why cant my parents just get along?

Question

my parents are divorced my dad is mature enough to realize it just didnt work out and that they still need to be there for their two daughters. at my sisters wedding my mother made a horrible scene during the cerommony because she didnt want to sit anywhere near my dad. it was embarrasing . now im getting married and i want both of my parents there but i want everything to be peaceful i want a picture of me and my parents but she objects what do i do

Answer 1

You need to remind her that it takes two people to make a baby and two people to ruin a marriage. Also, if she can't promise to behave, then she doesn't need to be there.

I know that this is pretty harsh, but it's your wedding and she should learn to keep her mouth shut. She ruined your sister's wedding, you shouldn't let her ruin yours.

Good luck!

Answer 2

I would explain to my mother, in no uncertain terms, what YOU would like her to do for YOUR wedding. A MOTHER should listen to her daughter in this case, because you're not asking her to do anything unreasonable, just act like a mature adult. If you're worried about her causing a scene like she did at your sister's wedding, you may need to be prepared to not have her there, if you don't want the scene. Let your mom know how much this means to you. Hopefully she'll see the light, but don't hold your breath. Decide if you want her there even with a scene or not. You have a tough decision ahead of you, and I wish you all the luck in the world. I'm sorry your mom is putting you in this position, she shouldn't.

Answer 3

forget your mom she sounds like a nasty, selfish lady who is never wrong and will do what it takes to show your dad she hates him still. unless your the favorite kid and you think she might not be so immature as to make a big scene at your wedding, you could just straight up tell them that they you need them to get along for just this one day because it only happens once ever and it means so much to you to have a picture of all of you.if that doesn't work you might want to think of just photo shopping your wedding pic so that her head is over your sisters or aunts or something.

Answer 4

i think she really needs to grow up and get a life. my husbands parents dont really get along, but at our wedding they danced together and took pictures together because there was a time when they loves eachother enough to make my husband so its their job to suck it up and be civil on such an important occasion. I would try telling your mother this same stuff and if she still wont listen and will make a scene at your wedding then I just wouldnt have her there. If she cant be on good behaviour for something important to you then she isnt worth having there. think about it.

Answer 5

First and foremost, it is important for you to remember that there are some things out of your control. In case you have never heard it, there is a serenity prayer used in many 12-step programs that I have always found helpful: "Lord, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can and the wisdom to know the difference." Given this, I would advise you to speak to each of your parents and tell them that regardless of their past differences, it is hurtful to you when they act as they do toward each other, and that you truly wish that--for your sake and for the sake of your children to be--that they could be more tolerant of each other in family gatherings, etc. Be honest in your expressions to them, and try to help them understand that there is a good reason for the thing you ask. One would hope that a day will come when there can be forgiveness between them. Unfortunately, there are too few "menders" or "peacemakers" among us, and people absorbed in love/hate relationships react to perceived transgressions with their defensive mechanism...permitting themselves to be drown in a sea of fear fed by the "videotapes" of spite that play over and over again in their minds. The cure for such spite is to replace the old memories and perceptions with new ones. In the case of your parents, the prospect of being loved and respected parents and grandparents could be key. All you can do is try to help them understand that they are not alone in this situation, and demonstrate your love for them through honesty and understanding. If they choose to continue their present course, despite your honest encouragement, that is their decision and the best you can do is be patient and understanding.

Answer 6

Print out this question and all the answers and give it to your mom. She needs to grow up, making a scene at your sister's wedding was inexcusable. Remind her of the scene and tell her you don't want a repeat.

Answer 7

if she dont want you still can have a picture witht them but separate. Itsa better than nothing at all. it happend to me. And what made it worst was that my mother wanted my dad to come then she showed up late and brought someone else with her.
But dont let your mom ruin your day. Is your day.
Just take a picture with your mom and a separate with your dad. Thats what I did.

Answer 8

Remind her that is going to be one of the most important days of your life. Talk to her before hand and tell her you would greatly resent her ruining your day because of her own, selfish issues. Tell her she can feel anyway she wants, but on your day, she will act with maturity and respect for you and your feelings.

Answer 9

First, put your mom at the back of the church. Then, have your photographer take a picture with your dad, and then with your mom on alternate sides of you. Then use photo shop!

Answer 10

you must talk to them before your marriage day maybe it would be better if you and your wife invite both of them to a restaurant or some where like that and talk to both of them and tell your feeling & explain your worries then tell them what you expect from them i hope this work
GOOD LUCK