I do not think that it is fair to the one who is sitting at home with hardly anything to do while the other partner is gallavanting all over the United States. The person who is traveling across the U.S. as part of the job was supposed to be enrolled into college this fall, but decided to put it of til spring semester. This person is also 21 and lacks motivation. The person at home is 18 and is going to be attending the Naval Academy which will seperate them even more. Is this fair and how can this be resolved?
2006-07-08 03:30:11 · 16 answers · asked by ashley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's not fair, but it's reality. But is the distance really the problem?
If it is, then make the best of a bad situation...try to keep in touch, write letters, use the internet. This could be an opportunity to get to know each other in a different way - you'll discuss things you might not have talked about in person.
To me, though, it sounds like you're upset with more than just distance. The other person is "gallavanting" across the country and "lacks motivation"...they're not 'taking advantage of a job opportunity' or really doing anything positive. If something about this person's personality or ambitions is truely bothering you, then it's time to stop sitting alone at home...
In fact, it's time to stop sitting alone at home anyway. Even if you decide this person is worth going through the lonliness of a long distance relationship, you don't need to just sit around and wait for them to call. Get your own temporary job, go out with friends, find something to make yourself feel useful! I know it's easier said than done...good luck!
2006-07-08 03:54:41 · answer #1 · answered by Kat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well Ashley....It really cant be.
If there is no motivation to settle down. Then there is not much you can do.
Besides, You two are way to young to be thinking about settling down right now anyway. I dont think any commitments should be made to each other until all your wild oats are sown.
I think the "passionately in love" part is just your imagination at work. When I'm passionately in love, I dont even like going to the store alone, forget about gallavanting across the US.
I'm assuming your the one going to the Naval Academy? Well congradulations!! Thats quite impressive! It means your smart and motivated. It will be a very difficult first year and you will probably have your share of "escapades" to relieve the stress.
Its not a good time for either of you to make promises that neither of you will be able to keep
Good Luck!!
2006-07-08 03:39:19 · answer #2 · answered by werk2much2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW! Although our situations are different, I'm in the same boat! LOL
I've met a man (my true love) and he is in another state working a contract job. He's unable to come here at all for at least three months.
His intent originally was to move to my state and we were going to have a life together. But the job here fell through and he had no choice but to stay there (for now).
My advice . . . take a day at a time and see what happens. Keep your communication lines open! If it's truly meant to be, it will happen for you, when God decides it's time, not you! This is exactly what we are doing and so far, it's working! We are keeping the faith in hopes that "he and I are supposed to be a we" in God's plan.
I hope that made sense.
GOOD LUCK!!!!!
2006-07-08 03:36:37 · answer #3 · answered by penwrite5 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Millions of couples are seperated due to several reasons, mainly of the job responsibilities !!! Eventhough it is painful and unjustifiable, there is apositive side to it. Only when you are seperated you understand the deep fettish and love you have each other.Now I am sure you will be relishing each moment of your togetherness and that keeps you longing for togetherness!!21 & 18 are ages of deep passion but it will mature while time passes.Your other partner also will be on these lines but h may not be expressive like you!!!
2006-07-08 03:41:51 · answer #4 · answered by THE WORRIER 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Worrying about the problem doesn't make it go away. Be straight with the other person, lay it on the line "fish or cut bait." If it's meant to work out then it will and there's nothing you can do to stop it, and miles and naval academies apart won't make a difference.
2006-07-08 03:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Paul K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The Bible is against a lot of things. If we were to all follow it to the Tee we would walk around like zombies. No one is sin free and no sin is better than the other, they're all equal. If I'm sinning for loving a woman for who she is than dub me the most sinful because it's the most beautiful thing I've ever felt! Screw what everybody else thinks.
2016-03-26 21:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going to break up. I have seen this a million times, especially when the other is a man and the feamle is in the military. I am sorry.
2006-07-08 03:34:49 · answer #7 · answered by boxing_fan_4_wlad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's life and it is not fair most of the time but both of you are still young and you never know there is the whole world in fron of you
2006-07-08 03:34:41 · answer #8 · answered by Tuxi X 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two people who are passionately in love can not be separated regardless of how far apart they are physically.
2006-07-08 03:33:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like money and government rule your lives. Are they more important?
2006-07-08 03:56:55 · answer #10 · answered by tiger_skratch 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋