2006-07-08 05:56:01 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either he is not interested in you, or he is oblivious of the clues. My fiancee has told me that the cashier was flirting with me in the cheeckout line one day and I wasn't paying attention and had no clue. Also some time before I asked her out, one of her friends liked and claimed that she made it obvious, I never suspected it though. Guys don't always pick up those hints that seem obvious to girls and vice versa.
2006-07-08 06:02:47 · answer #1 · answered by chios78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends. The simple answer and the one most often used is that a guy isn't interested. That may very well be the case. But if you girl's intuition is picking up cues that he might be interested, well then other factors play into the equation. Believe it or not, many guys are even more insecure about relationships than girls are. So it might very well be the fear of commitment and/or rejection that's keeping him from asking you out.
Here's a thought: if you think that there's something there, why don't you make the first move! Ask him out. It's totally acceptable nowadays and will show your crush that you have the guts to make the first move. If he rejects the invitation, then he's probably not interested. In that case, move on to someone else and don't waste time obsessing over this guy. If he accepts, well then kudos to you! Good luck.
2006-07-08 13:10:54 · answer #2 · answered by amcstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because some guys can read clues...like me...but that's a whole different story. Some guys are afraid of rejection and would be fine just being friends with someone to avoid that feeling. What this shows is a lack of back bone. If he can't ask you out for this reason who's to say that he'll stand up for you or himself in the future.
2006-07-08 13:00:59 · answer #3 · answered by commander_fernandez 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Every one is different. Signals can be interpreted differently by different guys. The best clue has these two ingredients: Difference and Consistency. For instance, being sweet to him wouldn't mean anything if he knows you're sweet to everyone else. A good clue is therefore a signal that makes him realize you are dealing with him differently than others and make it consistent. For instance, if you are not a "touch" kind of person, that is, it's not your way touching people while conversing with them, then be a "touch" person but just with him. Everytime you're with friends show your preference to sit or stay near him.
2006-07-08 13:32:24 · answer #4 · answered by Romeo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys have feelings too and they don't want to be rejected if they ask you out cuz he may think that he could be picking up wrong signals and interpreting your body language for something else. He could also not be interested in you as a girlfriend. I like a guy right now but he won't give me the time of day cuz he has his interests in one of my frens. Hey if you like him tell a friend that you do that knows him as well and that friend could tell him for you. He could be as shy or scared as you are.
2006-07-08 13:07:50 · answer #5 · answered by Young,Sexy&Educated 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I myself don't always read the signs correctly. I know a lot of women don't know that just being nice to a guy can make the guy think they are intrested. When really they are only being themself like they are to everyone. So if I don't get a note in writting or they just keep at me I go on my way. I don't like to be rejected so I just don't bother with it unless I know for sure.
So I am just nice to everyone.
2006-07-08 13:03:38 · answer #6 · answered by Don K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well some guys are clue less and if he didnt ask u out then mabye he is not wanting you the way u did
2006-07-08 13:00:58 · answer #7 · answered by spurschick43 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He might not be interested. He could be shy. Guys are dumb. How do u know that they know? Trust me, not until it's real easy to tell or u do something big, they can't tell. Okay not really for me, they kinda knew. I'm shy but they prolly think I like em all. Now this one guy did, after I did something in PE.
2006-07-08 13:07:44 · answer #8 · answered by samantha wilson 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your guy may have partial "social blindness." He's either not picking up on the clues, or he's not interested, or he has an autism spectrum disorder.
If you want your guy to ask you out on a date, you need to tell him:
"If you ask me out on a date, I'll say 'yes.' I want you to ask me out on a date. "
2006-07-08 13:03:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
some men, like me, do not really pick up on a womans signals very well. men are not taught how a woman sends her signals out that she is receptive to being asked out. If a woman really wants a man to go out with, and he does not pick up on her signals, then she really needs to ask him out. otherwise she will never get to go out with him and he might be a really great guy.
2006-07-08 13:01:34 · answer #10 · answered by jamesarth1963 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋