I have a 3 year old little boy who may have a learning disability (doctors are not sure). He doesn't talk and doesn't listen to instruction. Basically doing whatever he wants and it's really hard to disapline him because he just starts hitting himself. He throws temper tantrums on a constant and daily basis. I feel like I am going nuts because I am unsure of what to do. Anyone with any advice on this . . . I need it badly.
2006-07-08 04:15:29 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I have a friend who had a similar situation. It turns out her boy was autistic. The tantrums and the hitting sound VERY much like autism. I also worked w/ disabled children as a para-professional for 2 years and have a cousin w/ the disability. And again, the behaviour sounds very much like autism to me.
I am not a pofessional though, and have no concrete way of diagnosing. I would get to another Dr. Someone who specializes in diagnosing disabilities. There are many tests that they can run.
Know that if it is autism, there are many therapies and treatments that can help you both cope w/ the differences in his behaviour and learn to communicate w/ one another.
Good luck!
2006-07-08 04:26:19 · answer #1 · answered by melonamc 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
From the description that you gave, it's hard to narrow down exactly what disability your son has. My brother has aspergers syndrome, which is a very mild form of autism. Some character traits of this are delayed speech, complusive movie/ videogame watcher, he doesnt understand facial expressions or veral expressions or idioms well, does not like loud noises, does not like change, these people intlectually (spelled wrong i know) are as sharp as a pin, socially however is a disaster. The hitting himself that you described does not sound like an aspergers trait...but i could be wrong there. Because your son is only three it can be extremely difficult to determine exactly what is wrong, but if you do find that something is wrong seek out information immedeatly. Hope this helps.
2006-07-08 11:30:41 · answer #2 · answered by carla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have the answers for you, but I do recommend reading books that can give you great advice.
My son is 6 now and at three I was screaming to myself (it's not the terrible two's it's the terrible three's!!!!!!!!!!) Boy's are very difficult than girls. At that age it is normal. My son would talk, but talk back to me saying horrible things like wishing I was dead. I took him to the doctor and they suggested a Phycologist (sp?).
I took him their and it helped a little. Basically the Doctor was telling me that his communication is harder to express than what we expect from them.
This is a difficult stage!! I know, I was there! This is what I would say "This too shall pass" I would put on some classical music with no words and just turn up the volume and hold my son dancing softly, swaying back and fourth to calm him A LOT!
Take deep breaths and count to a 100! Plus if you want him to listen to you, whisper, he'll be quiet enough to want to know what you're saying. And a great book or video to watch is "1, 2, 3 Magic" It helps me still today!
Good Luck!
2006-07-08 11:26:37 · answer #3 · answered by DrPepper 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My son didn't talk until just about a year ago he is 5 now. He would get upset and bang his head on things (soft stuff) we found out that he had (since birth) such a build up of wax in his ears that he couldn't hear so nothing was getting through. It maybe something as simple as that but I am surprised that the doctors he has seen has not given you more info on where to take for specialised testing.
2006-07-08 11:20:02 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately, we're not an expert on this subject... but we have a nephew with a learning disability and the behaviour you describe is not normal for a child of that age. We would advise you to see other doctor's until you get one that you trust who can make a reasonable diagnosis.
2006-07-08 11:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by Dan&Jen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont give him anything hard to hit himself with. Cushion the surroundings. Find better help and better consultant. Learn how to control him and try out find what pacifies him when he is agitated. Presence of some special person or thing may calm him down. Good luck.
2006-07-08 11:31:13 · answer #6 · answered by spj 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think its probabley Autism. their are different forms and different degrees of severity. but there is definatley something wrong. look up the symptoms of Autism on the internet. my nephew is autisic and is now 8 and my sister has used alot of behavioral tutoring and he has progressed so much. there are state funded programs that can help you with this problem. but you will also need to take time to learn about this, because there are different ways to approach his disability, you need to have alot of patience because he is probabley frustrated that he cant' communicate what his wants or needs are to you. seek help, advice, and counsel from another doctor. good luck to you hun, i can't imagine going through this.
2006-07-08 11:22:13 · answer #7 · answered by toni h 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like your son may have autism. It almost makes them go into a different world of their own. Sometimes they may be very responsive while other times they may pay no attention to their surroundings, appearing perfectly content with themselves. It is a bit hard to diagnose. Take a look to get a better idea
http://www.webmd.com/hw/mental_health/hw152186.asp
2006-07-08 11:30:16 · answer #8 · answered by John 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find a doctor that specializes in autism. This sounds like it might be the case.
He will need special attention but they are making progress.
2006-07-08 11:27:08 · answer #9 · answered by redunicorn 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not diagnosing here, but what you describe sounds like autism.
Take your son to a specialist. I hope you have good insurance.
Good luck to you and your son.
2006-07-08 11:28:55 · answer #10 · answered by Bethany 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋