I’m close friends with a girl who I liked, so I told her 2 weeks ago. She responded by saying that she just wanted to be friends. But over the course of the last 2 weeks she has kissed me many times and we have cuddled together intimately in bed a lot.
She rings me 1st thing in the morning and last thing at night, and many times during the day. We go out for dinner and hang out together each day. She has told me everything about her! We talk for hours. She says she wants to meet my family and get along with them.
She still says we are friends. Says she has gotten hurt by previous boyfriends many times and not long ago and is scared of giving her heart away again. She still talks about her last boyfriend who hurt her badly – Basically used her and then suddenly stopped all contact with her!
What does this mean? Does she even like me? Am I being played for a fool and don’t see it?
2006-07-08 06:15:38 · 6 answers · asked by TRH 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Don't worry. It sounds like she feels the same way, but is afraid of being hurt again. Give her time and be there for her while she heals.
2006-07-08 06:23:03 · answer #1 · answered by Angie P. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she likes you, too. She's just got trust issues from before. The last 2 weeks sound like a test-drive. Like as long as you have the title of "friend" instead of "boyfriend" you're still considered "safe"...like if you were suddenly her boyfriend, you'd magically transform into her ex. She needs to deal with her problems with the ex and move onto you. You guys are essentially dating, just without the label of "boyfriend & girlfriend". Maybe you should point out the obvious?
2006-07-08 06:24:22 · answer #2 · answered by mytreacheryiseternal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yea, just give her time. I was the same way but by two months I knew I was in love and we are still happily together after 15 years. I had been hurt a lot too but before long it just didn't matter.
2006-07-08 08:20:39 · answer #3 · answered by Cindy P 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't push the issue too much, it sounds like shes pretty interested in you. She probably has been hurt in past relationships and is learning to take things slowly. My fiance' and I were friends for a long time and our friendship slowly progressed into more-almost exactly how yours seems to be. We have now been dating 4 years and engaged for a year. I am so glad I took the time to get to know him as a friend, it made me love him more in the long run....good luck to you and I hope you find happiness.
2006-07-08 09:52:00 · answer #4 · answered by blondieblue98 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are the boyfriend substitute. You play all the parts of a boyfriend with none of the benefits. But there is good news, when she realizes how great you are she will make you the boyfriend.
2006-07-08 14:24:27 · answer #5 · answered by darren b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she likes u but isnt sure u like her enough, girls dont like to get hurt we put shields over our hearts, give her time
2006-07-08 07:35:11 · answer #6 · answered by Victoria 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋