Why do people get mad when I tell them I don't want to get married and have kids (don't want to date either)?

Answer 1

Who cares? You have the gift of free will (as do they), let them say whatever they want. You know that the path of marriage and children is not for you, so why should they get angry about a decision that you are making in your life? Did you get angry at them when they decided that they wanted to get married and have children? I am guessing you didn't. If these people are your friends or family, than they should be supportive in whatever you choose to do in life. And if they're not, do the classic thing which I do: Take it in one ear, and out the other. Works like a charm.

Answer 2

I think it depends on who the people are and your age. If it's your family getting mad, they want you to be what they label as "normal" in our society. "Normal" is settling down one day and getting married and of course that is followed by kids. There is nothing wrong with not wanting that and I think it's great that you know what you want in life (or don't want.)

And people in our society think it's horrible if someone doesn't want kids. Geeze, they are alot of responsibility and cost a fortune. I say, if you know you don't want kids then GOOD FOR YOU. How many thousands of children are born a day that were unwanted and will never get the love and attention they so deserve in this world.

Bottom line, I think you're a pretty well balanced person if you know what you want and don't want when it comes to planning your life.

Good Luck!!!

Answer 3

Usually people get upset when someone wants to be different than what they think is "normal".

I always said I never wanted to marry and I never wanted children. Frankly, I never have "liked" children...although now I realize it's the parents being incapable of raising them to be decent little people that I don't like.

I did the marriage and children thing once each. The marriage bit, mmm, not so much. The child thing...pretty good, and made me grow up. I figure my child is the only reason I didn't die young and stupidly.

You don't need to tie yourself to any decisions. You can change your mind. Instead of telling people you don't want to get married and have kids, tell them you want to focus on your education, your career, you want to save money for travel or you're going to wait until you find "Mr/Ms Right".

It isn't going to make them stop asking about it, but if you don't give them the answer that annoys them, then you don't have to hear about it.

Answer 4

Can't think of any two things that a person should be more sure about then getting married and creating a family. If know that you don't want either of these things, you are way ahead of the game!!! Don't let the b--tard's get you down!! Besides, its not like can't change your mind some where down the road, if YOU want to!!!

Answer 5

People will always be resentful to those different from them. It is either envy or fear of the unknown. You should be able to do whatever you want in life, as long as it does not hurt anybody else. That's my philosophy, anyway. So just ignore these people and keep on doing what makes you happy. (Make sure you're not actually giving people the impression that their own lifestyle is being attacked).

Answer 6

Because they are probably married with kids and can't believe that you don't want the life that they have. Almost like they feel as if you're insulting what they're living...even though you aren't. Some people are just insecure with their own lives. Just like someone I know...she hates to hear about god relationships due to hers sucks.

Answer 7

It is none of their business. Are you happy and you living a good life that that is what matters. God does not design everyone to get married and have kids and he has also designed people not to date there is MORE to life than getting married and having sex and there is more to live than having kids.

It sounds like you are very content. Good for you Listen to God
listen to your self and Enjoy your life.

Being married and having kids is not what it it is all cracked up to me meaning there are disadvantages to that also.

Life your life Enjoy your life and above all celebrate life.

Answer 8

well for a number of reasons:
first, about the dating thing, that is completely up to you & they can bang their heads to the wall if they don't agree!
second, I think they get mad because everybody wants love & wants companionship! & they think that when u say that u sound arrogant even if you don't intend to do so!
third, they think that someday you will change your mind about this issue so there's no point in pre-occupying your head with hectic ideas! it's like saying I don't wanna die ever & I wanna live forever! it's just far possible!
fourth, I used to be just like you, saying NO to love, relationship, & everything that goes with that, then of course I met a guy whom I'm thankful for meeting him! sometimes you just don't know what may happen to you in the future & what's best for you so u better just hush about it ;-) I feel embarrassed now when my friends tease me with my new love & tell me "yeah so much for never wanna get married ehh?" ;-)

Answer 9

They are being jerks. I feel the same way as you do. I have no intentions of dating, marrying, and even having kids. I am 21 year old male and never even had the thought and interest of it. I am happy as it is.

Answer 10

It is because many teenagers are sex maniacs, and cannot live without an opposite partner, but not everybody sex drive is the same. so there are people that can stay single or want to stay single for specific reasons. it is their own life nobody can say something against them. maybe they also think you are not straight.