My father is 75 years old and my mother is 57 years old .My mother expect too much of me who I am28 years girl

Question

My father who is an old man do not pay attention to his wife and his children who are young and specially with my mother who becoming old now . So my mother expect too much of me and want me to prepare a good hour for her and I am a little shy girl and do not want to rely on her. What should you recomend me to do?Is it my duty to prepare her a good hour because my mother is not a social woman and has psychological disease too.

Answer 1

You are 28 years and call yourself a "little shy girl"??? What is the meaning of "prepare a good hour for her"? what do you mean by "rely on her"?

Stop pitying yourself and start taking charge of your life.

Plz write clearly what your question is. Most of us seem to be foxed by your shyness and bad english.

Answer 2

Prepare a good hour? If you'll rework this question into something we can understand perhaps someone will understand enough to formulate an answer.

As far as expecting "too much" from someone who is 28 years old - most people have a LOT of responsibilty by the time they reach your age. You're no longer a "girl". You're a grown woman who is just around the corner from middle age.

Answer 3

You mother is making you responsible for entertaining her and keeping her company, (come on, people! good hour=happy hour...duh..not you, Shirin..read on) and being the center of her life. It seems that since you are the one who has noticed and felt pressure from this, that yes, you are responsible to an extent to be the voice of peace, sanity and cheerfulness in your home. Just you alone as one person can make a difference in the mood set in your home. Of course, parents are supposed to be the ones who do this, but we do not live in a perfect world. You make sure you allow your grown self to get out and spend time away from your family...socializing with friends, even if it is just the mailman, a cashier or someone out walking the dog. You do not need to rely on her alone, but you do need to continue to honor your parents. Type out a calendar and give it to your mother. Since you are having to be the adult, take some authority (!) but be respectful. Show her WHEN you are available and when you are to be left alone. Pat her back and kiss her forehead when you tell her this. But be firm, clear and stand your ground. Hang in there. Everything will work out. One day, though, you will need to move out into your own place. Do not feel guilty when you do this. You deserve a life of your own.

Answer 4

Two good answers, Sleek's and Leo's. Do take time for yourself, and give your mother the hour she requests as honor to her. Think also of your honoring your father, because he needs attention also. He may be satisfied with only a "Hello, how are you today," but he needs his daughter to care, But try to think of yourself as a woman and not a little girl.

Answer 5

Your Mother is frightened- you said she has some psychological problems. Your Father is 75- he could be getting to the age where he needs professional medical attention.

Ask your family for help and opinions- see if they have some specific insight that may be helpfull ok? :)

Answer 6

hmm..i quite of understand your question..you see,your mother has psychological disease right?..why don't you spend some of your time(when you are free) and try to bring her out of your home,taking a walk in the flower garden perhaps..try to introduce your mother to someone who is at her age..preferably women of course..this could help to reduce her psychological disease..you see,people with this kind of disease always feel a kind of stress..maybe by taking her for a walk in the garden,having such an enjoyable time there with you and your other siblings,bring along a picnic basket filled with healthy food and herb tea(it is good for reducing stress especially when you drink it while it's still hot).pick up some flowers for her and give it to her..this works as a kind of aromatherapy and don't forget to let your mother having a talk with someone at her age..don't feel stress for doing this.she is the woman who has given birth to you,this is the only way you can pay your debt to her..

Answer 7

I am trying to understand your question.This type of questions are very important.Though we don't have a satisfying answer.If your mother has a psychological disease then it's important to know if she is clever or is she innocent?Is she creating problems for you to win your attention or does she just want to be with you?People behave differently in psychological diseases.So if she just wants to be with you then give her time.May be your father needs a break too.he has done enough now.

Answer 8

Is it just me or did this question seem to mess with your head a little? I didn't know if my glasses were on too tight, so I put in my contacts, but still no good. Hmmmmmm? It's gotta be the question! Maybe I just didn't get enough rest last night?

Answer 9

For Gawd sake I am suffering the same as Flyngbumblebee. Its doing my head in. Sleek injected something that kinda made sense but Im still going crazy trying to decipher your question. Please re-type it so we know exactly what you mean unless its intentional. Bye the way at 57 your mother is not that old so she can still do for herself .

Answer 10

One person understood your question and gave a very good solution to your dilemma.. You implied there were more children.... then why is this chore left to you alone? Make arrangements for the other siblings to work out a solution for you and allow them to share the burden.