Opinions please on the British woman who gave birth at 62. I think it is both selfish and ill-advised.?

Answer 1

Well, it's not ideal of course, but it's much less selfish than the thousands of child battering, drunken, druggie toerags that give brith every year but just happen to be younger. If she loves and cares for the child, then fine. None of us can predict when our parents will die and how old we will be when that happens so the arguement about her being 1,000 years old when the child is only 2 doesn't hold water. I could have been 2 years old when my parents died, or my parents could have lived to be 1,000 and still been active.
What would you prefer, a loving parent who is old, or an abusive cruel and neglectful one that's younger? Of course, the ideal is a caring parent that is also young, but we are not living in an ideal world.

Answer 2

I feel some of your views a bit harsh. I agree with a lot of the comments about once a woman has had the menopause her time for having children in over.

But on the other hand I feel this woman and her husband are going to be wonderful parents. The mother already has children so she is experienced and they have a comfortable lifestyle. The child will be loved and cherished and it is a fact that he may loose his parents earlier than other children. But is also is a fact that parents can die at anytime leaving behind a child.

Also I must add that I think this woman is more capable of looking and caring for the baby than the 12 year old chain smoking girl who is going to give birth later this year ( I think that is what I read anyway). This girl will be a drain on society whilst at least the older woman will sustain her own child financially.

It is a very difficult moral question, and although naturally she should not have had the baby I feel it is not the worst thing in the world.

That is my humble opinion.

Answer 3

ill advised?
I would have thought that even although this lady was paying to undergo ivf the doctors involved would have carried out all sorts of tests prior to agreements, for example physical and mental health of the mother to be....
Selfish?
In the respect that she may not be around to care for her child? Suppose she is much the same as a thirty four year old who has ivf then, they could die tomorrow too. In fact reaching the age of 62 in good health is probably a sign that she is likely to live for quite a few more years yet.
I am also pretty sure that this lady did not make the decision lightly and will have family supporting her.
I don't think that we the public have a right to criticise here simply because this was her choice and she has asked for nothing from the public in her pursual of this.... eg funding for ivf or benefits!
Personally I dont fancy starting motherhood at the age of 62 but hey each to their own eh!

Answer 4

I wasn't married to my woman's father yet i does not have deprived him of the adventure for some thing in the international - that second is brilliant for both figure! he will actually have a renewed appreciation for the technique once you're determining even if to have yet another baby or not. he's also able to keep in mind the discomfort and soreness you'll journey after the beginning and be extra powerful once you deliver the toddler homestead. own? ignore about it! you may have countless finished strangers getting into the shipping room randomly checking your privates, the variety of dialation, placing a decathiter (sp?), checking blood rigidity, and so on all even as your legs are propped up for undemanding get entry to. this can be no time for modesty. Your husband would not actual ought to make certain what is going on if he's through your area supplying you with help vs. on the top of the mattress the position each and every of the action is happening. reliable success and that i wish you may come to an contract you both can stay with.

Answer 5

I don't agree with it at all, not because i think the child will be any less loved or cared for by older parents in fact older parents tend to have more patience, my mum had a baby at 43, which i don't think is too old, he is two now and she has a lot more patience with him than she did with me (i am 23, big age gap i know) however the parents of the child who are 62 could god forbid pass away when they are 70, which leaves an 8 year old child lost and devastated and not knowing what will happen to him.

Answer 6

In my opinion, not that it counts for much, she is being selfish, what kind of life can the child expect to have? How will it feel to possibly be an orphan by the ripe old age of 20....if its parents live that long! My dad had me at 30 and my brother at 50 and i really feel for my kid bro, my dad can't run around and play football, can't do the things that my brother wants him to do. I think its sad and cruel. There are so many people out there who want children and can't have them and you have people like her bleating on about it to get media attention! For a start the woman is a doctor is she not? She should have been more responsible, just because her husband had no children at the age of 60 she thought it a good idea to have one for him.....i give up!

Answer 7

It is utterly diabolical and totally unethical. I thoroughly agree with most of the respondents so far but what hasn't been mentioned yet is the fact that when the poor wee kid is say 10 years old its mother will be 72, older than most natural grandparents! How would you have felt at age ten if you brought your friends into the house and introduced them your "mother"-
They would either just not believe it, you'd be laughed out of the house,called a liar or branded a weirdo and completely mortified. Imagine again at say 20, bringing your loved-one home to meet "mum" at 82. It does just not bear thinking about. All I can finish by saying is;- "god help this
poor child "

Answer 8

I wouldn't want to do it but I think it is up to her. Life expectancy for a woman is now around 80 so if she lives until then, her child would be 18.

I know a number of people whose parents were much younger than this lady when they had them but who died when they were still very young. My friend's husband was killed in his early 30's leaving a 3 year old child.

No-one seems to mind a young disabled person having a child but they may never be able to run around or play football with the child and, in fact, the likelihood of the child having to look after the parent is much greater.

Answer 9

People are living longer these days and i dont see anything wrong with it.
You can die at 20 or 100+ so whats the problem if you have the health and responsabiltity to look after a child.
Maybe you should ask why some people who have no job or income and no husband are allowed to have kids and sponge off the state.

Answer 10

There are MANY GrandMothers that are raising their kids kids now. You gain the energy as the child grows. It CAN be done, what you think cause she is in her 60's she has no energy to raise a child? HOGWASH.
At least she is older, and reolizes how to really care for a child.. much better then a CHILD raising a child!
I'm all for her, she must be tough, and well fit to have a child at that age. Good for her