Would you allow your child to drop out of school if he/she was failing and did not care?

Question

What if they were content working at a fast food place or doing janitorial work?

Answer 1

Yes, accompanied by some strict tough love. Set a realistic rent based on the local rental rates, and insist that they get a job. Set time limits and stick to them. Do not be afraid to put them out on the street if they do not comply. Your child will either learn that education is valuable, or else will get a big lesson in reality.

Janitorial work is honorable work, and in some locations, provides a decent wage. Fast food CAN be an entry level to better things, but in reality seldom is. Both vocations teach the value of hard work and responsibility, which is just as valuable, if not more so, than book learning.

School can tend to wear on individuals that have little tolerance for overbearing authority, and when a certain point is reached, continued attendance is counter productive. Junior College is often a good alternative. There, one is treated like an adult, sink or swim on your own. There is no juvenile mickey mouse bovine excrement, and a person succeeds or fails on their own merit.

Sometimes situations such as the one you describe is simply a crying out for the rights and responsibilities of adulthood.

I was put out of the house at eighteen, and I had a rough way to go, but in the end, I am a much better person for my travails

Answer 2

no ... always advise & never give up. if there is more going on as to why he/she is failing...need to go for a professional help. my sister gave up on her daughter because she would end up just being w/the boyfriend. she is a high school drop out & has 3 kids.
The daughter regrets that she has not finish high school & wants to get her GED once her kids (ages are 5, 3, 1) grows older. Also the other daughter did not graduate because of a boyfriend too & she failed to get enough credit to graduate. She currently works at a fast food place. So I suggested to my sister to seek a counselor to help her. The counselor suggested Job Corps to help her get her GED. She will be going to a place where they offer Job Corps.

Answer 3

I would not sugar coat the matter.

My job would be to lead the child towards adulthood. If he / she wants to drop out of school, then I will assume he /she wants to take on some adult responsibilities. I would not sweeten it up at all in order that he / she would learn to see the light of day. I'd start charging for food, lodging, travel, clothes, etc.

I would make it clear that the house is mine as well as all the stuff in it. I would not allow the child to think that he / she can stay home all day and act like he / she owns the place.

Some individuals quit school, and they go on to earn their GED, and they end up making a good life for themselves.

Answer 4

start charging them rent or making them pay a bill [cell phone] etc is usually a good cure for that
in the game of life experience is your best teacher not
take my word for it
or
i told you so
there is only one way your chid will learn this lesson and thats to go broke
when he/she asks you for help
then is when you help
you cannot control everything no matter how infuriating it is
its hard watching them fall now
just like when they learned to walk
but if you are doing their laundry dishes room pet care etc
that costs time and money
so charge him/her a nominal fee
life is not a free ride
also if your state has cyber [computer] school
that may be an alternative
we have job corps in our state and thats been helpful to some famalies as well
contact his/her guidance counselor and set up a meeting for all 3 of you
put your child on the spot
and dont waste time doing it
good luck

Answer 5

I would counsel my child and let them know of the fallouts of being a drop out. How ever if they are getting too old for school I would recommend a night school. Never give up on education

Answer 6

No. You want to support your kid when he's 40? Nobody supports themselves working in fast food. My rule...go to school and do your work or move out and support yourself. Your choice. No free rides on my dime forever. Make your child strong and independent. They'll thank you when they are 40.

Answer 7

no way i would sit them down explain how important it is.going to school is not just about education,its about social skills getting good grades to help with getting a job in the future.encourage your child to go back,make a suggestion to have a meeting with the head of school along with ya child hopefully get to the root of the problem,i wish you well.im sure if they got this sorted they would do so much better,teachers would be glad to help and you child will see it being a good thing,once they see they are improving they will feel good about themself and will wanna go bk to school

Answer 8

No not on your life. They stay in school if they only brought home f after f after f. They have to send in the Marines to get them out of school if it was up to Me. I don't buy in to the Idea of giving up on anyone.

Answer 9

NO!! There are so many other things to do then LET them not care. You can beat them, ground them, take away priveleges, cut their finger nails down to stubs. Why let them drop out when you can take so much painful advantage of them until they do better?

Answer 10

education can never be exchange for any..you still have to encourage your son to stay in school.he'll need that as a fallback anytime soon.