the man is 35 y and his wife is 30 years,she is no more able to have sex after the surgery.what should the man do as he is still young and has strong desire for sex and having children? he still loves here,but has nothing in hand!shull he leave the churches teachings and marry a 2nd wife,while keeping the first one?
2006-07-08 03:33:11 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
he can convert to Islam, and marry another wife and still keep his first wife. perfect solution.
2006-07-08 03:40:08 · answer #1 · answered by saif6020 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Yes, after all, Lance ARmstrong left cheryl crow because she had breast cancer. It's the latest rage to leave your loved one if they get cancer. However, he would have to move to one of those arab countries to have more than one wife or convert to that mormon sect that allows for more than one wife. Wait, I have an idea! Why not just keep the wife he has. There are lots of lovemaking techniques that do not involve the genitals and they could do an angelina jolie and adapt. So the choice is armstrong his wife or jolie with her. Hmmm........this is a hard one. I hope others on yahoo can add some advice.
2006-07-08 03:40:22 · answer #2 · answered by yamaha45701 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he loves her, I think he should stay with her, not get a second wife... If he was a Christian, he would know to stay with this woman during her hard time. he should also pray for her and to give him wisdom to figure this out. I think that is a pretty stupid question though. Christians aren't supposed to leave people in their hard times, but rather love them and support them. Think of the wife. She has cancer, her husband left her because of sex, that would be pretty heart breaking. Tell him (or maybe you) to stay with her and don't get a second wife. That is not a Christian thing to do.
2006-07-08 03:40:48 · answer #3 · answered by VGW 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are still many ways for the couple to enjoy each other without intercourse. There are also still ways for them to have children.
I see the decision to leave your wife over this not even a Christian thing. It's a question of respect and commitment. Did he not make a promise to be with her and respect her always? Did he not promise to care for her in her sickness?
We've come to believe that if we have urges and desires, that's justification for anything, up to and including abandoning our families.
If he leaves her, I would pray that she finds comfort and realizes she's better off finding out how unfaithful he is now than later.
2006-07-08 03:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by olelefthander 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People fail to realize that when they got married they weren't just making vows to each other. More importantly they were making vows to God. If you make a vow to God that you will stay together thru the good times and the bad and in sickness and in health, then you may want to consider what God would think about that. Would you also leave if financial problems came up. I mean which vows are you going to keep? You will be much more respectable as a person if you stay in your marriage. I totally disagree that he has nothing in hand.
2006-07-08 03:49:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your church teaches you that you will go to hell if you cheat on your wife or take another wife. If you had a "christian marriage", you said "till death do us part".
I feel sorry for your wife, having to go through cancer, and then being stuck with the kind of husband that would ask complete strangers this sort of question!
2006-07-08 03:40:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats horrible of you to say something like that. Honor your wife, through sickness and health. remember taking that vow? what if the situation was the other way around, would you want her to go against God and get a second husband? that is so thoughtless and mean. SHE IS YOUR WIFE. I guess your faith isnt that strong, or you wouldnt even think of such a thing. Shame on YOU.
2006-07-08 08:06:57 · answer #7 · answered by crazytown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course he should stay. Here is an opportunity for him to discover and demonstrate a deeper love in action and go to much farther depths of love in his marriage than sex could ever bring. Did he marry her for love or for sex? If he really loves her, they will work something out. Cheating, addtional partners, etc., is out of the question.
2006-07-08 03:58:47 · answer #8 · answered by Paul H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem here is not of genital cancer. The person who ask the question is a Muslim... there is the point.
This is the problem with religions. All preach God but none knows Him.
2006-07-08 03:39:15 · answer #9 · answered by latterviews 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This sounds like a question for the mans pastor not a bunch of heathens on Yahoo answers.
2006-07-08 03:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Michael F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
fostering.. adoption .. so many other ways to have children in your life while also doing the more christian thing ... bringing love to others as well as keeping the love in the marriage .. although i am unsure what kind of christian would consider leaving
2006-07-08 03:40:37 · answer #11 · answered by Peace 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋