last week i dated with this girl that she seems interested in me. this week at work she told one of her friend that i know that
'i like him, but on first date he didn't talk much. i donno if i'll like him romantically.'
anywayz... it's her birthday tomorrow and i im going over to her place just for a while to send her some flowers and card. which consider as a second-date.... i donno what i should do or how should i act or how should i tell her that i like her and things.
i know it's hard being an Asian guy with a Swedish girl, but in the pass i have date forigne girls and they didn't like me romantically(sexually). so what i am suppose to do tomorrow!!! plz give me some advice!!!!!
2006-07-08 04:35:42 · 19 answers · asked by DOHC VTEC 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just be yourself. tell her how you feel.
2006-07-08 04:38:52 · answer #1 · answered by party_2_hearty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take her on a walk and talk. Tell her a the things about her that attracted you to her. A walk is the best way to talk and avoid those akward puases. People are more open when they are doing something else at the same time. It will seem personal and she won't have the excuse that you don't talk much. Tell her about you for a little bit so that she can feel like she knows you. Something funny, and real. No making things up. Afterwards, thank her for spending time with you. Wish her a happy birthday and then end it with, I would be honored if we could go out on again and get to know wach other better, If you're open to that. :) Good luck Darlin~
2006-07-08 11:44:27 · answer #2 · answered by Passionately Vulnerable 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, drop that crap about your asian and her swedish! That has nothing to do with your romantic interest and should NEVER have any effect on your decisions. You are you and she is she. Think looks, personality and interest. Never let race get into the mix.
Ahem...sorry. Back to the topic. Talking and communication period is a solid building block in relationships. I find it hard alot of times to talk with girls because most of the time out interest are waaaaaaaay outta there. So sometimes I make a list of things in my head or on paper of things you can strike a conversation with. But most important...if it ever gets bad, start asking about her life. Her interest, goals, thoughts. Just getting her to talk and showing a general interest in her and her feelings will show that you care alot more about her then just physical attraction. When your at her Birthday party, just be calm and yourself. Walk in, say happy birthday, give her the flowers and a kiss on the cheek. (Make sure its cheek, no more! haha) and then just join in with some conversation. Throw in some random topics with her to show her you can be conversational. Then when your gonna leave, ask for that next date.
I dont know if this will work for you or not, but just try to remember, be yourself. Forget that stuff on TV and what not, cause this is your life and things for them wont necessaraly work for you. Stay calm, think ahead and go ahead and be a bit social.If she doesnt dig you, I hate to say it, but you gotta move on.
Oh, and remember to smile, its contagious! :D
2006-07-08 11:54:46 · answer #3 · answered by GlennSueznin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her the flowers and the card, and ask her if she wants to go out for ice-cream or something. That way, you can spend some time talking to her.
She probably felt a little awkward because of your silences, but as a shy person, I know how that can be. Just think up some topics and when there's a lull in the conversation, pull up one of those and use it. Also, listen VERY carefully when she talks. She'll probably mention something she's interested in, so be sure to ask her about that.
If all else fails, just come out and tell her that you like her, but you're very shy and you get nervous around her because she's so beautiful.
Good luck! Just be considerate and make the effort to get to know her. That'll make the conversation go easier.
2006-07-08 11:41:00 · answer #4 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off be yourself, nationality doesn't matter otherwise she wouldn't have gone out with you in the first place. Tell her you enjoyed the first date and it takes you awhile to loosen up. Ask her what she enjoys doing then ask her out to an activity that is related to what she likes. As the date is winding down see if there is a way to massage her shoulders in a natural manner, all women ( and most men) enjoy that and trust me it will be remembered
2006-07-08 11:42:57 · answer #5 · answered by uniroyalfan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take her some flowers and a pretty card and go from there....just relax and let everything come naturally. Maybe try a asian girl you may feel more comfortable with her if you have had no luck in dating foriegn girls before
2006-07-08 11:38:48 · answer #6 · answered by Texas_at_its_best 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u should be urself. every woman likes a man that is sensitive, thierselves, and has a great personallity. from the sounds of ur problem u should just tell her how u feel u shouldnt care what other people think of u. as long as u care for urself and the ones u love.
2006-07-08 11:40:54 · answer #7 · answered by college_chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be nice / speak of simple things, an interesting painting, a cool download, etc/
keep it simple
don't forget to ask(before you leave), if she wants to meet for coffee
or lunch soon(don't say tomorrow)
then comes the moment of truth/it takes guts/before you turn to
walk away/lean, reach, and go for a kiss on the cheek
it's the best thing for now
2006-07-08 11:42:59 · answer #8 · answered by BluesGuitarFan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. Open up about neutral topics, don't go into anything to deep yet unless it is brought up and you feel comfortable. If she doesn't like that then shes not for you.
2006-07-08 11:39:02 · answer #9 · answered by jess14741 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All you can do is be yourself and hope she likes you for who you are. If you try to change how you are and act then in the future you might have problems.
2006-07-08 11:40:04 · answer #10 · answered by Kate 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
along with the birthday card you should write a letter of your own on a separate piece of paper and write lots of compliments about her and tell her that you like her
2006-07-08 11:41:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋