My Best Friend Is Getting Married!?

Question

She asked me to be her Maid of Honor, but what all does a Maid of Honor do?

Answer 1

What you do depends on the individual bride and what she feels comfortable in delegating to you. Some brides will just want you to show up for the big day in the attire she wants, have you just hold her bouquet for her during the ceremony, and sign the marriage certificate as witness. Some brides will expect the maid of honor to be an active part in planning and getting married -- or somewhere in between.

Generally, the maid of honor is in charge of helping the bride get down the aisle on her wedding day and be able to enjoy the rest of her big day. Before her big day you can make yourself available to help her with her wedding planning, like trying on a bridal gown and anything else that she may need advice on.

If no one else is doing it, you can throw a bridal shower and bachlorette party for the bride before the wedding. You can keep track of what gifts are received and help write thank you cards.

You are also responsible for making sure you have all the attire the bride wants you to wear for the wedding.

Also you will have to be there for the wedding rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner given by the groom's family. The wedding rehearsal is where everyone works out how the ceremony will go -- who will stand where and say what.

Then the day of the wedding, your job will be to be the brides' assistant keeping the distractions of the bride to a minimum so she can concentrate on getting ready for her big day. Talk to the bride about how much she wants to delegate to you on the big day and be there for her. You also can help her get into her gown
and get ready.

At the ceremony you will be going down the aisle with the best man and stand to the next to the bride during the ceremony. During the ring exchange, you will have to pass off your bouquet to a bridesmaid and take her bouquet.

After the ceremony, if she has a long train on her dress you will need to help her with that. If you desire you can make a toast after the best man does or after the parents.

Then just have fun knowing you helped someone through one of the biggest days of their lives.

Answer 2

You will be supporting your friend in her decision to get married. Its a great honor to be chosen to be the maid of honor. Everyone is different you may want to ask her what she would expect of you as a Maid of Honor. There is no tradition these days.

Answer 3

a maid of honor has a big job. You would normally throw her a shower. You help her pick out not only your dress but her dress also. Keep her from becoming Bridezilla, help with planning the wedding, decorations, filling out invitations, bachlorette party, that is all before the wedding.
On wedding day you be there for her, drive her everywhere, getting her hair done, helping her get dressed, blotting not only the sweat but the tears that she is going to have on that day, plus you have to fix her train when she moves during the wedding, ( the priest should tell you when to do that at the rehersal).
OH and dont forget, you have to stay with her the night before the wedding, she will need you, and you shouldn't let her see or talk to her groom from 12 am the night before until the wedding.

Good luck it is a big job but a big honor also.

PSS.........and you have to say a speech at the Reception.............

Answer 4

a maid of honor stands by her side--a best friend. throw her a bachelorette party, that's a maid of honor's job. help her decide stuff about the wedding and decorate the wedding and reception area with her and or her family.

Answer 5

a maid of honor is in charge of making sure the bride is ready for the wedding, the bachorlette party, making a toast st the reception, and any other little tasks the bride may assign to you. Congrats.

Answer 6

One important aspect of being the Maid of Honor is that you are one of the "witnesses" to the Marriage Vows and as such you will be required to sign the legal Marriage Certificate as being one of the witness of that ceremony. The Best Man is the other legal witness... After the ceremony you both will go into the church's vestibule or Justice's office to sign the Marriage Certificate. So both of your names will be forever on that legal document... plus you will have other duties described in the answers given on this question... Good luck... practice your penmanship... :)

Answer 7

your forgot to add..she usually stands next to the bride while shes getting married.... and if the bride doesn't show up..the maid of honor fills in and marries the groom..

Answer 8

I found this great web site with lots of good tips:

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Maid of Honor Duties
As the Maid of Honor or Matron of Honor, you have one of the most important roles in making sure the bride's and groom's wedding is a success. Many times the groom will not help out as much as the bride would like which is why your role is so important! Below we have listed some of the top maid of honor duties to make the process more manageable and creative:

Pre Wedding

Help in going with the bride to look at different locations for the wedding. Many times the Bride needs help in choosing where to have the ceremony and party besides what day and time to have the wedding. Ask if you can participate in this process since it can be a very stressful.

Help the bride choose her wedding invitations as well as possibly address the invitations if she needs your support. Many times a bride may outsource her invitations but if they need to be addressed by the family, your help will be key in reducing the load of tasks to complete.

If the bride needs help in ordering and choosing decorations and favors, your opinions may be helpful in making decisions for narrowing down choices and making sure the decorations are in on time for the wedding, shower and bachelorette parties.

Go with the bride when she is shopping for her wedding dress as well as the Bridesmaid Dresses. It is very important to help make sure the dresses are ordered and arrive in enough time for alterations! It is helpful for you to attend the multiple fittings in giving your friend some feedback in how the dress looks and fits. Check out our partner, Perfect Bridesmaid Dresses, for great name-brand discount wedding and bridesmaid dresses.

Many times the groom does not want to go to register with his bride-to-be. You can be very supportive by going with your friend to register for her wedding gifts as well as letting other guests know where the bride and groom are registered. This is a very fun experience so take part in the choosing if she needs help.

Help the bride in the seating arrangement. This can be a very difficult process with the more people coming to the wedding. Many times it makes it easier to draw out the tables and move people around until you have a close to perfect fit. Note: It is very helpful to bring this drawing to the wedding just in case there are any mix-ups, you will save the day!

Host and Plan the Bridal Shower as well as the Bachelorette Party!

Help keep order and organization with the other bridesmaids.

Attend and help out during the rehearsal dinner. Many times the bride, groom and their families are pre-occupied and forget about things which is where you can save the day by being organized.

Field messages for the bride and her family to make sure you are up on any changes (especially if they are last minute changes that affect the other guests).

Wedding Day

Make sure the bride arrives to the ceremony and that she has everything on the Maid of Honor Checklist that we have created to make your life easier.

Assist the bride in getting into her dress and makeup

Be the messenger if the bride wants to communicate messages to the family or groom so you are always up on what is going on.

Visit the reception room and party room (if possible) to make sure there are no problems or issues. It is much better to be proactive.

Help make sure the bride has privacy if she needs some quiet time before the ceremony.

Be the witness in the signing of the marriage license which is an honor!

Help the bride with her veil and train (if she has one). I have seen many weddings where brides have tripped on their train which takes away from her experience for a moment.

Be your friend's "right-hand-woman" at the altar. She may be very nervous and you can be the calming source with your presence.

Keeper of the brides bouquet during the ceremony. Make sure you have a free hand.

Keeper of the groom's ring. It is your task to also make sure the groom's ring is in your possession at all times until you give the ring over to the bride!

Make a toast and/or speech during the wedding party since it is tradition and most people love hearing these friendship stories!

Make sure you lock up the bridal/groom money bag after the bride and groom dance with all of their family and friends so someone does not steal or pick it up by accident.

Last, but not least, provide moral support and be a great listener throughout the process since it is a very wonderful and "positively" stressful time for your friend. You can really make the difference!

Answer 9

a maid? you have the honor to wash the dishes, throw garbages, clean the house, baby sit, and lots more...

Answer 10

ur in charge of throwing the bachelorette party making a toast holding the ring organizing the bridal shower help bride write and mail invitations/thank you notes making sure she arrives to the church on time and any other errend that is requested by the bride good luck and have a blast