This boy I met kissed me again. I feel a mystical feeling when he does. Kind of other worldly. It feels as if I go into this critical mass meltdown. I want to throw him on the ground when he does but he seems to also keep me at arms length. I would like to know him more intimately. What should I do ? I ask this as a young christian.
2006-07-08 05:57:52 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
Your handle says teen...you refer to him as a boy...
He is a GOOD boy for keeping you at arm's length.
Your hormones are discovering new feelings. Neither you or he are ready for sex.
Please listen to me...I'm not a bible thumper...but I made the decision to save myself until marriage (not because of the bible, but because it made more sense to me), and it was the best thing I could've done for myself...as well as the best gift I could have given to my husband, who turned out to also be a virgin.
2006-07-08 06:05:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 2⤋
It sounds like you are getting a spiritual response or activation from kissing. This is natural and supernatural. As I have learned from personal experience - Physical expression is often extremely hard ot resist, especially once it has been entertained or done. It is nearly impossible to turn back from any physical advancement. Pray very hard and ask the Lord to do what is right in His sight for you.
2006-07-08 13:23:04 · answer #2 · answered by uspatrioteer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be very very careful you don't let lust consume you its OK to kiss but if its to hot for you maybe you should stick to holding hands and a little kiss good night at the end of a date if he truly respects you this will not be a problem for him some guys will tell you any thing to get in your pants if he is a christian this wont be a problem God Bless you.
2006-07-08 13:07:40 · answer #3 · answered by jamnjims 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't fret - this is a very normal response. It is also your warning mechanism. If the boy likes you for real, he will wait. A relationship is not about sex, but rather about love, respect, and commitment.
I would suggest speaking to other girls your age about this question on "Teen Girl Hangout" (http://vanessa15.proboards30.com/) where many of them are going through the same things and they can tell you about the consequences of the choices you make.
2006-07-08 13:05:34 · answer #4 · answered by spirestar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes kissing will do that. don't be too woried about what may or may not happen. let intimacy take its own course. remember, a human has an average of 400 thoughts per second. what you do with those thoughts is what will lead you into your future.
p.s. keep kissing, its good for you in every way thinkable.
2006-07-09 01:27:27 · answer #5 · answered by anton t 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Spend an afternoon together just hanging out & getting to know each other better. Maybe then he'll open up to you more easily! Good luck :)
2006-07-08 13:02:20 · answer #6 · answered by Blondie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christian beliefs are no sex without marriage. Give some serious thoughts about your priorities. Sex has many consequences and loses it specialness if practiced randomly.
2006-07-08 13:03:49 · answer #7 · answered by travelguruette 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flee :)
But seriously what you are doing is likely to lead to premarital sex and all of its complications.
My recommendation is to wait until marriage.
If you are old enough to get married, and if the guy truly loves you, he will be willing to wait until marriage.
Cordially,
John
2006-07-08 13:00:24 · answer #8 · answered by John 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep your guard up, when your young relationships can seem like the answer to everything, but its not.
2006-07-08 13:02:24 · answer #9 · answered by Dagfinn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to keep a level head about you. The world is more than hormones! You are stronger than this!
2006-07-08 13:01:36 · answer #10 · answered by wanderklutz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋