My friend is getting married next Saturday, and her soon-to-be sister in law wants to announce the gender of her baby on the wedding day. Is it just me, or does that seem really tacky?
2006-07-08 06:38:41 · 35 answers · asked by evayne_9731 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I completely agree with you, it is defiantly tacky. In fact it's more than tacky, it's tactless. You only get married (fingers crossed) once. It's your friend's day, it is not about her new husband's sister's baby's sex. I think it would be unbelievably inappropriate for her to announce such a thing at the wedding.
My advice is to tell your friend's future hubby what's going on, and get him to put an end to it. He shouldn't let his sister steal his and his bride's thunder and spotlight.
2006-07-08 06:53:09 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 8⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's thinking she'll do it simply because all the family/friends will be there at the same time, but it is still wrong. The sister-in-law needs to chill and let your friend have her day. The wedding day is suppose to be all about the bride and groom. In many families there seems to be someone who wants to steal the limelight whether intentional or on a subsconscious level, but they need the attention. Is she looking for some big grand announcement, or to just go around telling people? Many people see a pregnant woman and one of the first things is they ask what she's having. I'd say no "announcement", but a casual informal telling people is okay. Whatever happens it needs to be the decision of both the bride and groom and they need to voice it to the girl together!
2006-07-08 07:51:15 · answer #2 · answered by virtuouskelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making a big announcement on someone else's wedding day is not only tacky, but extremely rude, inconsiderate and disrepectful. A wedding day is the bride's one day to have all the attention focused on her and does not need to have that attention diverted to anyone else, whether positive or negative.
One of my good friends showed up at my wedding reception and announced to everyone that she was pregnant. Everyone was so happy for her because she had been trying for months. While happy for her, I thought that she could have picked a more opportune time to make such an announcement. My friends and I still talk about it to this day and it was over 20 years ago!
2006-07-08 07:56:48 · answer #3 · answered by Taxpaya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she should either get it over with now of wait until after the wedding because either one of 2 things will happen. 1. she will steal the spot light away from the married couple or 2. she wont get the attention she craves and will get angry at the wedding. she obviously is an attention getter. she seems like the type who cant stand not to be centre of attention and so needs to try an get some by announcing the babys gender on the wedding day. personally, if i was at a wedding and someone announced their baby's gender i wouldnt care less. so what if its a boy or girl. everyone will find out when its born anyways. its not like anouncing your pregnant or something. if she wants to try for some attention let her. i think a wedding is a bigger deal then a baby's gender which should be kept a surprise anyways.
2006-07-08 07:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that the overwhelming response is no, but I have to disagree. My father accidently let it slip that my brother and sister-in-law were expecting at my cousin's wedding. The bride and groom were so excited that they made them come up and make the announcement on the microphone so that everyone would know. Maybe it depends on your family, mine is large but very close and it was not a problem at all. Hope this helps!
2006-07-08 12:19:54 · answer #5 · answered by mmmpal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is beyond tacky. Let her make her announcement some other time, not at someone's wedding. Print this out and give it to her (anonymously if you don't want to get directly involved). Some people have no sense.
2006-07-08 20:37:41 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No she should not make her announcement on the wedding day that is a sacred day for the bride and groom. She should ask the bride if she can make her special announcement the day of rehearsal or the dinner reherasal or even after the wedding.
2006-07-08 12:01:47 · answer #7 · answered by mi120570 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is tacky. She should wait until after the wedding day. She should let the bride and groom have their fun and and celebration. I know with my family after people have gotten married, the next few days we spend visiting with each other...kind of like a 3 day reunion LOL.
2006-07-08 09:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by jenna4freedom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's really tacky. Seems like in every big wedding, there is some idiot who just can't stand for someone else to be the center of attention.
2006-07-08 13:07:57 · answer #9 · answered by kill_yr_television 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That would be really tacky of the sister-in-law to do. It's the wedding couple's day, and no one should be trying to steal away the limelight. It sounds to me like the sister-in-law is jealous that the couple will be the center of attention, and is trying to take away the focus of the day.
2006-07-08 06:43:34 · answer #10 · answered by Mama Pastafarian 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋