My 17 year old daughter wants to give blood. She has looked it all up and you have to be 17 or over to do so, she has had tests done and has been given to go ahead.
The problem is, i dont agree with it. I have told her i dont like the idea, and she just said she wants to help people how ever she can. She is already doing vouluntary work at a PDSA surgury, helping to run a charity shop and works with children with a disabilty at weekends...now she is giving blood...what can i do to change her mind????
2006-07-08 02:50:30 · 46 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Other - Health
Im against it because i was raised myselfto believe that people take care of themselves, not to have others look after them..i know that sounds terrible but that was how i was forced to be, i have tried it with her and she said she doesnt want nayone telling her what to do.
2006-07-08 02:55:07 · update #1
we're in the uk, and she has called the local hospital and they said you have to be between 17-60
2006-07-08 02:56:10 · update #2
Sounds like your daughter is a lot more mature than you. I hope when you're in the Emergency Room and need a pint they are fresh out.
After all you were raised to be self-reliant so I am sure you'd never accept the blood anyway, right? You'd just bleed to death in the ER?
2006-07-08 02:55:25 · answer #1 · answered by Sir J 7 · 4⤊ 0⤋
I am not being funny but how would you feel if (God forbid) one day you had to have emergency surgery and the doctors told you 'sorry we would do it but we can't because a bunch of people refused to give the x pints of blood needed to do your operation. They are normally very good about donating but refuse to donate for you because they said you were too selfish'? What if you knew it was life or death for you and the verdict depended on the good will of people like your daughter? Would you still feel the same?
I am all for the maxim of people doing what they can to help themselves but giving blood is different to encouraging people to take social responsibility for themselves and get a job/not take drugs/etc. Where would the victims of the London bombings be without people like your daughter? You could hardly accuse the victims of that atrocity of not helping themselves...
Clearly you think your daughter is already 'doing her bit' by working as a volunteer at the PDSA but sometimes we need to help others in more radical ways, no matter what doctrines we are brought up with. It sounds to me as though your daughter knows this. No doubt the London bombings crystallised this realisation in her mind. Perhaps you could learn from her example instead of trying to dissuade her from doing a selfless and noble thing...
Incidentally, put yourself in other shoes. Supposing your daughter needed an operation. Wouldn't you be willing to give blood for that? If for her, why not for anyone else?
2006-07-14 01:15:24 · answer #2 · answered by Hallber 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please see the webpage for more details on Blood donation. I suggest that your daughter may give blood to a modern blood bank. Then will separate plasma and platelets. The remaining blood cells (RBC+ WBC) will be returned to the donor ie to your daughter. I hope this suggestion will be acceptable to you and your daughter.
Apheresis
Rather than donating whole blood, a donor sometimes has the option to donate only some blood components while retaining others. This process is known as apheresis, and is more involved, time consuming, and requires more specialized equipment. The benefit is that more of the desired components can be concentrated and removed, and the donor is usually able to donate significantly more frequently than if whole blood had been removed. In some cases, the usefulness of the removed components is not as sensitive to blood type considerations.
The typical method of apheresis is to draw whole blood from the donor, then centrifuge the blood to separate its components (see apheresis for more information). The desired components (e.g. platelets, plasma) are removed and then the remaining components are returned to the donor.
2006-07-08 03:53:56 · answer #3 · answered by gangadharan nair 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She must have been a social worker, a nurse or looking after old age home in last birth. This is great, the helping nature at so young age. Now this blood donation business is murky. Unless of course the receiver is directly getting it.
What about chances of infection, blood not useful ultimately for anyone etc. Blood gets made up in a months time, even if given this way. This authors dislike for blood donation is that bloos does not go do receiver free, even if you donate it free. secondly, the process involves risks.
2006-07-08 02:57:20 · answer #4 · answered by shirishbhate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a daughter who not only wants and believes that she can save the world, but is willing to go the extra mile to do it. I don't understand your reluctance to allow her to help. It sounds as if she has a full load of things to do, but giving blood is a short amount of time. My advice is to let her go. Go with her to be there. It may be just the comfort you need
2006-07-08 02:57:12 · answer #5 · answered by jayjesusfreak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok you may say that people should take care of themselfs i agree to some extent
BUT
what happens if someone has to have an operation through no fault of their own
tonsilitis for example
or if someone was attacked or had an accident
think if your daughter was run down by a car or attacked for no reason or needed an operation
would you want her to be given blood donated by kind caring people who want to help others or would you want her to die on the operating table through lack of available blood
2006-07-08 20:02:10 · answer #6 · answered by mumoftheyear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in this case she has the right to make her own answer, I think the best scenario is to agree to disagree.. It sounds likes she making some pretty adult decision's and not selfish ones at that.. You taught her now shes becoming that woman, along with her own strengths and ideas.. Wow.. Look around you I personally think you have a lot to be proud of... :)
2006-07-08 03:00:35 · answer #7 · answered by Kat (with wisdom under her hat) 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats the problem, it is saving peoples lives and its not as though people can just concoct it right there is it??
I think if thats what she wants to do then you should let her do it, she clearly cares bout people and that will look good on her uni applications if she's thinking about uni, she's going to do it anyway so support her in doing it, and she won't have to sneak around about it, at least she's told you, good luck and well done I say to her!!
2006-07-08 02:58:18 · answer #8 · answered by Im_Liverpool_Til_I_Die!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to stop ur daughter from helping others. Should be proud of her.
Not everyone is as selfish as you
legal age in UK is 17 also for USA
2006-07-08 02:55:09 · answer #9 · answered by onename 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I pose a slightly different scenario: -
If two people, very close to each other (as you both are), had totally opposing views on organ donation (which you may). If one of the these two people died and it were left to the other person to decide on what should be done, would it be right for the person left behind to follow the wishes of the person who has passed on, or their own views? (Seems to be a simple answer, if you love and respect the other person.)
Even if you have different views, shouldn't you be supporting your daughter and respecting her views, not forcing your views on her.
2006-07-08 06:18:23 · answer #10 · answered by Here there and everywhere 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋