I live on a ship and work away for extended periods of time, which has always led to the breakdown of relationships with girlfirends. What are you thoughts on this? Do i need to quit my job, or just wait for "the one" etc????
2006-07-08 04:50:54 · 22 answers · asked by shane 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is hard for you to give up your good job- it seems.
Maybe you just need a break. Are you in the military or in the fishing business. Whatever the case, long distance relationships RARELY work. There is always somebody that has to be willing to give up things.
I was in a long distance relationship for almost a year. It started to get serious. He asked me to move up with him, but I was not willing to give up college and become a housewife. He quickly found somebody else when I decided not to run away with him.
If you are like my brother- you want the ONE to come along and make you the man you desire to be. He is almost 35 and wants a family.
What I suggest, is just live your life the best you can for no body's expectations and that special someone will come along in the right time, that you will not have to make drastic compromises or choices.
2006-07-08 05:21:26 · answer #1 · answered by xicka 2 · 13⤊ 2⤋
Dont quit because of someone or to find love. What about people like airpilot, air steward (ess), doctor, army, nun and etc?
Dont sacrifice your financial income and stablity that job brings.
Instead your should concerntrate on your job even you are lonely and at the same time try to find someone closer (are there any gals on your ship?) as potential lover/partner.
You have to be realistic at this point. Dont fall into the trap of thinking that LOCATION is the main issue here. Even you work inland, you still and will face issues in relationship but in different areas and situation. Think with your head not your heart! Try to secure and have the stability then concerntrate on love! Money is not everything but money/job could help improving and making sure you have a great love life in the future! If someone break up with you because of job/location, then you know she/he is not the one to endure and worth your time and sacrifice! Instead she/he should understand and accept your job and life!
2006-07-08 05:04:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't quit my job for a relationship unless I could find something compatible and that I liked. A relationship wont pay the bills and give you financial satisfaction. I wont say wait for the right one because that could take an eternity but you might want to consider what is worse being without. A relationship or a job
2006-07-08 04:56:12 · answer #3 · answered by dmxdragon2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dont imagine absolutely everyone needs to have a lengthy distance courting. existence takes position and receives in the way, you in ordinary words ought to artwork round it. If someone should be with their lengthy distance BF or GF adequate/or they love them adequate, they're going to bypass to the position the different human being is and end the lengthy distance element. those those who've relationships over the web or out of state "merely because" are likely dropping their time. lengthy distance relationships wont very last if there isnt dedication.
2016-11-01 10:53:02 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When I got together with my husband he was away all week, it wasn't a problem
My mum and father, father was away for 3 to 6 months at a time & that worked fine for 23 years, right up until he left my mum for another woman who worked in his digs abroad.
It can work but it takes a lot of trust, honesty & celibacy, both of you have to be comfortable having your own space & time on your own plus theres the family functions etc spent on your own.
If you can find someone happy to be on their own a lot & one who can adapt to the changes involved when your home on leave then it shouldn't be a problem altho I do see your point in it being hard to find
2006-07-08 04:59:14 · answer #5 · answered by madamspud169 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm...well is there an alternative to what work your doing? If not then, maybe you need to find a stronger women. I know some of my female friends who have been in long distance relationships and they have been through it becuase they love their man. They say it becomes even more special when you finaly get to see them.
From a mans point of view I think it is pretty tough but if you find the one maybe it is worth it.
2006-07-08 04:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by jag_amg 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At this point, you have to ask yourself what is more important, your interest in working on ships, or your desire to have a long-term relationship. If it is the latter, you might need to reconsider your career decisions, because it would be very hard for someone to deal with the constant absense of someone they love. You could wait for "the one" to see if you find someone who might like to travel with you.
2006-07-08 04:56:06 · answer #7 · answered by parachute 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that u should wait for "the one" cuz if u like ur job than u should stick to it and if u find a girl that likes that and is not that far away then u should date her (well only if u like her though)! lol! Anyway good luck in whatever u pick!
2006-07-08 04:57:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't quit your job over a girl. The "right" one will come along -- working and "living" away are totally different. I don't consider that a LD relationship.
2006-07-08 04:56:24 · answer #9 · answered by **Ã?Å·Å?Ä 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you need to find a woman who is dedicated to you and your job...i did a long distance relationship for 2 years and it worked fine...i mean, it was very hard but if you find two people that are dedicated to each other, it doesn't get in the way so bad
2006-07-08 04:54:37 · answer #10 · answered by nikki_mh02 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋