship. just because you stay the night doesnt mean youve moved in with him... if you really like him, then stay the night, if not, then youre wise to keep things at a distance.
2006-07-08 07:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by sslowbliss 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He thinks that for a relationship to be a real one your need have sex with him. Players all the time hahahahah
2006-07-08 07:36:32 · answer #10 · answered by Sabrosura 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋