I live a long way from my dad, but will be traveling sort of close to his local. I will have a couple of free days b4 my scheduled activity. I love my dad alot. Thing is, I also have a lot of anger issues with his wife and my little sister. There has been a lot of disappointment.
I think I would feel horrible if I passed up an opportunity like this, but the guilt trips they would play, regardless, would be unpleasant as well.
Still not convinced I should go.
What should I do?
2006-07-08 06:57:42 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes, go and see them atleast for an hour or two.
If you feel more comfortable just seeing your Dad, see if he will meet you for dinner somewhere to talk things out, without the pressure of your step-mother and half-sister there.
If you have to visit them all, be the bigger person, be mature, civil and courteous, but don't allow them to make you feel any sort of guilt, or bad in anyway. Only YOU control how you allow them to affect your feelings.
2006-07-08 07:03:30 · answer #1 · answered by LindaLou 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
See him, and them. See the situation through their shoes, but be a facilitator of forgiveness. Keep the visit relatively short. Be honest but forward-looking. Be patient and keep your cool. Tell them how you feel, and express your interest in a positive relationship in the future. But don't go into the situation full of expectation. You would be there to plant a seed that will hopefully blossom in the future because you value these people. Ask if it would be okay to write, call occasionally or visit in the future. Beyond that, you have little control over the situation, so seek serenity in the fact that you made the effort. Hopefully, the relationship will mend and grow over time. If not, be accepting, live well and seek out those things in life in which you find fulfillment.
2006-07-08 14:33:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes go and see him. As far as his wife and your sister go... people in your life are always going to disappoint you and anger you, most of the time it will come from the people closest to you. Be the bigger person in this, who knows you might really make a different impression on them and encourage them to treat you better because you did it first to them.
Good Luck!
2006-07-08 15:13:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may have issues with his wife and your little sister but, you shouldn't miss the chance to see your father, you only have one father and he won't be here forever. You should see him on neutral ground and meet him somewhere like at a restaurant.
2006-07-08 14:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Becky Jo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe if all else fails u can ask ur dad to meet u in a nuetral place when his wife and ur sister are not there...or u can try to work through the issues that are there...it may give you a peice of mind and you may be able to have a happier life...but if it was me i would definalty try to see my dad one way or another
2006-07-08 14:04:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Then go see him. Just think in a few years when you think back on it you will feel bad. When I was younger I didn't want to do alot with my dad. Looking back on it now I regret it. Now we get along fine and do alot together.
2006-07-08 14:01:35 · answer #6 · answered by sicilygal2581 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, even if the trip were to somehow turn out unpleasant you'd have made the effort. I say go for it.
2006-07-08 14:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by night_trekker 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a lot of anger toward my father at one time too.Just remember you only live once and you cant change the past.So go for it and see him.Make some good memories.Best of luck.CJ
2006-07-08 15:12:54 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go or tell him to meet you somewhere in between so you can still see him but not his wife and your little sister.
2006-07-08 14:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by xdani3l 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go see him. Tommorrow is never certain and if something would happen to him, you would never forgive yourself it you gave up this opportunity.
Get over your anger. Its time. Its a waste of energy.
2006-07-08 14:05:34 · answer #10 · answered by happydawg 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋