My boyfreind and I fight about once a night and it seems like he just doesnt trust me. Hes always asking me to promise and are u sure? and you better not be lying to me...but i love him more than anything and i know deep down he is just way to over protective. Should I end it? Ive already tried to talk 2 him bout it and it leads to another fight.
2006-07-08 06:45:51 · 18 answers · asked by Brittney 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's called Immaturity
2006-07-08 06:47:34 · answer #1 · answered by shizzlechit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to kick him to the curb. Part of love is trust. When you love someone you automatically trust them because you know they love you so much they would never hurt you. One thing people have to remember is that freaking out and being jealous and over protective does not keep the person from cheating, if they want to cheat they are going to cheat and there is nothing you can do about it. He is showing signs of being very controlling, you need to "nip it in the bud" so to speak before he snaps. You can do so much better than that, there are guys out there that aren't controlling, dont be afraid that you won't find anyone better than him because you will.
2006-07-08 14:01:40 · answer #2 · answered by E 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you really wanna be in a relationship that is nothing but fights? If you pursue this and it leads to something more serious he might end up hurting you Physically. Do yourself a BIG favor and Move on you certainly deserve better than what you have now.
2006-07-08 13:49:03 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't able to talk without argument, then ending the relationship is probably best.
Without a good sense of communication, the relationship will always be rocky and full of unnecessary stress.
He might of been hurt in past relationships, but he is allowing jealousy to ruin chances of future relationships.
I dated a guy that was pretty jealous. He'd always have his arm around me when my guy friends were around, and once when one of my guy friends put his arm around me for a hug, he walked up and punched my friend.
Needless to say, I ended the relationship right there.
2006-07-08 13:51:38 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No ages here. But this is definately a sign of immaturity.
He will eventually grow out of it and probably be a decent enough partner, but do you want to go through 5 years of this?
My suggestion: dump him. He is only adding stress to your life, not being a productive partner. You will find another guy someday who is trusting. Good luck!
2006-07-08 13:55:17 · answer #5 · answered by powhound 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you need him as a protection and for bringing in the money and if you can not end admiring him, then keep him and treat him as an uncooked egg all your lifetime.
If you feel on the same level of intellectual competence and, economcally speaking, you can stand on your own feet : DON'T WASTE TIME AND CHOOSE A BETTER ONE!
2006-07-08 13:57:19 · answer #6 · answered by consultant_rom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, u shouldn't, Even I do it to my girlfriend. He loves u very much, and just doesn't want to let go of u. There is always a good medicin for all this ,it's called "try to make him understand " but if that doesn't
work spend lots and lots of time with him. But dont let go of him, coz
I just know how 2 be without the one u love.
2006-07-08 13:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by love_machine 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
An admittedly generalized and oversimplified answer is: He's very immature and unhealthily dependent; and if you love him, so are you. Years ago, when I was interning at a drug/alcohol treatment center, a female addict in an "intensive outpatient group" was talking about how she loved her abusive, drug-using and disrespectful boyfriend. At one point the group therapist interrupted her and said, loudly and dramatically: "You call that love?!!"
Good point. Many, many, many people mislabel love. They are very needy of attention and touch and when someone so much as looks appreciatively (or carnivorously) at them, they fall head over heels into the person's lap. They are confusing need with love.
Look into yourself; have a few sessions (or more) with a counselor -- maybe a female counselor with a "women's studies" background.
Boys who are very distrusting, jealous and dependent may become men (and husbands) who are very distrusting, jealous and dependent -- and violently so. I used to lead therapy groups of domestically violent males. These are men, generally, who have numerous psycho-developmental botches. That means that as adult-looking as they may be; as cool, tough, hardworking and macho as they may often be, psychologically, they are big, dependent babies throwing tantrums. The tantrums are frequently triggered by an unconscious terror of abandonment by their wife/girlfriend, or shall we say, by . . . mommy.
One "litmus test" is to see (in your imagination or in reality) if you are attracted to and feel comfortable with a boy who respects you (your thoughts, feelings and physical integrity), gives you space (respects boundaries), and isn't swarming with negativity (the "rebel without a clue" syndrome). If not, if you feel most attracted to and comfortable with a boy who is clingy and controlling -- this means you have unresolved issues of dependency and self-esteem that need attention.
2006-07-08 14:18:10 · answer #8 · answered by Fred L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to end it. Trust is a big thing in any relationship. If the trust isn't there. then neither is the relationship. If you cannot trust the person or he cannot trust you, then neither of you will be happy.
2006-07-08 13:50:04 · answer #9 · answered by Common_Sense2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is very insecure and immature. It also sounds like he has control issues. This is not the type of healthy relationship you should be in. Get out, before you feel that you cannot.
2006-07-08 13:50:25 · answer #10 · answered by housefullofboys3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋