why am i so stressed with 2 kids, how do i relax and let my guard down and stop stessing?

Question

They are 31/2 and 1/12 and i stay home and seem stressed out when my hubby gets home. they just always fuss and i know i am making to much out of this situation but i cant even type now my 31/2 yr old is grabbing me and my 1 1/2 is crying!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please tell me some tips!!!!!!!!!!!!before i go insane!!!!!!!!

Answer 1

Hey your 3 1/2 year old is just getting old enough they can help you out alot more. 1 1/2 is tough. Let's see what did I do?

You can start getting out alot more, especially with a double stroller. If your kids like walks thats a great activity, the park is good too, but the 1 1/2 will require alot of attention cause they'll want to climb and stuff (and they are probably not good at it). Mine didn't take naps. I finally started quoting a magazine to my wife (who works full time+ while I stay at home). When she'd ask what was for dinner, I'd give her the "Are you crazy" look. LOL. She read the same article. Another one said I got bonus points if even one of my families hair was combed, or I had a bowl of actual fruit somewher. That was good.

If you're mother or mother-in-law draws a perfect picture of child rearing, don't buy it. Every kid sneaks downstairs by themself sometime. Every kid plays in the sink (my older kids both did this when they went to go potty after they where potty trained).

I guess there isn't alot you can do to make it go smoother, other than discipline the 3 1/2 year old well (consitent and gentle with husband using same rules consitently). 1 1/2 if rough, no real getting around it they'll keep you busy.

Hope this helps you feel better though!

Answer 2

Well girl, I have 5 children and a step-son.... I am only 23. The ages are 7, 6, 4, 2, and 3 months... So i am constantly feeling the way u r.... Its not easy but you just have to try to stay relaxed and not get so stressed, try and play with them, get to their level. It's very hard tyo do.. I Am always being a ***** when my hubby comes in. It's really not fair to him... Also a big thing is make sure they take a nap eveyrday and go to bed early at night... It really helped me when I started doing that. Then you have time for yourself during the day and time for ur man at night.... Hope I helped a little anyway.. Crystal

Answer 3

I have the same problem - they get bored and need CONSTANT entertaining.
The key is to have a strict schedule and KEEP to it! Cartoon for 30 mins, then a book, lunch at 12:30, nap at 1, etc.... It doesn't get easier either - I have a 6 yr old and a 2 yr old - the 6 yr old needs more attention then the 2 yr old!
The only other option is called alcohol! but then you would be so smashed you'd stray from your new schedule! Good luck!

Answer 4

I have been there and it DOES get better!! For me when hubby came home it was like taking care of 3 kids. I would "try" and take a shower and cry to get it all out. It is a very hard time. Find someone you trust to watch the kids for a few hours and go out to eat with some friends. It really does get a little bit better when they older!!!! God Bless!!!!!!!!!!

Answer 5

You need to find someone to take the kids(someone you can trust for a couple hours) go out with friends or just do something you want to do for yourself. Sometimes you have to take a few breaths and breath to let the stress out. Find a kids show Noggin is a good channel if you have it, its for kids Tell them to watch tv while you do some housework and then let them know when your done you will take them outside for awhile. if they be good for you. I know its hard but trust me you have to lay down some rules for the kids and your husband. Tell your husband he has to help you out too cuz down the road its not gonna get any easier. I have an 8yr old with adhd and I work and in the evenings is the only time I have to clean. My husband swing shifts one week daylight and one week afternoon. so when he is on evenings its very hard for me to get anything done so i tell her i will put a movie on for her and when its done we will do something together its works 75% of the time. Good luck When the kids go to be also you can go and take a long bubble bath and play some calming music if you can to help relax you. good luck.

Answer 6

Make your man stay at home with them for a while!!!! Go out for a little bit to keep your mind. Or find a baby sitter or someone in your family to watch them for you for a few hours a week. It does wonders.If you got them all the time. You can find a tv show and let them watch it and just relax for a little bit drink your favortie drink and let them learn its your time and ignore them. Trust me they will not like it at first but will get use to it. Or let them play outside and get yourself fresh air. Maybe enroll them in a preschool, and go walk around for a while. With us I got 5 kids love the fact that all but one are in school now before the baby came i home schooled 4 of them. But I also love to walk the dog all by myself and think I'm alone if I got just the baby who is now 9 months old and I'm trying to leave with my man and rest of the kids.

Answer 7

Take your kids outside. Get out of the house, all three of you. Go walk in the park, stop at a playground, give them productive things to do. Talk to your husband about your stress. Make sure he understands that you're having trouble coping.

Answer 8

try putting them down for a nap or quiet time at the same time this will give you at least an hour of peace do it just before dad comes home (around 3 or so) and it's summer now so more outside time will run that extra engery off.. and its a good idea to have a mommy day (a day to yourself)

Answer 9

They feel your stress and react to it in the same way. Try having fun with them. Take them outside, color with them, play with play dough, or read to them. While doing chores make a game of it with them, "Let's see who can pick up the most ___________(color objects, shape objects, things that begin with a letter). This will teach them and you all will have fun at the same time. Laughter is one of the best ways to reduce stress. Enjoy and Have a GREAT Day!

Answer 10

you are going thru post partum.during the day take at least 1 hr out for yourself or ask a family member to come sit for 1 hr so that you can be to your self.