so if you are really shy how do you get someone to go out with you?

Question

cause usually they just think you are boring! and say no! but once i get to know someone im not to shy around them anymore.

Answer 1

First of all, I'm not boring. I'm really quiet. And most of the time I don't even have to ask anyone out. Guys ask me out instead. [That's still a little new to me.]

Answer 2

That's a hard one because you're right. To some people they even interpret it as if your rude or stuck up. You HAVE TO get over being shy. Your nervousness and insecurities are all in your head. Your conversations and interactions with other people are not inferior to others. Just listen to some of the stupid stuff people say. How in the world could you say things that sound worse. Even president Bush and people of his caliber screw up and say dumb stuff. Just learn to laugh at yourself and not take it serious. When I met my wife she was the shyest person around and I recognized it as a blessing knowing she was a good person. Today she can out talk me in any situation. It takes work, but you can do it and learn to be outgoing. You'll discover that people really do like you and you are unique and special to others but not everybody. It's the same with anybody. And above all don't, and I mean DON'T worry about rejection. Trust me you won't be going throw anything that even the most popular people go through.

Answer 3

yesss finally sum1 whos like mee

im extremely shy when it comes to dating and girls

but yea, once i get 2 no em, im relaly friendly

but the whole idea of dating really slows my whole thing

i havfe all ideas of what it wuld be like, but i just cant bring myself to do these things, well, i mean, i dont wanna be no 40 year old virgin, but it seems that as time goes on, i have more confidence and courage, and i duno about u, but i can speak my mind more online, or text messaging, it works, but u cant do it 4ever, so it might work as a good substitute for now at least

oh and the whole friendly thing, if u get 2 no them really well, they sometimes know u too well as friends, and just wanna remain great friends, i no... it just happened to me ; (

Answer 4

I am the same way!! When I am talking on the phone with him I am really nervous and I can't really think of anything to talk about,but then i started getting more used to him because we got to know each other better.I know exactly how you feel and I love your avatar's hair!I dont think you would be boring you would probably be a lot of fun once you got to know me.

Answer 5

i don't think so, shy people doesn't look boring to me. i'm very much attracted to shy persons because i find them mysterious and exciting in the sense that there's more about her to be discovered and it excites me.

to answer your question, i will wait for someone to accept my shyness, not unless i really like the girl. if i did like the girl, i will let her feel i ilke her without the need of saying it to her...secret love letters, furstive glances, giving her the thrill to discover who really i am.

Answer 6

once u get use to someone then u can ask them. if they like u the question will come up. i know it seems werid talking about feelings. but if u ask them enough times if they like u then they will say yes. then u can admit ur feeling. once that happends u guys have to decde on the next step. on eof u will have to mention going out. so don't worry the question will come.

Answer 7

i'm the same way you just have to get over your shyness and ask that person out and start a conversation and when guys ask me out i'm shy and sometimes i turn really red lol but sometimes i say yes but i'm really shy to say no

Answer 8

So focus on being their friend first. That way, you get to know them better and by the time you ask them out, you pretty much know what they'll say.

If all else fails, they might introduce you to some of their friends.

Answer 9

well, you just sort of answered your question. get to know them first and then you're not so shy. If she's worth the trouble, you'll ask her out. You'll find the way.

Answer 10

well, when you approach them, act like you already know them...suck it up and quit being so shy all the time...you have to be confident around people because if you show your shyness, sometimes people take advantage of you....