i want my daughters father visits when it's convient for him. the crumbs of his time. now my door has been open for him anytime he wanted to visit but now i feel like i have to establish some type of rules because he is taking advantage.he hasn't visited for a week and hasn't even called.this is the longest he has hasn't visited and i'm not comfortable with that. just because i'm a woman and our daughter lives with me doesn't mean he gets to be a whenever he wants to dad. i need som insight. how can i establish a good set-up for us. and my daughter doesn't go to his house because he has an undesirable lifestyle.i can't force him to visit but i don't want him coming and going with the feeling he seems to have of no real responsibility
2006-07-08 00:36:59 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he can call you before going to your home and ask you if that is a good time to visit
2006-07-08 00:40:34 · answer #1 · answered by batinara 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make up a list of rules that you want to establish for his visits to your home to see your (meaning both of you) child. Invite him around or choose a public place to discuss these rules and how you want them applied (a public meeting place would greatly lessen a possibility of an outburst should he not be in agreeance with your rules) Remember one very important thing.... it is your home he comes to when visiting his daughter so you have every right to set ground rules for those visits. I would suggest you seek legal advice on this matter at least for back up purposes (if you dont do this this and this then legaly I can do this this and that). Good luck.
2006-07-08 00:58:00 · answer #2 · answered by AussiePete 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Even if you go to court and get a formal visitation order, the court will not force him to visit. If he violates the order in terms of always changing the day or time, or keeps her longer than he is supposed to, you can the apply for contempt .
If he is not paying the required amount of child support (or none), going to court will result in an order for support, but using that to force him to visit will not work for long.
The sad fact is, outside of child support, he really has no responsibilities. That's the thing most women don't want to hear about before they have an out-of-wedlock child, or even any child if they ARE married.
2006-07-08 00:45:18 · answer #3 · answered by thylawyer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's tough... on the one hand, you want your daughter to have her father. But on the other hand... not this way... How old is your daughter, and have you discussed this with her? If possible, I would try to reach an agreement with her father outside of court, although sadly, it sounds like that may be the only way. Good luck.
2006-07-08 00:41:18 · answer #4 · answered by Bunny*Run 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Reread your documents on visitation,if there is nothing in it to guide you,go to your lawyer and have one rewritten and go to court to have it legalized.
2006-07-08 01:02:04 · answer #5 · answered by rosie w 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can have a time setup by the court.
2006-07-08 00:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by Dr Dee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋