Im going out with a girl I work with. We started out seeing each other working different schedules and now we have the same shcedule so were able to see exactly who each other is interacting with. The ratio of men to women is redicules(more men than women),therefore, Ive been having more of a problem with this. To me, jealousy is a form of insecurity beliving that your not good enough for your girl or that you dont trust her or are affraid that shell leave you. This is not what I think about at all. I know shes mine and Im hers. I dont care about other girls at work. But I know how guys are. She cant controll guys trying to talk to her so I dont blame her. But having heard the way guys talk about her and know how certain guys are I feel like she deserves to be treated right and not like a piece of meat that a guy just want to F**K. I would respect it more if the guy really liked her and wanted to treat her right. So, Am I Jealous or am I just being Protective?Opinions Please
2006-07-08 07:08:20 · 8 answers · asked by rock_roll_musicman 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
believe me, you are not being jealous. and boy is it nice to hear about a guy really caring for his girl. obviously you care about her a lot, and im sure she knows that. whatever you're feeling is completely natural, and pretty commendable. you're being protective, but definitely not over protective. dont worry at all about how you're feeling. you're doing just fine.
2006-07-08 07:16:12 · answer #1 · answered by krush 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's normal to feel that way. My boyfriend is insecure, I guess he feels he's not good enough & I'll "cheat" on him. I don't know. But don't stop treating her the way you do, respect her, show her you care. Don't get mad at her if guys talk to her, it'll push her away. You can't help what other guys say to her so don't let it get to you. Jealousy is more of a thing with insecurity. There's nothing wrong with being a little protective, just don't let it get to the point where you get violent with a guy if they talk to her.
2006-07-08 14:15:10 · answer #2 · answered by aviolentremedy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as you're both committed to each other, it doesn't matter now many guys hit on her or talk to her. No one is looking for anything beyond conversation from the sound of it. You say you're having more of a problem with this. If jealousy wasn't involved, the number of guys wouldn't matter. It would be an equal problem for you as it is for her. You're both jealous and protective in my opinion.
2006-07-08 14:18:30 · answer #3 · answered by cricket 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy shouldn't be considered insercurity and what not.... There is different reason why people get jealous, it depends on what would get you to turn red. I get jealous, because if I know that someone has been with my boyfriend before me. I hate to hear that another girl was intimate with my guy. I believe your not jealous exactly, you are difinitly protective. But being jealous also shows that you care, if you don't want her to be with another guy, then you are jealous. if you just want them to treat her right, then your being protective.
2006-07-08 14:19:30 · answer #4 · answered by Late-Nite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy: Someone or people who are mad about someone or people having something or someone that they don't have. That's like me, my cousin got an apartment and I didn't have one at the time and I was mad at that. That's also like, if a girl sees another girl with a dude and she constantly talks about it. She's jealous. A lot of us get jealous. That's like if a man knew a guy with a car that he wants and he's like how did you afford that car? Do you think that your the man just because you have that car now?
2006-07-08 14:13:57 · answer #5 · answered by delawaregirl83 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say jealousy is when you see someone having something that you want.
And i think that you are being more insecure and protective than jealous. Once you know that she is your and you are hers, you should have no reason to act in such a way.
2006-07-08 14:17:05 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealous people are immature brats who stomp up and down like a child who is having a tantrum to get their own way.
They tend to have alot of build up repression within themselves and that becomes all about their inner rage, and anger.
they tend to be bullies and often grow up to be bad boys or bad girls, who can only play one hat in life when life requires them to be able to play many hats at any given time. They tend to have pity parties too, to bring others down to their level of insecurity, and very low self confidence and self esteem about themselves.
2006-07-08 14:16:05 · answer #7 · answered by snorkelman_37 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is a big girl i am sure she can take care of her self. this kind of guys are always around and there is nothing u can do about it. Men are men - isn't this what you say.
what you can do is just be there for her and don't let this comes between you.
jealousy when its reasonable of cores is a normal part of the love thing.
good luck.
2006-07-08 14:25:02 · answer #8 · answered by tinker 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋