My husband and I are pretty good parents,in my opinion. Everyone we meet is always saying how my son is the happiest baby they have ever seen. I know that he is to young to fully understand the word no and what it means. So, when he has a temper-tantrum, I tap his leg and say no. He does not cry, because it doesn't hurt. It doesn't even turn red. I also tap his hands and say no when he gets into something that he should not. I DO NOT HURT HIM. Well, while we were at my mom-in-laws house yesterday, he was throwing a temper-tantrum so I tapped his thigh twice. Well, my sister-in-law called and said that this was wrong, and yet they SPANK their 10 month old. And I mean all out spank! How do I get them to stop telling us what to do? This isn't the first time they've interfered either. They feed my nephew everytime he opens his mouth. He is already 30+ pounds! When my son was first born, my mom-in-law put so many clothes on him he got heat rash. I'm at my wits end with them!
2006-07-08 04:52:24 · 13 answers · asked by sean's_mom 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Next time one of them says anything tell them,Thankyou so much for the advice and I will take it into consideration when I feel that any of you are qualified to tell me how to raise my child. All of this with a smile of course.
2006-07-08 05:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Katherine B 3 · 8⤊ 2⤋
Don't ask your in-laws to babysit. There are plenty of other options. What your sister-in-law allows her parents to do to her son or how they discipline is their choice. You have to protect your child and raise him how you see fit. Speak up, kindly, when you need to. Your in-laws may not agree with how you discipline but you must teach them to respect your views and methods of child rearing. It is your responsibility to stand up for yourself. That is really the issue here. You can't change their opinions but you can ask them to respect yours. Two last things I suggest, when your child throws a tantrum, walk away. Don't respond in any way to this behavior and it will stop very quickly. Best advice I was ever given about interferring in-laws: not every comment or question needs an answer or a response. Sometimes I just ignored comments and sometimes I pretended not to hear them. (my mother-in-law used to ask us what we were doing on Sat. night and when I told her she would invite herself to join us. I started telling her strange things like, I plan to rob a bank, or, it's my turn to clean the restrooms at the park. That ended her asking.) Either way, the lack of a response, (innocently) was usually the end of the discussion. Take control of your own situation.
2006-07-08 05:26:17 · answer #2 · answered by Kat999 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call a family meeting and tell them exactly how you feel and try to politly ask them to butt out. Let them know that if they don't it will affect their relationship with you and your child because it's not good for either of you to be under that kind of stress when you are around them. Most of all good luck. Your problem is like so many other peoples so when u find the answer be sure to let us know what worked!!!
2006-07-08 04:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Mel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them how you feel. If you say nothing they will think it's ok & you'll be putting up with it forever. I've been divorced for years & my ex-m-i-l continued "sharing her wisdom" until I got pissed & told her that if she were such a good mom her 1st son wouldn't have dropped of 10th grade & needed me to fill out his job applications because he can't spell very well and her 2nd son would've moved out by now...he's 43!!!!
It shut her up & now I email every report card & award my kids get. There are so many A's she has to count them for her 2 idiot sons! LOL!!!
2006-07-08 05:03:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Toxic In-laws by Susan Forward
2006-07-08 04:55:38 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell them that everything they say will be put into consideration and that you appreciate the help they're trying to provide, but that you feel you have things under control and that you and your husband appreciate their concern.
2006-07-08 04:57:58 · answer #6 · answered by Baby_latina 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have 2 alternatives. a million. by no ability argue or attempt to verbally safeguard your self to those human beings. each little thing they do and say is "actual". while speaking with them, do not use I, me and my in case you are able to help it, and in user-friendly terms pay attention. Be agreeable in spite of in the event that they are incorrect. enable them to enhance your daughter any way they want, and don't supply them classes or tell them what you go with. in the event that they are not harming your daughter, merely enable them to babysit her their way, and stay quiet and friendly. 2. discover somebody else to video demonstrate your baby. i'm assuming you're actually not residing with them.
2016-12-08 17:13:24 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I limit the amount of time spent with my inlaws.Especially when she was being overbearing when my daughter was born.Now she backs off because she now really treasures the time together and doesn't want to do anything to screw it up.I still hate the *****!
2006-07-08 04:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by ashlie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband needs to stand up to them and tell them their two-cents worth is not being asked for and needs to stop. if that doesnt make the point, sometimes you need to distance yourself from them in order to keep the peace and maintain your own sanity and dignity. good luck--- i've been there! ---And w/ TWO different mother-in-laws now... lord help us both! lol!
2006-07-08 05:10:35 · answer #9 · answered by rdhtone! 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hhhmmm... I thought YOU were the parent. Make that VERY VERY clear. And don't criticize how they feed or treat THEIR baby, you're just doing what they do.
2006-07-08 04:58:00 · answer #10 · answered by wild_orchid_1988 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋